To send him to a premier inn?

[Orangeseed]

DH has just stumbled in at 2o'clock having been out to a venue which shut at 11. Incidentally the venue is about 10 minutes drive away and it was a strip show he had been to watch.

I'm now 8months into a difficult pregnancy and feeling totally pissed off!

I've sent him to sleep in the spare room tonight but would I be unreasonable to send him to a premier inn tmw?!

Wrong emoji sorry

Why don't you get nights out and why are you not free ??

Have RTET sorry OP

Please listen to what people say here and start a plan

Marathon not a sprint remember that

He's still got all the power, he won't go because he's "done nothing wrong" and I can't force him out as legally its his home.

My only option right now is some sort of hostel or bedsit etc but then my DC would suffer

Orangeseed your children will be suffering regardless from the unspoken tension in the home.

What about the rental property? Is it currently occupied?

Why did you choose the have children with this man? After 5 years of never going out you got pregnant, why didn't you leave straight away? Do you think more people need to grow up with abusive fathers? That makes you as bad as him. You should be protecting the children you have not having more. Just because they seem happy does not been they aren't effected!

You can move to the flat yu are renting.
If that feta is half IS then so is the house yu are currently living in.

Please don't assume you can't leave and yummy will have to go to a hostel. Get some legal advice ASAP.
Move to the flat and take your dcs with you.

It doesn't have to be today but please get some stuff lined up and get out.
Don't tell him your plans either. If it's easier, keep a low profile until y U are moving.
But do NOT stay

You are wrong that he has all the power btw.
He doesn't.
You are married and are entitle to half of what you have together. Incl the savings and whatever is in the bank.
You CAN help yourself from that. That's OK.
You CAN move in a flat you own.
You CAN move out of that house if he doesn't leave wo gong into a bedsit.

Please go and see a lawyer. Reclaim your power. And don't think he can do whatever he wants but you can't. That's not the reality. That's what he has trained you to think.

Orange without a doubt your children will already be affected. At 7, I knew, and blamed myself. And when my daughter hit 7 it became clear to me that she was already minimising and excusing her fathers behaviour, and constantly on eggshells. She's 11 now and I wish I had left him sooner. I fear she'll need ongoing support with her own self image in order to avoid history repeating again in her future relationships.

You will need help leaving; women's aid are there for you.

He'll pull every trick in the book to get you back on side, but he'll never actually change.

Ignore the ignorant poster who says you're foolish. These abusers are extremely manipulative, and they target caring, kind people.

And don't fear being lonely. You'll find yourself, and when you know you deserve better you'll find someone who can treat you with respect, care and love.