WORKzilla3

[famtastic]

By request!

Personally I would want to set the record straight. I wouldn't want all those people in any doubt as to what actually happened. Whilst WORKzilla and her child will no longer be there Famtastic still has to be around these people, every weekday for a good few years. I wouldn't want them thinking that I had treated someone the way WORKzilla is reporting.

It depends on how much Fam cares about what they think. I'm just saying what I would do.

I wouldn't send the email. It makes you sound desperate to be believed. I think you should maintain the cool calm and collected upper ground!

(Though i wouldn't be able to resist having a coffee with the biggest gossip in school - telling her ALL the juicy details then sitting back and seeing how fast it spreads...that way you're not the snitch but your story gets out!)

Gossip mail is way more effective than email.

I think the message is calm and collected. It's concise and unemotional. It sets out facts of what happened.

Gossip can turn into Chinese whispers and be further distorted from the truth.

Hats off to bunty. Yes, use it. I don't like conflict but I won't be called a liar either. I'd also put a link for this thread at the end of it!!

Good on you Fam, mabey you should have told her that she should have had more foresight and looked at places months before the end of term, instead of leaving it lastminuite.com, that it was not your problem. Good, now ignore her and let her rant away. Delete and block her. Mabey she should not be having a job if she cannot sort out proper childcare arrangements.

Sorry Bunty it wasn't a criticism of your lovely email

It's just the fact she's sending an email out at all. She should be seen to rise above it. She doesn't need to respond to this crazy woman. That's all.

Well done Fam on standing your ground. Next time you see her (hopefully never), tell her she is a text book 'Sociopath'.
She has all the traits, even verging on the 'Psycopath'!
Maybe she should get herself checked out at her workplace?

www.wikihow.com/Spot-a-Sociopath

Fuck no, do not even consider sending an email.

Just no.

aaaaargghhhhelpme no worries, I understand your point. Just from reading the last 2 days (white knuckles from waiting for the latest instalment, better than Eastenders this!) I think this actually might drag on a while longer!

Just my thoughts on the matter, but I'd want it over and done with!

I wouldn't do the email either. I think it looks better to be pretty private about it (apart from the 4 threads on MN ) and only talk about it if someone brings it up.

Although the email is very good I'd probably not send it.
But I'm fairly laid back and when it comes to playground gossip I usually don't care and would have other stuff to do so I think everyone's like it .. but obviously not 😂

I'm interested to know what your friend has said to all this fam? The one who has her kids all the time... 😑

I wouldn't send a blanket email. Nothing wrong with the text, but a mass mail out inflames things further.

If someone asks you via email or fb then that's the kind of thing to reply though ;)

that's brilliant ( and helps me place mark !!!)

Bunty - oh I know! These threads have been my highlight as I look after a teething grouchy baby!

I just think this mum is a bit of a loose cannon. She's bound to dig herself into even more of a hole. All you have to do it stand back and let her do it herself!

Its a shame you didnt keep the texts.
You could always tell the others moms to speak to your friend, she could tell them how shocked you were when you were told you were the childcare!

I'd check with the sports centre if they have spaces still. If they do Fam can be the playground hero for finding childcare for poor WORKzilla, last minute and such good value for money.

Agree with Anatidae - if anyone messages you privately Fam, send them Bunty's email to close down the gossip. But don't feel you should approach the parents en masse to justify yourself.

Get your solicitor to write a letter saying that you will be forced to take legal steps if she does not refrain from her campaign of harassment. Tell her that you are about to go to the police, as her behaviour is criminal.

I've been following these threads since yesterday (2.45am bed this morning!!!)
Well done fam, you done good girl!!!

I think it's case of carrying on as if you have done nothing wrong, because you haven't. You don't need to justify your actions, people will believe what they want to believe, but ultimately no one has stepped in to help her out. Her true friends would have rallied round for her.

Keep hold of your dignity, obviously she doesn't have much.

Whatever you do, do not send that email/text, it's cringy at best. The majority of people don't want to be drawn into other people's drama. If I received an unsolicited email like that I would avoid the sender like the plaque as would think she too was a drama queen.
You've put your point across twice today, if actually asked you can say what happened otherwise don't bring it up.

Definitely don't send the email - you'll be seen as the Batshit one!

A load of drama happened amongst some of the brownie's mums. I turned a blind ear to the lot of it and had no opinion about it until one of the mums involved insisted on telling me "her side". I hadn't listened to anyone elses side because I was staying well out of it so didn't appreciate her "putting me straight" after I'ld said that I knew there was drama but wasn't interested in what it was about and was just keeping well out of it.

She's the one I avoid now!

Fam I'm not sure if you can speak to network about retrieving deleted texts in case you want or need them later on?