Irrational Judgy Pants thread.

[FretYeNotAllIsShiny]

I've got new neighbours. I really doubt they are my kind of people. They've got a glittery toilet seat.

What makes you hoik up your Irrational Judgy Pants?

Facebook statuses along the lines of...
It's been three years since you grew your wings and went to heaven. Make sure you have a prosecco for me!

Now, if there is such a thing as an afterlife, I'd hope there's more to do than sit about on Facebook.

I post messages to my DD quite often on FB.
I don't know if she is looking down from Heaven or flying around the globe on fairy wings.
I just know that sometimes I am desperate to talk to her.
FB is a place people talk about and talk to their lost loved ones.
It just is.

@TheFirstMrsDV Dad's been gone 30 years and I still mention him x

Well said Mrs DV

The word 'hun'

Arguments/drama on facebook

I saw a baby last week (not walking, so under a year probably) and she had painted blue fingernails. Just why?

People who hog exercise machines while faffing on their phones for ages. I admit, I do pause for 20 seconds now and then to tie laces/change a song, but why spend the whole 10 minutes walking slowly while flicking through your phone?

I do judge slightly in the supermarket and seeing trollies full of sweets/chocolate/crisps/cake etc and not a fruit or vegetable in sight. Or when scanning a school dress, ask how old her children are (conversation) and getting a response like 'my dd's 5 and my son is 13' and the school dress is a age 6-7. Especially when the two are combined

Adults that get excited at the thought of anything Disney. Grow up for fucks sake. You're not cute, you're irritating.

Women that over-use the "mum" word (full time mum, I was out with a group of mums) etc - makes me picture women that have absolutely nothing going on in their lives other than the school run.

People that are overweight and moan about it whilst refusing to do anything about it.

Ah well that's me told. No more getting excited over Cap'n Jack

I've said it so I suppose I'd better defend it. I can totally understand why you would want to write a letter to someone close to you who is deceased.

I can't see why you'd want to speak to them on Facebook. Do you think they can see it?

I've not got a problem with people marking anniversaries if they can remember them. It's the talking as if there's wifi in heaven that grates.

watching writing a letter to a deceased person is fine because Royal Mail delivers to heaven?? Your logic doesn't make sense. If writing a message to a loved one makes a person feel in any way more connected or reduces their pain for a millisecond - does the medium really matter? Perhaps writing a message on facebook to a loved one who is dead also keeps them around in other people's heads and hearts. Some people who are grieving need that.

Obsession with Facebook is weird

I have a glittery toilet seat too, but I'm guessing you either saw it in its bag when they bought in or that you are their sort of people enough to go into their house and use their toilet. Glitter is fun, don't knock it.

I would never have thought of getting a glittery toilet seat but this thread has made me really want one.

Re tattoos and wedding dresses, I'm quite happy to see tattoos on a person's wedding day because it's a celebration of their whole being.

But I judge like Judgey McJudgerson if your dress displays only PART of your tattoo. It's like you forgot you had it Either you want to show it, in which case let's see the entire piece, or you don't, in which case cover the entire piece. I find part of a tattoo really distracting.

Ok Mandate, fair and accurate point about flawed logic there. Someone upthread has suggested they've been mentioning someone for 30 years and Facebook hasn't been around that long.

I just know that I stand by my original point that when I die, I hope none of my relatives expect me to check Facebook. Let's not forget this thread has 'irrational' in its title. I'm totally prepared for people to tell me checking Facebook is their idea of heaven.

I find part of a tattoo really distracting.

What if it's one of those up the side-boob and onto the chest/clavicle pieces?

I can't see why you'd want to speak to them on Facebook. Do you think they can see it?

Do you know how often I hear my DD's name spoken out loud or see it written down 11 years after her death?
Never.
Not unless I speak it or write it.

She is more likely to be reading FB as a letter considering she would be 25 now and how many 25 year olds receive personal letters (especially dead ones)

This is about two things. Your feelings that FB is a bit chavvy and vulgar. Your feelings that overt expressions of grief and/or emotion are vulgar and chavvy.

You just asked a bereaved mother if she imagined her dead child was reading her FB page.

I wasn't trying to shame you for having an opinion but trying to explain why people might talk to dead loved ones on social media. I mean reasons other than mawkish attention seeking which seems to be the default answer to pretty much anything on MN

In September the world (well anyone on my FB) gets treated to a photo and a message every day.

watching - better get that written into your will.

tapandgo - I completely missed the irrational bit and just went straight to the people I judge bit. You're totally right!

I'm totally prepared for people to tell me checking Facebook is their idea of heaven

WTF does that mean?

Oh and watching that's not what I said at all but don't let it get in the way of having a good old bitch, eh?

Now, if there is such a thing as an afterlife, I'd hope there's more to do than sit about on Facebook

I once wondered if there was a dead people's facebook in heaven so they could hook up with friends of friends . Keep an eye on people and so on. It struck me as a nice idea (when recently bereaved )

My friend said that the very concept of heaven meant there could NOT be facebook up there !

People who bring their kids up in a religion

My colleague who spends hundreds every couple of months on botox and lip fillers, she's not well off and has two kids. I just can't help thinking that she could spend it on the kids or anything else really, its a waste of money imo. Also I don't really think she looks any better for it, she's a pretty girl naturally.

What if it's one of those up the side-boob and onto the chest/clavicle pieces?

Then I'm distracted by thoughts of the bride's side boob when I'm meant to be contemplating the sanctity of marriage. Like I said: distracting.

Facebook in heaven ! Can you imagine?
Poems for 'those left on earth ' would feature heavily.

I have a friend who is very rational and I studied with, then she started going to a Spiritualist Church, where they would sing things like I believe in angels (Abba). I think it was after a parent died and she started trying to contact him i was quite surprised by this.