AIBU?
MIL and GMIL overbearing perfume
Savelli · 05/07/2017 18:14
My MIL and grandmother in law wear really pungent heavy perfume in copious quantities. I swear they bathe in the stuff. It's a horrible synthetic smell that makes me feel nauseous and gives me headaches and there's so much of it if I'm in the same room as them I can actually taste it.
A week ago I came home and our flat was filled with their smell- I asked DH if they'd been round and they had left an hour ago!
Today I walked past GMIL in the street and a fug of perfume was following her even outside.
I have not had this issue with anyone else. I don't really like perfume but I've never been this aware of it on anyone else. I mentioned it to DH but didn't make too big a deal as it's quite a personal thing isn't it and I don't want to be rude but in restaurants I haven't been able to eat my meal when sitting next to GMIL. DH doesn't seem to notice but I expect he is conditioned to it. Can anyone help me with a way to mention this to them without being offensive?
EdmundCleverClogs · 05/07/2017 18:23
Urgh, yanbu - all perfume should be banned as far as I'm concerned! Nasty stuff. Could you/your husband tell them that you've suddenly started having migraines and the doctors think that perfume is the trigger? So could they be respectful and not wear it when they come to visit?
.Oldraver · 05/07/2017 18:59
My Mum used to wear some Clinique stuff that was very heavy and lingered for ages. I've had to have seperate bedding for her as I couldn't get rid of the smell.
The last time she came she had changed to a more citrusy one that was actually nice, but those heavy musky ones dont half pong linger
Pengggwn · 05/07/2017 19:16
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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 05/07/2017 19:36
YANBU love perfume but was taught it should whisper not shout, and some scents give me headaches, some scent notes seem to send my sinuses and nose into overdrive and it's very painful. I think mentioning headaches and feeling sick from their scent is the way to go. I would go scentless rather than cause someone pain!
user1471549672 · 05/07/2017 19:40
Certain perfumes automatically trigger my migraines .... I've had to ask several friends and family not to wear perfume if I'm in their company. I had a work colleague whose perfume alway set me off .... I had to move desks at work to avoid the fragrance.... and leave the office whenever she freshened up by spraying it . I needed to have a very awkward conversation about how everyone loved her perfume but I'd discovered it was triggering my migraines. Luckily she was very understanding & she stopped wearing it to work.
wildbhoysmama · 05/07/2017 19:44
I don't think the op is in any way saying they are not good people but the issue of something making your stomach turn is a valid one. Some people are more sensitive to smell than others , I am extremely sensitive to smell: Perfume, air fresheners, cooking smells etc, as is DS3 ( who actually smells people if I'm not careful!). Strong/ synthetic perfume/ aftershave can make me feel so ill. My own dad wears an aftershave which I can't stand ( expensive but just doesn't float my boat) and I literally nip to the loo to wash my face a little after he arrives and hugs me. It really does make my stomach churn. Also, a woman in work wears Youthdew and i can smell it everywhere - she reapplies often as she is a smoker- and again it is stomach churning.
I totally get where you are coming from op, especially if they cover children with it and they then also reek. It's awful. Not sure what to do without appearing rude, though.
wildbhoysmama · 05/07/2017 19:45
I don't think the op is in any way saying they are not good people but the issue of something making your stomach turn is a valid one. Some people are more sensitive to smell than others , I am extremely sensitive to smell: Perfume, air fresheners, cooking smells etc, as is DS3 ( who actually smells people if I'm not careful!). Strong/ synthetic perfume/ aftershave can make me feel so ill. My own dad wears an aftershave which I can't stand ( expensive but just doesn't float my boat) and I literally nip to the loo to wash my face a little after he arrives and hugs me. It really does make my stomach churn. Also, a woman in work wears Youthdew and i can smell it everywhere - she reapplies often as she is a smoker- and again it is stomach churning.
I totally get where you are coming from op, especially if they cover children with it and they then also reek. It's awful. Not sure what to do without appearing rude, though.
Pengggwn · 05/07/2017 19:52
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EdmundCleverClogs · 05/07/2017 19:59
Pengggwn, I've asked a few people politely to tone down perfume use around me. I (not so politely) used to have to hide my younger brother's Lynx cans as he was making me have migraines about once a week. It's different if you're not smell sensitive, I appreciate you have little idea how it effects others, but even being too close to someone on public transport that's wearing perfume can ruin the rest of my day with a migraine (and my partner who won't stop bloody sneezing after).
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