WORKzilla3

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Well done fam, I'm just sorry you have been dragged into such a massive drama!

oh and gossip mum come and say hello

Glad you weren't a doormat op. I'd have had to shake you if you'd given in. You aren't doing the Monday now are you?

Please update what happens on monday 17th

Do the mums believe you, or her Fam?

I don't think a single one of the mums goes on here, we'd know by now.

Free childcare does NOT exist. That's why she can't find anything.

^^ This with bells on. I'd be tempted to tell that to WORKzillas face. Might make her realise but from the sounds of it I doubt it as she's clearly beyond the realms of reason.

You ROCK OP - just a fantastic response to her utter bullshit. I actually put my phone down and punched the air when I read your reply to her in the playground :)

I have seen quite a few subtle references to this thread on other threads "dropping my kids off to fam at 6:30am" and a lot of "WORK" references!! Love it!!

She actually sounds mentally unstable. How can someone 'assume' you're going to look after their kids.
What should she do? Leave them at home for 4 hours of which at least half they'll be asleep. You say they're 13 & 11? She doesn't need childcare unless it's not until 10.30.

This woman has absolutely no consideration for her children at all, has she? Does she really think the best thing for them is to leave them with someone she has bullied into taking them?

Well done, I don't think I could have been that composed and articulate (even though it probably wasn't what you were feeling inside). You did amazing!

the thing on my mind all along
op barely knows her.is this freak willing to let her dc of any age be minded by someone she doesnt really know?

nothing bad on you fam you rock
just generally speaking.
my babes only went to well known friends or daycare or acceptable family members and some of them were not acceptable

You should ask her where she had had booked (obviously nowhere) before you apparently promised the childcare. Preferably ask in front of many others. She will be a bit like a goldfish then I guess!

I just... the sense of entitlement... just WOW.

She probably thought you would fold being confronted in front of a group and without your DH there to intimidate her by his sheer size. She obviously thought wrong.

Well done, OP. You have not done anything wrong and she knows it. She was just hoping you'd scurry away, look like you had, so she could play the victim some more. Instead, she looked like the outrageous liar she is.

De-lurking to tell you I think you've handled this spectacularly well. She is clearly accustomed to getting her own way through coercion, manipulation and bullying. She has no respect for (or even awareness of) other people's needs or opinions, but you're not letting her get away with it and she doesn't know what to do. I doubt she's come up against someone with the strength and will to stand up to her before.

It really doesn't matter whether the other school gate Mums believe her or you. None of them are anything to you, and anyway...the truth will make itself plain when she starts dumping on them because her intended victim is refusing to lie down and take it.

Good work! Inspirational, in fact.

Well its my first post but i have read the whole of these threads.
Fam you are doing marvellous.
If this Zilla comes for you again just remind her that her children are old enough to be left with emergency numbers - if they dont have the sensible life skills to be safe for a few hours whilst a parent is out and about (as i doubt they are up at 6:30!!!) then she needs to get her house in order!
Less time being a bitch and getting extensions and booking holidays - more time being a mum and nurturing her kids!

Rooting for you through this crap time Fam xx

What on earth does she hope to gain from behaving like this? Does she really think you'll suddenly roll over and take her kids after all?
Being so nasty in public clearly isn't winning any sympathy for her.
Oh well, that's batshit for you.

If it were me I would send a text to all the mums I had numbers for, telling them to forward to anyone I didn't saying:

Hi ladies, send this on amongst yourselves. I feel I have been put in a terrible position and been accused of being a liar. Before this goes any further I want to clarify a few things. I'll start by saying that these are simply be facts of what has happened and I am in no way "slagging Workzilla off".

I was asked by her husband to do them a "few favours" in the holidays. I was also asked to have them by WORKzilla on Monday the 17th.

Through a mutual friend I found out that WORKzilla was expecting me to have her children 3-4 days each week for the entire holidays, from 6.30am. I was not asked to do this and I did not agree to this.

Why would I agree to have someone else children, for free, 3-4 weeks for the entire summer holidays. Especially someone I am not even particularly close with?

I decided to text WORKzilla to check th arrangements for the Monday, presuming there had been some sort of Chinese whisper mistake. Only to be told what times she was expecting me to have them all week.

When i explained that I would not, in fact, be providing free summer long childcare, WORKzilla became abusive and threatening.
I have been told that it is my fault she has not sorted childcare. I have been told that as I do not work and she does, I should provide this for free. I have been told that they can't afford childcare and therefore I should have known that "a few favours" meant having her children all summer.
Would you have assumed this? I certainly didnt.

I then informed WORKzilla that I would not be helping her at all, due to the utter cheek and expectation.

She then came to my home, which can be verified by my neighbours, verbally abused me and told me that they have in fact booked a Disney holiday and that's why they can't afford childcare. So therefore I am supposed to look after her children all summer, sacrificing my summer holidays with my children, so that she can take her family to Disney!!!

I will not be called a liar to my face and not respond. I will not be looking after her children 3-4 days a week (from 6.30am!!!) for free, especially when she didn't even actually ask me to do it.

This story of my agreeing and then backing out is completely fabricated because I presume she is looking for the sympathy vote, and hoping someone else will step into the brink and look after her children for free all summer.

I refuse to be a doormat any longer.

If you want to presume I am a liar, there is nothing further I can say, but ask yourself this.... would you offer to do what she expected?

ffs what is wrong with this woman and why is a gang follwing hr round trying to find out whats happened?

well done fam for standing up for yourself you feel proud

Big un MN hugs fam, it s been a stressful week for you so far. Put this behind you now and enjoy your summer. She s a cow.

You are amazing

I would totally send Bunty's email/text out en masse ... or post it on facebook. Because I would be SO done with her at this point.

Because it's gossip! WORK is looking for an audience - things will be different after it calms down

OP have you had any random text of support?

I really like Bunty's text/email. It's factual and has no emotion (this is a good thing). It might be worth sending so that you can clearly draw a line under the whole thing and move on. People will then have the all the facts that can't be misinterpreted through Chinese whispers and it may help nip the gossip in the bud sooner. It helps you avoid the inevitable "I heard she did this!" in gasping, horrified disbelief. If it makes it's way to her, what can she do? There's nothing false in it. Truth is powerful, use it!

You know people are talking about it, might as well make sure that it isn't getting bigger than it needs to be. A few years ago a colleague of mine fell down some stairs when leaving work for the day. I work at a university and by the next morning it had spread among the students that she was practically in a full body cast!