WORKzilla 2

[famtastic]

Done a new thread as couldn't reply. Can't believe this is the 3rd thread lol.

I know I shouldn't laugh but ds vomiting like that was hilarious and so well times I've given him £10!

We've been approached by MIL hinting about if we'd have SILs two. I reminded her that I had to change my shifts so I work nights and weekends to fit in with my family, that DH has just started at the same place on reduced hours and similar shift pattern so we've had to really plan for childcare. SIL is a social worker and on a lot more money than we are.

As it is, MIL is having the boys twice. That she asked for, for a max of 4 hours each time. If she hasn't, then we'd do what we've done the rest of the time, change shifts where possible, call in the childcare favours we've banked throughout the year with other parents and just got on with it.

Apparently I just don't understand the pressure. So I totally understand OP. Only I hate even the idea of confrontation so much it sends me spiralling into panic attacks. You've done so much better than I would have done.

Embarrassed - And? So?
Workzilla clearly couldn't give a fuck about anything that could be going on with op so why the hell should op even consider giving that particular angle any thought whatsoever?

Whoever said there's more going on ;It's not the responsibility of OP to see if there are any mitigating circumstances for the behaviour of this woman and her Dh.

I think they're just twats who expect others to look after their kids , they did it with the other mate and tried it on with OP.

Yes I've told my friend, she isn't going to do it for them either after July. She said I've given her the courage. Haha I never would of thought I'd hear her say that.

And they won't see me tomorrow there is no way son is going to school after that on the door step. So it will be Wednesday they see me. Unless they decide to turn up again lol!

I was dying for an actual picture of her face! 😂😂😂

I reckon she thought you knew the hours because of the hours your mutual friend does in term time. Have you updated said friend OP?

Fam ..... you should do a 'Ted talk'

Also wondering where the precious kiddos were while they were attempting to railroad you.

Bets on what time they get the text from workzilla? I call 11pm.

Well done Fam! I'm looking forward to the next update and your timely response! Now this is for you

Love that the neighbours were indiscreetly gardening!

embarassed

I'm inclined to think that she's putting on the waterworks to guilt fam into looking after DC, from what's been said previously, she is known for taking the mick and having people do her favours whilst not reciprocating. She obviously resents the fact she works while OP is a SAHM so has thrown a massive paddy over this!

fam i love your ds 😂

Flumpernickel - no it's not and I'm not suggesting OP does childcare. She shouldn't.

I'm just saying that whilst she's being VU and rude, she might be struggling. Maybe she really thought she had asked and reacted defensively and offensively. It's not helpful or nice, but now she's got almost 3000 post slagging her off on Mumsnet. That's worse.

I've watched these threads with mixed horror and humour. Well done famtastic!! Don't let her try to wear you down!

You've got a hero child with a vomiting bug and you're going to be reported to Social Services. Clearly you are unfit to take care of WORKzilla's special sproglets.

I'd be so tempted now to do a little idiot list

In one column have examples of little favours...eg:

• Can my child walk home with you one Friday as a one off please?
• Do you have any spare fill in blank please, the shops are shut and it'd really help

The other column title Taking the Piss and should include:

• Asking for 30 free childcare days from a relative stranger who happens to have a child in the same school although different year
• Asking for all your alcohol because shops are too expensive and you want to get drunk

You get the idea. Make them as insane as you like then if she tries to corner you again just give her the list and calmly explain as she doesn't seem to understand the difference between 'the odd favour' and 'taking the piss' you've helpfully come up with a few examples so she doesn't get confused in the future and risk have her shoes vomitted on.

Well done for standing your ground - but I suspect you haven't heard the last of this! At least if she starts moaning about you to others (which she will...) you can show them the texts. Or better still - direct people to this thread!

Embarrassed
Are you related to this absolute dick?
If you are then YOU have her kids

The badmouthing is irrelevant. Her kids are secondary age and year 5 or 6. OP's kids are younger. She got through all the families of her kids' friends, then her own friends, then her neighbours and is now trying to recruit friends of her friends. She'll be trying to leave the kids with the postman and the Tesco cashier next.

No embarrass I don't know how you can possibly say that. OP tried telling her politely, the deranged one took it to a whole other level. OP is guilt free imo.

Well done to you both for standing your ground.

Just hang on to the word that is not 'yes'!

Note that agreeing to help out with one Monday has led you to be shouted at on our doorstep - pestered with texts and subject to all kinds of guilt-tripping.

Just what might agreement to a second day lead to!

OP, did you say that it was originally the husband who asked "for a favour"? I'm wondering whether he asked you in that vague way, but then told his wife that he'd talked to you and agreed a summer's-worth of childcare ... and now he doesn't want to lose face, so he's maintaining that lie ...

Embarrassed -No there are 3000 posts on here supporting op who needed the courage to stand up to this entitled spoilt woman.