WORKzilla3

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Well done fem!!! We proud of you. Please other mnters who see this going on in the playground support fem

You go girl!!! I am so impressed with you for staying calm and getting your point across!

She is a utter bitch! I hope she gets explosive diarrhoea considering all the shit she has coming out of her mouth ATM!

Bloody hell Op is there no one in the playground who spoke up for you? I can't imagine me or my mum friends allowing that to happen. I certainly wouldn't stand there earwigging either.

Oh for Christ sake. She's pathetic!

Free childcare does NOT exist. That's why she can't find anything.

Actually, it does. Her teen and preteen can stay at home. Headdesk

She's also conveniently leaving out that she wasn't planning on paying for anything this summer so they can go to Disney. Not many people will be rallying around her then if she admitted it.

did you delete her texts?

next time you could whip out your phone and start reading out a few choice ones. or maybe unblock her to collect a few and then block her again.

I think she is going to be very angry with you very soon..Her first plan of making you do the childcare has planned..Her second plan will be to get other people to look after them on a sympathy vote from you "letting her down" .. both have failed so how is she going to move forward from that

Well done Fam!! It's bloody hard dealing with conflict, but you have done so well

She's making even more of an idiot of herself by keeping this going. The other mums know now that she made no 'proper' arrangement with you and, at the very least, will be privately shaking their heads at how remiss she's been in not sorting concrete childcare this close to the holidays.

Well done for not crying (I would have struggled too) and for remaining calm in the face of such batshit craziness. If she carries on I would struggle to not say something to the effect of 'are you still going on about this? Hasnt it dawned on you yet that your children are your responsibility and that it's down to you to ensure you had it all sorted in plenty of time? Maybe now you'll stop making assumptions and, you know, actually ask people directly instead of skirting round the issue and then acting like it's not your fault when it all goes tits up.' Other than that I'd just let it die a death, you know you did nothing wrong (as do about a zillion MNers) and anyone who thinks otherwise isn't worth your time anyway

Well done, you have handled this so well x

What a complete bitch! She probably showed herself up more than you though. Most of the other people probably just thought she was batcrap crazy! Hope you are ok?

Just out of interest - do playground mums really like to talk about someone's childcare arrangements for the holidays (or lack thereof!).

Is the mad woman a bit of a Queen Bee? I'm wondering why anyone listened to her in the first place - it surprises me that other mums would be remotely interested - and certainly interested enough to start discussing it before your gossip friend gave you a way in to explain your side of things.

I'm not even sure why you had to explain your side of things. Is a playground the forum for adjudicating non-disputes about non-arrangements for childcare now?

I am really sorry you felt weepy - you should never have been put in this situation - either the unreasonable mother with the kids who don't even need babysitting - or having to explain yourself to other mums.

Do you think the other mums believe her or the Op though? I can't help feeling someone asking 'what are you going to do now?' implies they think she's been dropped in the shit. Although who on earth would believe that someone would agree to provide free childcare all summer?

Do the mums think workzilla was going to pay op?

God I want to hunt this woman down and shout at her "BUT YOU NEVER EVEN ASKED!!!!" Had she asked you, instead of assuming, she might have got 'the odd favour' out of you. BUT SHE DIDNT EVEN ASK!!!!

SO furious on your behalf that she is now calling you a liar. Thats a bit bloody rich. Well done you for holding it together - the shear unfairness of it all would have had me losing my shit with her long before now.

Still not your problem Fam. Well done you for sticking up for yourself again.

Just keep repeating what you've been saying both you and her know the truth. She's spinning so many lies that they'll eventually catch up with her and anyone still doubting you will soon realise.

She sounds like a masterful manipulator. I've met a few of those in my time.

You HAVE been ignoring her most recent texts. That's true. So she just tells people that part and conveniently leaves out the entire build up to that, so that she can tell people the 'truth' while making herself out to be a victim.

Reminds me of the time an old friend and I were in the middle of a very heated argument after she did something pretty awful which upset me greatly. At some point in this argument I called her a bitch, but I then immediately apologised and said that was completely uncalled for. She said it was OK and she understood etc. Next day of course she was going round everyone we knew telling anyone who'd listen that I'd just called her a bitch - no mention of my apology or ANY of the conversation after that. Yes, it was true, but she'd taken that one fragment of the conversation and used it to make herself the victim. Your WORKzilla is doing the same thing and it's maddening!

It does seem to be that the person who gets their story in first is the one who is believed. Personally, I take everything people tell me with a pinch of salt. I always think there are two sides to a story but some people just love a bit of nasty gossip.
That playground doesn't sound very nice. I've had my share of people whispering about me in ours but I've never experienced a confrontation like that .

I can't believe the balls of her! What on earth is she playing at?

Well done Fam!!!! Huge for you! You stuck up for yourself so well!

Can someone explain, if you block someone and then unblock them do you then get all of the messages whilst they were blocked? Or are they "gone"?

No I don't have any texts now.
Her child is at a different end of the school to mine, so I wasn't around any of my friends, and to be fair the others that were there looked horrified about it all. Think they just wanted to see how it panned out. It happened so quick and I felt like my ears were under water half of it ( blood boiling maybe ha) that I don't know what else was said I just walked off to get ds, then to get home so I didn't have it on the walk home.

She's never been that well liked that I can tell, I think people think she looks down on them. And she lies a lot and lives above her means and people see through her.

This woman actually sounds insane ..... I seriously cannot fathom her stance... is it to keep saying your Childminding until it wears you down into doing it.. She is a vile nasty Bully... she deserves this...

Well done for standing your ground... keep her and people like this Blocked... there can never be any good coming from having even a little contact with someone this unstable x

Wow Fam you've done brilliantly to stand up to her with an audience! Just keep remembering it's her problem to sort out childcare, not yours.

They just wanted to see how it panned out. They were enjoying the show in other words! I really hope this is the end of it.

You know when the threads started I thought it'd be another one where the op just rolls over and comes back and moans - but wow you have really, really stood up for yourself. Without being rude, you've just asserted yourself and laid down boundaries.

It's absolutely bloody brilliant. I don't know you but I'd like to just say a huge well done. I think a lot of us struggle with saying no sometimes (I know I'm working on it) and it's SO nice to see someone actually do it and win the day.

nice one.

If she bothers you again, then tell her that her DS1 is a TEENAGER not a BABY and doesn't need to be looked after, and he is actually old enough and perfectly capable of being left in the house with his brother for a few hours while she goes to WORK.

You handled the confrontation well fam fancy calling you a bloody liar, this woman has some nerve and you're right, she should have sorted out childcare early, not casually mentioned possibly needing a favour and that it constitutes an ironclad arrangement (stupid cow) they're her bloody children, why should others have to be responsible for them!