WORKzilla3

[famtastic]

By request!

WELL..........That was the best thread EVER. I have had the time of my life ! !

I've enjoyed a solero, few cashews, a milky coffee & some 'ruffles'

That woman is an absolute nutter, unfortunately plenty of them about.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"

Best of luck #FAM enjoy your new found confidence

Enjoy your summer ( without other people's children)

3 cheers for MNetters

Stay strong, you're doing ace!!! She's still utterly batshit.

I like Bunty's email too.

I am another one so very proud of you fam. I have a reputation in rl as someone who doesn't take any crap, but that doesn't mean that I don't feel hot, teary and flustered when faced with enormous injustice. I'm not sure I'd have been able to stay as in control as you have and I salute you 🍷💐 . If you care what the other mum's think then I would be very inclined to post Bunty's summary on FB / email /text but tbh if they believe WORKzilla over you after that little performance (I actually find myself raising my hand to my mouth in horror at every new utterance you report from her 😱) then you don't need them in your life either. Your true friends will stick with you and believe me, quality is far better than quantity where friends are concerned.

Another one saying send Bunty's email/text/FB post. It's factual and absolutely correct. You can always recover the texts if you need to, so if she tries to deny it you simply say that you have her texts as evidence if she would like you to share those.

I really hope this is helping your anxiety - standing up to a bully and coming out on top. Hopefully it will be a longer term confidence boost for you - you are handling things so well.

I'd put a bet on that there was at least one other person who wishes they'd stood up to her like you did.

I wouldn't be able to stay as calm as you. I'd be in tears, voice breaking with a sore throat (i cant shout, i have coughing fits, idk why) trying to explain, angrily, how she'd only said she "might" need "a few favours" and the only date she'd actually asked you to have the kids was the 17th, and it was purely because of her telling a mutual friend you were having them all holidays you contacted her to confirm the 17th, found out it was for 4 hours longer than asked, and that she only then told you she intended you to have them all holidays, unpaid, with you even losing money having to feed them etc. You actually SAVED her from finding out day one of the holidays and have given her 2 weeks she wouldn't have had otherwise to try to find emergency child care.

I also agree that sending Bunty's email is an excellent idea. I would clarify at the beginning that the few favours weren't specified.

Hell Fam I would just link your threads to the school gate crowd, then change your mn name obv! Like this:

Dear fellow schoolmums - please search WORKzilla on mumsnet for the full story, you have been warned!

I'd be tempted to let the school know what's happened in case her kids try to bully your kids, and they can keep an eye out in case she tries to cause a scene in the playground again.

Next time just tell her to get her teenager to babysit the younger one.

Well I missed the Maui thread,and the holiday home in Mexico thread. I did catch cancel the cheque thread but it's not a patch on this. I'm only sorry that you're having to live it. At this point I imagine you're feeling knackered.... that's probably a post adrenaline dip and will pass. Ultimately you stood your ground and told the truth. Psycho has wound herself up in knots trying to convince everyone otherwise. I think it's very telling that no-one is stepping up to help her. All in all I wish you a fun and relaxing summer ( I'm off to put on my Team Fam T shirt) MN can this go in classics please?

Does she know you have deleted the texts? I'd be inclined to say, loudly, that if she persists in calling you a liar and confronting you about this, you will be forced to prove your innocence by printing out the text messages because you refuse to made to look like the villain when you have done nothing wrong here and this all comes from her sense of huge entitlement. If not, print these threads and circulate them around .

Paragraph 5 I meant 3-4 days, no weeks!

You need to just have it done with. No more "she said, I said" in the playgrounds.

Just read a few posts back, buntys message is a really good idea. I'd wsnt my side out there as much as possible because you can bet Workzilla won't play fair at all.

lol I've noticed more typos!

Ah well, you get the gist!

I bet she's really shown her colours,and people won't help her now.I bet there was someone in the group was wavering,you have helped other people as well.

That's a great thing,you should be very proud.

Well done, fam, for surviving your two playground encounters today with honour. You've been through the worse so it can never be that bad again and you will never be asked to do anything in the future by WORKzilla, so lucky you. This experience will also show you who your true friends are so double whammy

Please come back and tell us what happens in September when your friend is also intending on telling her that she is not going to have her kids for her in the mornings before school in term time either, as she did before . She can use how you have been treated as a reason not to want to continue to help out WORKzilla with her childcare issues.

Bunty's message is better than linking the treads themselves as there were a couple of identifying things near the beginning that fam wasn't comfortable sharing with her local friends.

Excellent work there Bunty

I couldn't read past the first paragraph of buntys suggestion without cringing. Please do NOT send that to randoms on playground. Explain to friends in person, if you must. But don't explain yourself to other parents on the playground - it's just coming across as so drama llama. Adults have better things to do than to feed playground gossip and create drama.

Well done you. She is an entitled cow!!! I would completely blank her from now on and remain silent. Let her crack on with her own little dramas.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

X

Hats off to Bunty! Excellent synopsis.

I'd be tempted to send it too. You've nothing to lose really.

I agree with Trolls I wouldn't send it either, it's the end of the school year soon, she won't be in the playground next year as her child is going to secondary and everyone will have forgotten about it by August, and will have forgotten WORKzilla by September

I'm confused as to why PP think Fam needs to send a round robin email - it sounds like she made it perfectly clear to those parents earwigging in the playground that she isn't the liar in this scenario. So what if a few of them don't believe her? She knows she's in the right, her DH knows she's in the right, WORKzilla and her DH know it too, and Fam's got the might of Mumsnet behind her. She certainly doesn't need to explain herself to anyone else and if she tries, it's going to seem like she's protesting too much. She's been dignified, respectful and she's drawn a line. Time to move on.