or is DH about me squeezing milk out of my breast?

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DS (1yo) is losing interest in BF-ing and we're down to one a day, if that. I am starting to get some soreness in my breasts now he is skipping some feeds. I feel sad about him stopping, but not much I can do if that's what he wants. He prefers the faster flow of bottles (I can't use a pump, but that's a different story.)

I fed him just now on the sofa because my breasts were sore, and afterwards was hand expressing a little bit and grumbling to DH about how DS is stopping and I'm sad. I then squirted a stream of milk out of one breast to show DS the flow (sometimes when he sees this he latches back on) and DH jumped up from the sofa and screamed loudly. Why did you do that? What the hell is wrong with you? You're so weird (as in you have a personality problem.)

I said I am just expressing, I didn't mean it to be as forceful as that.

He said "people don't do that" (squirt milk across a room) Well no they don't, but I didn't intend it to be that much. He made me feel like a pariah. He said he found it very squeamish and shocking.

I have BF two DC all in full view of DH before, so don't really understand why he can't stand this aspect of it.

I said your reaction is very hurtful, it was a mistake and I am having problems here because I am in pain and I am also sad that DS is stopping.

He told me that I was projecting my sadness on to him and that it is nothing to do with him. And that he just cannot understand the concept of why I would choose to squirt it across the room instead of express it properly.

He wants me to forget about it now but I feel upset. AIBU?

Has he always been this uncomfortable with bfing? Seems an extreme reaction, I'm sorry you had to deal with that, you did nothing wrong (except perhaps making your sofa smell of sour milk 😁)

He needs to get a grip.

That's ridiculous. His reaction, I mean. I'd be hurt, too.

Your DH is BU.

I sometimes squirt milk into DS's mouth (he loves it and thinks it's funny) I've never thought to ask DH if he was offended.

Did you clean it up after squirting it across the room?

I'd be pissed off that anyone spilled milk across a room. Because I bet they wouldn't wipe up properly and my rug would be ruined.

However, I'll bet dollars to doughnuts that the squeamish and shocking reaction is to do with breasts being sexual and men having issues with them being demonstratively not.

I think his reaction was over the top, but to be honest I'd find it odd if someone squirted milk across the room to encourage their child to continue feeding, and not clean it up straight away!

I'd be very hurt and upset too, so unsupportive. Totally ridiculous attitude.

DH finds it hilarious to see how far I can squirt milk

I would be pissed off if a child never mind an adult squirted liquid, of any description, across a room!

What a weird thing to get upset about?! I think my DH would just laugh if I squirted milk across the room! Very strange reaction from your DH, sounds like he's looking for things to pick at you about.

I did this regularly (hand express extra milk) when DS was cutting down BFs and I was in danger of getting engorged. Usually in the shower, to be fair, but your DH needs to let go of his 'what people do with their breastmilk' expert crown...

So sorry that this is unhelpful but I've laughed so hard at this and I've really needed it! Squirting milk to attract your son to latch on, just the image in my head is hilarious! Ps your OH is BU

Oh well I'm a weirdo too then OP. Sometimes if my babies seemed a little irritable I would pinch the nipple to see if milk was flowing and was then nonplussed by the fact that indeed so much milk was there that I could squirt it across baby's face (they often ended up with a milk shower yep). My DH used to crack up laughing/applaud. I used to squirt milk deliberately into their eyes when they had an eye infection, it used to clear up straight away so I never had to bet fusidic acid, DH not only supported that but held babies straight/firmly for me so I could get a better aim. Your husband is the anomaly as far as I am concerned.

If my DH used the word 'projecting' to attack me, in a conversation where he ought to be apologising for his over-reaction, then I might fling a projectile at him.

Does he find it difficult to apologise?

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And I used to give babies a milk shower by mistake not on purpose

You purposely squirted milk across the room and didn't clean it up immediately. I bet you do this a lot and your DH's reaction might have been more of a straw that broke the camel's back.

Everyone who's breastfed has at some point accidentally squirted the room, it's just one of the joys and dignities of parenting.

Honestly, it's milk, not piss. It's a perfectly harmless, in fact highly beneficial substance, the only thing explicitly intended in nature for humans to consume.

If he really can't understand that sometimes that happens in breastfeeding, especially if you're painfully engorged, then he needs to worry less about your boobs and more about his own brain cells, because they don't appear to be present or active.

I sometimes squirted milk AT dh across the room while he was watching tv. Yes I'm very childish but it was funny!!

Its milk, itll stain and smell when it goes off - I'd be unimpressed at someone firing a squirt of milk from any source across a room.

Everyone ignore Groupie123 or it'll only get worse.

Groupie

a) She has said nothing about not cleaning it up
b) That's not what her DP was complaining about anyway
c) You have no evidence that she "does this a lot"

You squirted milk across the room? I'd react the same as your DP tbh.

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Oh shit. Too late. Does she 'do it all the time'

I doubt OP squirted milk across the room on purpose, sometime that's just how it happens I hit the ceiling once