Re woman on bus and mobile phone

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I was on a bus earlier. A young woman in her 20s was on her phone yacking away at top volume from the minute she got onto the bus; finishing one call and immediately calling someone else. This went on for about 20 minutes and eventually a middle aged woman sitting directly in front of her turned around and said 'Can you please just stop shouting into your phone and show some consideration. You're doing my head in'.

Younger woman looked a bit shocked but ended her call and we all got a bit of peace.

AIBU to wish I had the courage to do something similar. I am fed up of people around me gabbing away loudly into their phones on public transport, barely pausing to draw breath for the entire journey.

This is something that I SO want to do frequently. I get sick to death of people on buses who are incapable of talking quietly,or even normally on a phone in a public place. One guy who's a regular on my local bus route was sitting at the back of the bus one day,shouting his gob off as usual. My exP was with me and after about 10 minutes of this,he turned round and snapped 'Can you shut up please?! We don't all want to hear your conversation'. Mr. Gobby looked furious and I thought there was going to be a scene,but he thought better of it and actually did start talking a lot more quietly. I am very wary about saying anything to people like this as I've witnessed too many nasty incidents where someone has had the courage to say something and got a tirade of abuse,or even threats in return.

Glad you find it so amusing that you're probably pissing half the bus off.

Half the bus need to chill the fuck out; do you complain about people using their phones in other public spaces? Restaurants, cafes, bars, streets, parks, trains?

Star lighter -

Yes, if someone was shouting into their phone in a restaurant or on the train or any other enclosed space I would find it annoying Hurtle.

Why do people need to chill out? Are we not entitled to request a bit of consideration from others?

I'm quite often glued to the screen if not with my kids.

Because I'm autistic noise, lots of people and vibrations the bus make all stress me out massively. Looking at my phone gives a distraction and makes it all a bit more bearable.

I also use it in the school playground when waiting for the kids as I haven't a clue how to do chit chat to the other parents. Put it down the second the kids are about though.

So she was shouting now?

Not yacking at top volume?

I would add that I have no problem with people on public transport TALKING on their phones. It's the shouting that gets me. Do they not realise that just because the person they're talking to may be miles away they don't need to bellow? Honestly,the conversations that I've overheard on buses. Everything from attending the STD clinic to the abortion that they had a few weeks ago! It seems that to some people,no topics are off limits for public listening.

Half the bus IS trying to chill the fuck out but they can't because of some moppet shouting inane nonsense, and believing they are "cool" because they know someone in Australia.

They're the same thing Hurtle. If you want to argue with me at least do so properly and stop trying to twist my words. Sign of someone losing the argument.

I have no problem really with someone who has a quiet convo on the bus on their phone.

But some people are incapable of speaking in a tone that is anything other than SHOUTING AT FULL VOLUME FOR THE ENTIRE CONVERSATION.

It is fucking horrific, massively rude and inconsiderate. And I get the bus a lot now as I am pregnant with SPD so no longer cycle or walk (which is quiet, peaceful bliss).

And honestly, there does seem to be a definite correlation between the volume that someone insists on talking at and the unpleasantness of their conversation. So also makes me feel like they're not oblivious to what they're doing

A few months ago I was sitting in front of someone on a bus who was talking to her travel agent. By the time I got off I knew her full name, address, credit card number, date of birth, passport number and the dates she was away.

Imagine what I could have done with that info. Some people just lack self-awareness I think.

Abra it's because you can only hear one side of the conversation, so subconsciously your brain is working to fill in what the other person will be saying. Or something like that.

I think a quick phone conversation on public transport is fine, but a long chat is unreasonable, especially if it's loud. I don't have a problem with people checking Facebook or whatever though, how is that any different to reading a book/doing a crossword?!

op you sound like a misery

Hurtle - You're clearly one of those annoying people on the bus. What is the difference between shouting and yacking at top volume? NONE! They are both the same thing.

dunno, not sure if it is exactly 'brave' for a middle aged woman to tell off a younger woman. I wonder if she would have done the same to a man her own age having a similar conversation.

I saw a conductor on a train telling off a teenage girl for having her feet up on the opposite seat yesterday, but then walked past the large tattooed man who was doing the same thing plus listening to music on phone via speakers rather than headphones.

It just pisses me off that women are judged in this way, whereas men are more likely to get away with doing something equally antisocial and or/annoying. Women's actions are more heavily judged and policed than men, even by other women.

I am well aware I've gone off on a tangent - but to be fair I couldn't care less what other people are doing while sitting on a bus as long as they do it at a reasonable volume. Yes loud one-sided phone conversation is annoying, but so is loud conversation between two people, or constant sniffing, music playing, etc.

I'm bemused at people judging others using their phones to relax - seriously a) what could they realistically be doing that is significantly more productive while on a limited location such as on a bus
b)you're assuming they're all faffing around on facebook -
they could be reading war & peace, doing online banking, replying to a work email or pretty much anything, and
c)who is sad enough to care about other people's actions when said actions don't have the slightest effect on their own lives?

Ah, so you used the term interchangeable - shouting to be depicts emotion.

No argument here - I have no issue with people using their phones in public, you do. I see no reason why that needs to be argued about?!

Ah-ha, Curiouser.

Well, as most posters on the thread agree with me I presume you think they're all miseries as well Myheart

I love listening in to other people's calls and conversations but I am really just very nosey

It's not phone use that's the problem though. It's LOUD PHONE USE that pisses me off.

I don't care if it's someone with no filters sharing their whole life with a carriage or bus full of strangers, or some clueless twat mistakenly thinking I'd be impressed with their latest purchase or deal. I don't care.

I'm probably on Mumsnet anyway...

My bus is fullb of noise. People chatting.kids crying.etc. i dont expect peace and quiet on a bus.

I really dislike loud talking in crowded places, but I also dislike people being as rude as Middle-Aged Woman. I am also a Middle-Aged Woman who asks people to turn down music and speak quietly but I try to be polite.

I was once jammed into a crowded, steamed up bus on a warm rainy day having to listen to a horrible row because Man 1 couldn't manage to ask Man 2 to tone down the (atrocious) volume on his mobile phone calls without being rude and aggressive. Man 2 responded in kind and they then traded insults and immature agrguments for about 20 minutes, leaving the rest of the bus worse off than before.

Let's just say the tone of your post didn't exactly sound like someone who wasn't arguing.

I agree with not caring what someone is doing on their phone, I honestly couldn't muster the energy to give a shit. It's only if it's impacting on other people that it bothers me.

I wonder if the man wasn't addressed because he's simply more intimidating compared to a young girl? Certainly doesn't make it acceptable though.

I agree with not caring what someone is doing on their phone, I honestly couldn't muster the energy to give a shit. It's only if it's impacting on other people that it bothers me.

I wonder if the man wasn't addressed because he's simply more intimidating compared to a young girl? Certainly doesn't make it acceptable though.