Or just incredibly spoiled?

[Neoflex]

Sorry in advance for the epic post.

My husband and I have 2 anniversaries: the day we signed the papers and the day we had the party.

For party anniversary, husband wanted to go back to where we got married, which is his home country. I did not want to travel because I am 4 months pregnant but he persuaded me as it would be a nice holiday. So far it hasn't turned out that way.

1. he decided we would do a detour to the city where he went to uni so he could see friends. I am not a fan of said city and protested but he promised it would just be a couple of nights then we could have 2 weeks at the beach.

2. husband booked us on Ryanair flight even though he knows my one principle in life which is to never fly Ryanair.

3)) I wanted to stay at a hotel but he wanted to stay with friends. Those friends canceled so we had to end up staying with other friends who do not have a guest-suitable flat. It has no doors between rooms. It is 30 degrees with no air conditioning. No curtains on the windows. The bathroom is between the two rooms so you have to disturb each other if you need to pee. And the room where we are sleeping is full of junk that I keep tripping over to turn on the light. One other thing that doesn't bother me but will have mumsnetters nickers in a twist: they are growing cannabis on their balcony.

4. we ended up spending our actual anniversary in this city. Where by the way taxis do not have seat belts and drive like maniacs so getting to the restaurant was dicing with death. But the meal was fantastic and thought this could save the day

5. after meal went for lovely little walk through city and I was ready for bed but husband wanted to go to a festival where friends were. I agreed to go for a but wanted to go home early

6. arrived and sat in warm spot on a hill far from crowd. Listened to music and watched sunset. Was nice. Then friends call who are sat close to stage and want us to move there. I want to stay put. He wants to move. Of course he gets his way again and we move, but on condition we won't stay long

7. get there. It's wet and noisy and I'm pretty annoyed. Then husband gets call from friend who had come to meet us on hill, asking where we were.

8. drunk friend from hill slips and seriously injures himself on his way to find us. Passer by helps friend who tells him to call my husband for help.

9. husband and a friend, call him Ted, go to help and there i am sat with this teds wife who I don't know and can barely speak English for 3 whole hours. It's cold, it's wet, I'm pregnant and tired.

10. Ted returns but not my husband. Apparently my husband went to the hospital with drunk friend who needs surgery for a broken leg. Doesn't call me just sends his friend to tell me. They will take me back to the place I am staying once I am ready to go home.

11. husband gets back at 3 in morning. He is clearly tired from the ordeal and still sleeping 10 of clock today even though we were meant to be getting up and leaving this shit hole bright and early today. I'm sat here sweating hungry and extremely pissed off in someone else's flat just waiting for him to wake up.

Aibu or has he ruined our anniversary and do I have the right to be so ffff* angry right now? Or should I be grateful he tried to celebrate our anniversary at all? And I mean what could he do. Just leave his injured friend?

Well presumably her DH was not like this before she married him eatabagofdicks

Grab your bag, call a death trap cab, and head to the airport.

Thinking about it some if this seems down to finances.

If you have unlimited budget then it's fine to ban using low price airlines because you don't like them and staying in hotels because it's more suitable than staying with friends.

However if cost is a restriction then certain compromises have to be made. Personally I'd get over my Ryanair issues but insist on a hotel room.

The staying with friends doesn't sound great, so perhaps would have been better with a hotel or apartment but it's actually legal in Spain (which is one possible guess as to where we are talking about - I don't think Ryanair fly to Algeria) for people to grow one cannabis plant per person for personal use, plenty of people do it. I know someone who does and he actually works in law enforcement.

Not flying Ryanair on principle is very much 'cutting your nose off to spite your face' but that's your choice.

Some aspects of this holiday sound fine and some not great, but it sounds very much that it's what you make of it and you sound a bit determind not to enjoy yourself TBH.

One presumes you have your own plastic? You should have booked a decent hotel, there is no way in hell I'd be staying on the floor of some crappy flat.

I think your DH has been unreasonable, especially dragging you to the stage of a festive at 4 months pregnant.

Ryanair. They have screwed me so many times in my younger days

Once checked me in advance Algerian and made me pay to change it It is very likely that this was your mistake when booking.

Air hostesses treating you like a criminal They always seem perfectly pleasant and helpful to me, especially given that they are worked hard by a mercenary employer.

Too hot. No legal room No worse than any other budget airlines and I almost always find planes too cold.

Always delayed. Listened goes on They are actually one of the most punctual airlines in the business. It's a key part of their business model.

