Irrational Judgy Pants thread.

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I've got new neighbours. I really doubt they are my kind of people. They've got a glittery toilet seat.

What makes you hoik up your Irrational Judgy Pants?

Ghoulish? Don't know why I find it so. It's the same as leaving all sorts of stuff like candles and ornaments on graves. I dislike it. That is just the way it is; we are all different.

Older people in sports cars? Younger people can't afford sports cars ffs.

Yes they can!

I don't think anyone should ever be judged for the way they deal with the grief of bereavement. Whether it's through social media, putting candles and ornaments on the grave, tying flowers to fences and lampposts, writing open letters to their loved one - or doing absolutely nothing at all, it's not something to be sneered at.

I agree nina, it's not at all like photos of people who have died, a facebook page that was once all about someone's life with status's and comments but now devoid of anything because that person is no longer here, i always think the same....and also very sad.

People who scrape money together for their children's private school fees but walk around looking like a sack of shit potatoes in crappy old clothes and never go anywhere on holiday because they can't afford it. They're like the modern day equivalent of Mrs Darcy, completely obsessed with their children's social mobility to the exclusion of their own quality of life. It's insane.

I judge people by the car they drive. I have been driving for a long time and certain cars attract certain people. There are cars that are bought because of how they appear to be the sort of car they think you should have.

It might be stereotyping but it works for me. Is it any coincidence that the selfish parking here is usually the beemer or the merc that seem to take up three spaces. This is not a parking thread so no diagram but basically you leave a space not quite big enough for a tiny car in front of your longer than average car and behind you.

People who can't really afford it but scrape enough money to send their kids to a mediocre private school, and then get a 4wd that will just about do at the school gates and put random personalised number plates on it to try and hide the fact that it is an old wreck.

Mike: that sounds oddly specific. I actually admire those that sacrifice so that their kids can get a good education. But I would still drive the old po

It is based loosely on someone I know but they were the sort who wanted to appear successful. Their kids would have been just fine at the local state school and their old car was fine but they wanted to be able to say that their kids went private.

Its all just status these days i think. its very depressing sometimes.

People who put their children in totally inappropriate clothing for the time of year. Usually kids or babies in jeans/ jumpers/ woolly cardigans when it's 20 degrees outside and sunny. Today I saw a baby asleep in his buggy with a thick winter cosy toes on. It's 23 degrees.

That's sad Robotic those sort of parents, who look "shit", can't afford holidays and scrape fees for private school, to me, look like the sort of parents who really value education and are willing to sacrifice material things so that their kids can get a decent education.

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I don't think anyone should ever be judged for the way they deal with the grief of bereavement. Whether it's through social media, putting candles and ornaments on the grave, tying flowers to fences and lampposts, writing open letters to their loved one - or doing absolutely nothing at all, it's not something to be sneered at.

Who is sneering?
Most of us have lost someone but we don't do things in that way. If you do things differently, then yes, in a sense you are judging or choosing your way.

Re cars:

"The terms Bimmer, Beemer or Beamer refer to BMW vehicles. However, Bimmer is the correct term for BMW cars while Beemer and Beamer are used for BMW motorcycles.21 Sep 2008"

People who say "nom nom nom"

The "funny" pages on Facebook such as Unmumsy Mum, Judgy Dog etc...you're not funny, I'm bored of you all.

"Date night with this one." THIS ONE? Oh do fuck off.

I judge people who have shit weddings. (or what I deem to be a shit wedding)

It seems as if parents who place a value on private education are envied by some. Lol

Kids with dummies constantly handing out of their mouths, especially older toddlers that can talk and they are talking with a dummy stuck in there .

I judge people who queue jump, move their bags reluctantly and sulkily from the last seat on the train, ride their bikes past passing places at 15mph with a queue of 20 cars behind them or who park over two spaces. The judgement I make is "selfish".

and i judge people who post photos online of themselves drinking alcohol at 10am judge because they are at an airport or on a train.

Oh, I stand corrected. My pal on his 4th BMW car has been referring to the beamer for all that time. What a nob.

If you do things differently, then yes, in a sense you are judging or choosing your way.

I agree that you're choosing your way, but it doesn't mean you're judging anyone else. I may be a bit over sensitive because I've just lost my mum, but I don't judge anyone for how they cope with grief. It's a deeply personal thing, and we all react differently. For me personally, my mum hated Facebook so I haven't commented on her death there beyond letting people know, but I have friends who are bereaved who regularly post things which help them work through their grief and I am supportive of that. To judge someone for the way they cope with grieving is pretty low in my opinion.

I'm terribly judgy but I really try not to be. For me, it's seeing people get married when they've already got kids; second marriages where kids are involved are different. It's so irrational and I find myself having a severe word with myself whenever I find myself judging inwardly.

For me, they're doing it in the wrong order, I think it's horrifyingly stupid to have a kid with someone who you are not married to. I really am a nice person, I promise.

Other things I judge: people who are loud in public places or shouting in the street, shirtless men in public - it says to me "this person is trouble and must be avoided" - and people who cheat on their partners (ESPECIALLY when kids are involved).

My sister left her kids for another man, went back and then cut off the family (us) who had helped her during that time. She frequently posts things on FaceAche like "my kids are my world". Really? They were really your "world" when you left them crying for a nice bit of dick. Sometimes I hate people.

I'm a little premenstrual and may regret this post.

I must add that I don't actually do anything judgy in these situations; such as glare, look funny or say anything. I just feel irrationally judgy and then have a very sharp word with myself because I must do things that are judge worthy every day.

*notreally, I'm so sorry you have lost your mum. Love to you and your family at this time

Grapeeatingweirdo thank you, I really appreciate your message.