To bring kids home from swimming in pyjamas at 5 pm?

[fredandjohn]

I wouldn't be asking this question if his swimming finished at 7 pm or whatever, but it finishes at 5, we leave there at 5:30 in pyjamas. Is it unreasonable? He has a proper shower there. He is normally very tired that day (he's 4) so doesn't do much when home only plays with his toys in lounge.

AIBU?

Oh god it's fine. He's 4. You're going straight home.

Can't get worked up over this to be honest. You're literally going from the pool/leisure centre, to the car and then into your house. It's not like you're taking him out for a slap up meal afterwards.

YANBU. You're hurting no one and it works for you. Anyone who is horrified by this needs to get a life.

Looks common?

If the best thing you can find to feel snobby about is other peoples kids wearing pyjamas in the fucking car home from swimming, you have one sad life.

I think anyone who uses the term 'common' to describe people/behaviours come across as incredibly snobby.

I see lots of people doing it but find it gross. I don't mind PJs being worn wherever but it's the hygiene. Our swim changing rooms have mouldy parts and are used by hundreds of kids. I personally shove a towel hoody thing over the swimwear and put on crocs/flips, get kids home v quickly and then get properly washed

My finish swimming at 6 & usually change into their pjs. There's no harm at all

I'm terribly judgy of adults who wear PJs in public, but why would you even give a 4 year old in PJs a second thought?

Of course YANBU! Literally everyone does it round here. I've also be known to come out of the sea (in the colder months) and just stick a dressing gown on until I can get home and warm up in the bath. I still take sleepsuits to the beach with us now, even though the kids are older, just in case they are cold after being in the sea.

It's not the same as adults wandering round Tesco in their pj's. It's just practical.

I do exactly the same with mine and he's 6. He has a swimming lesson, shower and hair wash and then into his onesie if it's not hot out or shortie pjs if it is. I take him for a panini at the leisure centre cafe (It's our 'dinner date' night) which then means I can focus on 7mo dd in the evening.

I don't give a second thought to children in PJs - probably because we're campers and all the kids wear onesies from early evening until late morning while camping. People describing it as common make my teeth itch.

funny old world - children living in poverty, women sold into slavery, nations fighting civil wars, people dying from horrible illnesses and it is really really important that a child aged 4 is only seen in public wearing appropriate clothing (presumably eton collar and suit I would hope!) if folks stopped caring so much about such minor things and started caring more about their communities and helping others have better lives, then we might have a better society, but perhaps it is easiest to feel good by putting others down?

It just looks lazy and common
I see lots of people doing it but find it gross
I think it's a bit unhygienic
Yuck I absolutley hate this at any time

really?! oh dear...

I do this, swimming lessons at exact same time as you OP, 4 year old DS as well. I thought it was genius when I saw other Mums doing it. Makes it much easier when DS is shattered after preschool and swimming.

Ignore the cockwombles judging you. They clearly have so little going on in their lives they clutch at anything that makes them feel superior.

It's not really important that a children are only seen in public in day clothes but then it isn't important that adults are either. It seems odd to be judgey about one (as many people are) but not the other. I wouldn't put PJs on after swimming (I swim quite late in the evening) because I don't want to wear bedclothes outside for hygiene reasons as much as anything. The same applies for my children. It would be different if it really was time-saving but I can't see how it saves more than about 30s.

I still take sleepsuits to the beach with us now, even though the kids are older, just in case they are cold after being in the sea.

Do they go to bed in the same sleepsuits after they have been in the sea/on the beach?

Of all the things I worry about in life this doesn't even register ..

For the ones who can't get there head round it I once took my DS to parents evening , school is next to swimming pool in his onesie , He was 8 do you know what. He never asks to go to school in his pj's..He knows the difference.

Also It isn't about particualry I can't be bothered to get him changed again. I do not plan to wash 3 outfits from one day, uniform, clothes and Pj's. I don't have a drier and don't plan to do extra loads of washing in case someone has a negative opinion

There would be less washing if the child was put again the next day in the clothes they wore from the pool to home and to dinner. But would that be hygienic?

Of course the key questions that everyone seems to be avoiding are:
Are these pjs washed every day?
Do the children wear underwear under their pjs?

I love those saying she shouldn't do it because 'its common'.

So it suits her, makes life easier, is a logical solution, but no no, she shouldn't because a bunch of hyacinth bouquets on the internet are going to clutch their pearls.

Okaaay then. That's totally convincing.

See this a lot in the evening swimming classes round here.

I never did it, probably because I never thought of it! I certainly wouldn't judge anyone who did.

I'm a bit puzzled by the unhygienic bit... Unless they're wading through swamps on their way back, a bit of fresh air won't do their clothes any harm, they're breathing into their lungs ffs! All this neurosis about hygiene is itself unhealthy!... those focussed on hyper-exaggerated physical risks they don't see the mental harm that the associated anxiety does!

To me coconutella the hygiene problem isn't the journey home/air/whatever, it's the changing room floors and benches. Ours are absolutely rank, mould (badly in need of refurb), brown smears on floor etc - don't want my kids pjs near that filth and also showers weak as piss with verucca germ floors. Like to get clean at home and shove the swim kit straight in wash. We got veruccas when kids were little but I think using crocs helps.

YANBU. I don't see why other people get so worked up about it!

I am firmly in the pyjamas are for bed camp.

My almost 4yo finishes swimming lessons at half 5 too... it's actually unusual at our pool for a child not to leave in pjs! Most arrive in nursery/school clothes, I'd much rather take her home in clean comfortable pjs then put her dirty clothes back on tbh

Yep did this, pjs then drove home, dinner and bed. Worked well.

I do, it's much easier!