DS (1yo) is losing interest in BF-ing and we're down to one a day, if that. I am starting to get some soreness in my breasts now he is skipping some feeds. I feel sad about him stopping, but not much I can do if that's what he wants. He prefers the faster flow of bottles (I can't use a pump, but that's a different story.)
I fed him just now on the sofa because my breasts were sore, and afterwards was hand expressing a little bit and grumbling to DH about how DS is stopping and I'm sad. I then squirted a stream of milk out of one breast to show DS the flow (sometimes when he sees this he latches back on) and DH jumped up from the sofa and screamed loudly. Why did you do that? What the hell is wrong with you? You're so weird (as in you have a personality problem.)
I said I am just expressing, I didn't mean it to be as forceful as that.
He said "people don't do that" (squirt milk across a room) Well no they don't, but I didn't intend it to be that much. He made me feel like a pariah. He said he found it very squeamish and shocking.
I have BF two DC all in full view of DH before, so don't really understand why he can't stand this aspect of it.
I said your reaction is very hurtful, it was a mistake and I am having problems here because I am in pain and I am also sad that DS is stopping.
He told me that I was projecting my sadness on to him and that it is nothing to do with him. And that he just cannot understand the concept of why I would choose to squirt it across the room instead of express it properly.
He wants me to forget about it now but I feel upset. AIBU?