Ryanair do have their faults, but you can't deny that they've helped make air travel very accessible to lots of people. Especially those of us far away from the London airports that have hardly any service to Europe from the flag carriers.

Yes Barbara - I know it's not the point of this thread, but I can't get over the blind hatred of Ryanair that the OP and some other people seem to have.

When I'm looking to go somewhere, the first thing I do is check the time and date of flights, then the price, then and only then if there is any choice, the airline flying. As I live near one regional airport only, if I didn't fly Ryanair then I'd have the choice of a long drive and additional car parking costs or having to do a stop rather than having a direct flight. Both options seem infinitely more stressful to me than flying with Ryanair.

I find it weird that someone's enjoyment of a holiday would be totally marred by the choice of airline and I must admit if I was the OP's DH I'd probably think she was joking about the diktat and ignore it.

We have more than enough money. It amazes me so many people defending Ryanair. You all must have Stockholm syndrome. Just kidding... I also had no choice due to finances in the past but now I am at a place in life where I don't need to put myself through that.

Also same goes for the hotel. We are moving out into a spa today. I do have my own plastic but was just letting my husband have his own way.

Loved the trip advisor joke. If this was a TA review I would give this holiday 0 stars so far. The fact is this was sold to me as some sort of anniversary treat (that I didn't ask for btw) and has turned into the holiday from hell.

To answer my own question I was being a tad unreasonable. I woke up hot hungry thirsty and no patience left. Now we have been out for breakfast and it turns out the guy is much more injured than communicated to me last night. Still, for the rest of the trip is want to stay somewhere comfortable and I am putting my foot down.

Ps we are not in Algeria but it's definitely no Spain either and here cannabis is punished as severely as heroin. Still, not my problem.

Glad you've got things sorted OP - insisting on decent accommodation is a good

Slightly off topic but its nice to see i wasnt the only one who was bored rigid having to visit relatives back home

I really don't understand the negative responses you've had here OP. I hope the rest of your holiday is better.

Yeah this sounds pretty horrible. Have been dragged around on similar trips in my past and it's pretty awful.

You do know this is mumsnet and not trip advisor?

I don't think you're cut out for travelling op

YANBU
Sounds awful when pregnant tbh, get to a hotel and learn from it. First priority is yourself when pregnant and I'd certainly be wanting my home comforts and not sitting in the rain for hours.

Enjoy the rest of your trip

So basically it's two days with his mates then two weeks at the beach in the holiday of your choice. I also think you wer going to whinge whatever and not do the two days with good grace

For me you're being unreasonable, because compromise is important in relationships and this is all about you and your wants.

For me you're being unreasonable, because compromise is important in relationships and this is all about you and your wants.

The point is actually that the husband has refused to compromise and the trip has been all about him and his wants, despite the fact he wife is 4 months pregnant.

Bluntness did you even read the OP and her later post? The whole holiday was the husbands idea, she didn't want to travel, he wanted to see his Dad. Don't let facts get in the way of your snarky post though eh?

Not flying Ryanair on principle is very much 'cutting your nose off to spite your face' but that's your choice.

I don't use Ryanair on principle

I'm certainly not cutting off my nose to spite my face as I rapidly discovered that the end to end price with Ryanair was more than scheduled in some cases.

Their business case relies on people not understanding the full cost of getting from A to B and the treatment of their staff (last time I looked, staff bore all the costs of training & uniform to find themselves based in the arse end of the universe at local rates). Ex Ryanair cabin crew, having borne the cost of training can find themselves struggling to get a job with mainstream airlines. That isn't true for eg ex Easyjet staff.

Then there is the treatment of disabled people who were actively discriminated against until a court case forced change. Its still a challenge.

Like Uber, its not cheap for nothing - someone is paying.

heir business case relies on people not understanding the full cost of getting from A to B

Why do people still trot out this shit? The ryanair website is so easy to understand a toddler and a chimp could get themselves on a flight of their choice. All costs are upfront and could not be clearer or better signposted.
If you can't understand the costs you have the IQ of a potato.

the full cost of getting from A to B

Which bit of "getting from A to B" was not clear to your towering intellect? Are you their PR?

WTF are you even talking about?
Which costs are not clear to you? You seem confused.

You and your husband sound as bad as each other, frankly. He isn't being considerate regarding where you're staying - I don't think many women, pregnant or not, want to stay in an apartment with no privacy. Equally, your Ryanair thing and 'two anniversaries' makes you sound like a demanding whinger.

I think you sound s bit precious and selfish.

Like a pp poster said, I agree you would have found fault with anything.

Being pregnant doesn't mean that every mumsnetter will be on your side.