Irrational Judgy Pants thread.

[FretYeNotAllIsShiny]

I've got new neighbours. I really doubt they are my kind of people. They've got a glittery toilet seat.

What makes you hoik up your Irrational Judgy Pants?

It's awful isn't it. My dad died suddenly just before Christmas last year and I'm still struggling with the shock of it. I have found writing uncharacteristically candid Facebook posts about it to be quite therapeutic. Hope you are OK and I'm here if you would like to talk via PM

My heart goes out to anyone who has lost someone. I think Facebook can be an enormous source of comfort and support. When family and friends can't be there in person, a virtual hug or hand hold can mean the world.

Whitney168 Thank you for the link. I think I will be surprising my husband with that over the weekend 😁.

Coastal
What about platinum? Looks the same as white gold Yellow gold doesn't suit my colouring, I wear silver jewellery so went for platinum rings 💍

Thank you decaff

To those who think leaving a FB page up after death.
People cannot delete someone else's FB page. Not unless they have the passwords

Even if they did. Can you really not imagine how incredibly difficult it would be to press that button and delete a loved one's on-line life when you have just lost them?

Are you the type of person who thinks that parents should chuck out their children's possessions, clean out their bedrooms and give their clothes to charity because 'its not healthy to have a 'shrine'. Best to 'move on'?

Or is it just being being mildly jarred by seeing a post on your FB wall about a dead person?

I suspect you don't really know what 'ghoulish' means tbh

Grapeeatingweirdo I'm sorry about your dad, it's horrific isn't it? There's a thread in bereavement for posters who've lost a parent if you'd like? It's very helpful.

And thank you x

MrsDV well said! I was redoing the kids emergency contacts for nursery and having to take my mum's name off literally floored me. Something so simple profoundly affected me with no warning.

These threads always go down an unpleasant road what started as a silly thread about glittery toilet seats ended up pulling apart people's grieving do posters not think before they post?

MrsJay 👍🏻

These are supposed to be lighthearted I dunno why some people have to just be outright nasty.

I really wouldn't waste energy in debating (or even getting bothered) about one flippant post on a very flippant thread

I very much doubt she meant in the context of losing a child either, see the "have a prosecco for me" comment

Its completely fine to acknowledge loved ones however people wish and I really don't think the comment was meant to insult anyone

People who send their kids back to school sooner than 48 hrs after end of a sickness bug...

People who call their DCs 'Babba'...

Drivers who join a roundabout that I'm already on and cut in front, because seemingly they think I'm not going straight on despite being me correctly placed on the freaking roundabout...

(That's just today's hoik-worthy moments)

People who say "nom nom nom"

yes!!!!!

I judge people with car stickers that say 'run by fairy dust'
Aw this ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼
And occupations on FB like "full time Mummy" or when people put "mummyto" in their FB name! 😤😡

People who send their kids back to school sooner than 48 hrs after end of a sickness bug...

Oh god yes!

Anyone who had a fb name that contains 'mummy', 'princess' or 'sparkles' in it.
You're a grown adult ffs.

You know what is ghoulish? The woman who posts on my local traffic watch page about who has died that day on the roads with 'so sad another life lost RIP' and a picture of the crash. She isn't even an admin

Jeez, there's a lot of miserable sods on here!
Live and let live. So what if grown ups love Disney, or glitter, or pink?
Is there a cut off age where you have to turn all sensible and boring and only like high brow stuff? Think I missed a life memo somewhere then.

Heard a mum yelling to her daughter 'Chardonnaaaaaaaaaay!' Any similar names trigger my judgy reflexes. Worst was a kid called 'Saffire'.

Is that you, Katie Hopkins?

grapeeatingweirdo you don't sound like a nice person. In fact you sound fucking awful.

Facebook statuses along the lines of...It's been three years since you grew your wings and went to heaven. Make sure you have a prosecco for me!Now, if there is such a thing as an afterlife, I'd hope there's more to do than sit about on Facebook.

That's a horrible attitude and outlook to have
How can anyone ever judge someone else for putting up a message to their loved ones after they've gone?
Maybe it makes them feel closer to them, like they're communicating with them.
Whatever helps with grief, I say.

Neon nail polish shudders. Also stiletto acrylics.

People who say 'we was' instead of 'we were'.

Hudson10 i like your post

aw, thanks