WORKzilla 2

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Done a new thread as couldn't reply. Can't believe this is the 3rd thread lol.

I know I shouldn't laugh but ds vomiting like that was hilarious and so well times I've given him £10!

OK, a different perspective.

The lady is really upset, turning up at your house with her DH and not backing down.

She's clearly desperate. Is there any chance that she thought she had insinuated to you or been clear about the childcare? Or is it that she's like my own DM who finds it difficult to ask for stuff and asks sort of indirectly but thinks you've understood and then gets really upset when she doesn't get the help she wants?

To turn up at your house, to get so upset, she must be really worried - there's probably a lot more going on here, there definitely is for her.

Yes she should have asked properly and not assumed, she should not have spoken to you disgustingly. But I'm wondering if there's something else going on here.

I used to think a lot of what was on MN was bullshit. Until dd1 started school and I've seen a few conversations.

One mum hinted massively that I should mind her dc for the summer as I was on mat leave. My brain took about 10 seconds to see where she was steering the convo and I shut it straight down.

I was worried how I'd cope with a baby and 5 yo for 6 weeks and no daytime nap for me without chucking someone elses dc in to the mix.

Turns out being on long lazy summer holidays with your own dc is great and I am so glad I didn't cave.

Well actually there was no chance of me doing that. And I'm glad you didn't either OP!

I think you need to let other parents know what happened or she'll be bad mouthing you, telling everyone how you let her down.

This woman knows no shame.

This, she'll definitely bad mouth you to people.

My gast is flabbered.

Tenner says you have another text by the end of the night

I can't believe after all of this she would even want to leave her kids with you, knowing you don't want them there! She is completely batshit crazy. I would never put anyone out like that. Please, please dont give in to this psycho OP. You do this and you'll be stuck with her for life

Written sign on your front door -

Due to batshit entitled client, "Doormat no more daycare" is closed for business today.

Thank you for your understanding.
Fuck off.

Are you waiting for the slightly conciliatory text from her making out that she's sorry she overreacted but she was really counting on you and this "misunderstanding" has caused quite a pickle for her. And to please help her out.

I think in your position I'd be responding to every message/conversation with a cheery "fuck off".

I'm trying to imagine the scene.

Wtf

embarrassed.

So? That is no more the OP's problem than the childcare really is it?

Which child is it that's ill, though? I don't remember. Obviously the one who was projectile vomiting this evening can't go to school/nursery tomorrow, however he feels, so maybe you (and we?) get a day off the drama?

This has been solid gold entertainment I am astounded that they expected so much with so little a) gratitude b) prior arrangement c) compensation!!!

Your son is a legend

So much admiration for you, OP, and your boys!

Her 13 yo DS could join the Army at 16 but can't be trusted to have a lie in for a couple of hours then put some cereal and milk in a bowl for breakfast?!?!?

Can't afford childcare as they have spent their money on a holiday to Disney World!?!? What next - I can't pay my mortgage, council tax, electricity, etc as I have booked a holiday that I deserve because I WORK! I'm sure my mortgage company would love that!?!?

Embarrassed .....are you 🦇💩 crazy iWatch lady?!

I think once you decide mentally in your own mind it's over then it's over.
Next time she starts just tell her she's a nasty selfish bully who needs to sort out paid child care and that you want nothing more to do with her and her manipulative guilt tripping crap.
If you're a working parent you prioritise paying for child care for your kids over expensive holidays and using your acquaintances.

She definitely hasn't got the message. Btw you really need to get your story straight with the other mums as I'll get she'll bad mouth you.

Ere fam....you're famous! You'll have to start doing autographs soon

Hey you can do a book deal next! ' WORKzilla and how I found inner strength by standing up to her'

Going back to the beginning, what possessed her to think that you would look after her DC? You hadn't discussed any of the details, such as how many days, hours etc or if you were going to feed them and pay for any days out. Blows my mind

Does she know you're not having them on Monday? Can't believe they are insisting you have them still when speaking to you like that! X

OP you have actually done her and her DC a huge favour. She will hopefully now make proper confirmed plans for her DC and their care.

Hurrah for MrFam and FamSon. I LOVE the vomiting on her shoes. Perfect response...and the only one needed!

Oh I love this thread! When we moved here when our children were very small I was a SAHM for a short while. Word got out amongst the chancers in the village and twice I was 'befriended' only to find out the only interest in me was for free childcare. One I depatched quite quickly because she was too brazen and even soft old pleaser me cottoned on to her game. I have subsequently been told by people who became real friends that they'd been debating whether to warn me because she'd tried it with everyone.

The other person did become a 'friend' but basically bullied me for 6 years until she thankfully moved away. I started working from home after a couple of years and put my own children into eye-wateringly expensive childcare, as you do if you are a normal human being. It didn't stop her dumping her kids on me 'because you're there anyway and they'll just sit quietly'. Cue her kids barging into my office demanding food, drink, refereeing of arguments etc. I could write a book about the brass necked demands of this woman. The Merlin pass story - I wondered if it's the same person, has all the hallmarks of her.

I'd say no, but she'd just usher them through the door & run. She's never worked a day in her life btw. I was so glad when she moved and I hear she's had several other victims since.

This story rings all to horrifyingly true, I almost have PTSD reading it.