Husband made me get up at 5am to shower on a Saturday.

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I am a bit of a sweaty sleeper. I sleep naked and in thin sheets to try and combat the issue. I also sweat more if I have a nightmare (happened last night) and currently have a cold so a raised temperature.
I woke up at 5 am this morning. DH woke up too and told me I "well sweaty" last night. I explained I had a nightmare. He said you need a shower which I took as a joke as obviously I would shower when I got up. About 20 minutes later he was like "if you aren't going back to sleep you should go have a shower now"
I have now had a shower. I feel disgusting and embarrassed and like I must stink! AIBU to think DH could have waited till a sensible time to guilt trip me? I shower everyday and showered twice yesterday as I was out for the evening so hopefully I didn't smell completely rotten. I just feel so gross and embarrassed now

If you are sweaty you can get wicking nightwear, bed linen, mattress toppers and duvets which stop you (and your partner) getting wet and clammy in the night. Usually made of Coolmax or similar, same as sportswear.
Was brilliant for my Dad when he got nightsweats when he was ill. Cotton PJs help, wicking is even better.

Have a google - usually v noticeable marketed to menopausal women.

On the other hand, your partner making you go and have a shower at 5am is a dick move.

Latenightreader I had a similar experience when my B12 deficiency was sorted. No more vinegary night sweats!

I'm weird about sweat. I'd have to sleep separately just to stop myself saying stuff like this!

I used to have horrific night sweats - full on compete change of bedclothes needed. No way would I have subjected DH to that so we slept in separate bedrooms for a while. Doctors didn't find anything wrong, but switching to soya milk helped. Your DH is not being entirely unreasonable.

I noticed after I kicked the man out of my life I sweat less at night.

Do you have the bedroom window open at night? Some cool air might help

If you still want to be with someone who tells you what to do and tells you to get out of your own bed at 5am... just get single beds or sleep in separate rooms.

I suffer with bad night sweats and my husband is very supportive. We deal with it in a humerous manner.

However, what stuck out for me is that he 'made' you have a shower. Regardless of the time.

Assuming you're more than capable of deciding when you need a shower, are you mishearing him? Or is he just being an unreasonable bastard in making you have a shower?

And as in PP, I would get those night sweats checked out.

Luckily I only sweat this bad two nights before I'm due in, I'm counting down to the change!

Mwahahahaha
'The change' - famous for hot flushes, and night sweats from hell night after night after night.

Brittbugs80 I'm the same.
I wake up and it looks like I had a worklut, with sweat coming through my pjs, wet bed, etc. Luckily DH says he doesn't mind and that he finds it sexy I'm quite sure he says it so I don't feel too self conscious though

I'm a night sweater too. PJs, even light cotton ones, make it worse. I sleep in underwear under a cotton sheet in the summer, a summer weight duvet in the winter, and have the window open year round. Mostly that controls it but not always. DW gets cold at night bless her! She's never once told me to go and have a shower. She mocks me gently but never complains.

Without being too indelicate here, is it just the sweat or does this cause you to have BO too? If the latter, then your DH may have a point.

Otherwise, having a shower may make you smell sweeter, but will actually make you hotter i.e. sweat more.

I'd have showered and come back to strip the bed.
Cheeky fucker

OP your husband is an insensitive fuckwit I wonder what else has come out of his twatty brain

You feel gross and embarrassed, that is awful. Your partner made you feel gross and embarrassed, that is simply horrible and cruel. Your partner should make you feel the complete opposite to that and cheer you up if you ever to feel like that. If that's what a partner makes you feel like who needs one! How dare he make you feel like that. Hope you feel better soon

After much research it does seem that sugar increases night sweating, and that eating a little orange peel / pith might reduce night sweating [as recommended during menopause].

Truly I believe the "Eat Right 4 Your Type" regime would seem almost miraculous to many people, so if any sufferers definitely know their blood group you can find the lists here:

www.backstromwellness.com/eat-right-for-your-type <

You may well see differences in 3 days.
It works for me.

Hmm he perhaps could have said it in a nicer way. But I can understand why he would have said it. I went through an awful patch of night sweats, that really wasn't helped by us getting a memory foam topped mattress (and DH refuses to change it ). But when I went for my annual check up at GPs, they soon ran some bloods when I mentioned it and I have a Mirena coil to help with menopause symptoms and medication as I'm also diabetic. It's a million times better now, and I only get the very rare night where I wake up uncomfortable. A cool thin cotton nightie (thanks to the granny section at M & S) really helps as that absorbs the sweat rather than the sheets.
I would get it checked out just to be on the safe side, it could be something very simple to deal with.

Ehh, sounds like your husband needs a bit of empathy. You just told him that you were so sweaty because you had a nightmare. Instead of telling you how stinky you are and that you need to wash yourself, he could have at least said, are OK now?

I sweat a lot when I'm having a bad dream or toss and turn. I had a really bad nightmare, woke up in a bad sweat, and my husband hugged me until the nightmare passed. He sure as hell didn't tell me to go shower.

On the other hand, I've been next to a sweaty guy, when my husband was ill. I didn't make him go shower, I just turned the fan on him so he'd cool down. I also took off the top duvet and gave him a smaller blanket. The next morning I changed the sheets, and when he naturally woke up, I told him how sweaty he was the night before and he showered on his own.

My point is that there's a nice way to say this, rather than telling you to go shower at 5am. If you were still awake, it could have been to get your bearings after a bad nightmare, and then go back to sleep.

Just coming on to say the eat for your blood type diet is total rubbish, and has been completely debunked (why anyone on earth would think there was any relationship between blood type and what you should eat is beyond me - what a bizarre idea.)

In the hot night sweats phase, I slept on a lovely velvety soft comfy large towel on my side of the bed.

I get really hot and sweaty just before my period, or if I have a cold. My partner often sleeps in the spare room then, because I can thrash a lot and disturb him. I think it wasn't said in a very nice way, but not entirely unreasonable. (Both of us have the cold right now and my period is due on Friday - not a good combination!)

I sleep hot too, although I don't usually sweat excessively. Here are a few suggestions: King size bed so that you aren't sweating over insensitive DH, cotton night clothes to absorb sweat, cool shower and deodorant before going to bed, fan/free standing air conditioner in bedroom. Maybe visit Dr again and tell him/her this story so that Dr will try to find a solution. Otherwise separate beds. Good luck and hope your DH develops some empathy.

Hi Sorry if what I am saying is irrelevant. I confess to reading most but not all responses. Something occurred to me. You said you were out the night before. Just a thought but if a person sweats after having a drink (even if it's not much) it can make them smell. Could this be the case?
Maybe he's being unsympathetic to what ever is happening with you. Maybe other posters are right and get us just being a that. But if he doesn't usually say anything I would wonder what the difference is... could it be that?

Just to add to what kurrikurri said. The very site linked attempts to avoid any responsibility by saying.

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