Rent

[Sewell61]

Ms has a full time well paid job, Is 300.00 month to much rent? He's threatened to move out. He currently pays 200. But it's not enough to cover everything. I'm disabled & unable to work.
My daughter pays hers no problem. I feel terrible even asking for rent.

I'd get my rent & council tax paid

I see that's tricky. What does that come to?

How is £300 a lot for an adult with a well paid full time job? I used to rent a room only in a shared house and it was £400 inc bills but not board. £300 is reasonable. I'm sure OP isn't looking to profit from her son.

I paid my mum 1/3 of my take home (my suggestion) when I lived at home. It seemed only fair and was whilst I was on placement breaks from university.

It's hard without knowing the details of his salary but £300 seems very reasonable for all that!

This goes against mumsnet consensus but I personally think those who let adult children live with them dirt cheap after finishing FT education areally failing to prepare them for the reality of life. Even if they take that cash and stick it in a savings account for layer, they need a realistic appreciation of how much living costs are.

Rent is 450 ct is 150 pcm

How much does he earn? And is he saving?

Can you set out the costs of running the house to him? Plus have you explained that if they moved out you would be entitled to benefits and might actually be better off?

Also I would tell him to go and look at the prices of rentals. Realistically £300 is a bargain if that's all of his living expenses and I'm sure if you could afford for his contribution to be less then you would enable that. unfortunately, life isn't always easy and it certainly isn't for you. He should behave like a decent man and want to make your life easier not harder.

If it covers utilities as well its an absolute bargain, and if it also covers food then he's an ungrateful shit.

Lol@ people saying it seems like a lot
Where do you know that you can get rent, council tax utilities and good for under £300 a month?

They're 2 adults working FT, and their mother is disabled and can't work - why on earth shouldn't they cover 1/3 of all household costs each?

£300pm covering rent, bills, and food is extremely reasonable. It's about what my Dsis pays our DM to live at home. She has no problem with it at all knowing it's cheaper than the alternative.

At the very least he should pay the amount that housing benefit would deduct because of his earnings (£95 pw or thereabouts if he earns over around £400 pw), plus one third of the utility bills and one third of the shopping bills if you buy his food and other household stuff.

Have you checked what other benefits you may be entitled to, OP? By the sound of it, you should be getting ESA and PIP.

If you look here it will tell you how much it is to rent in your area per month or per night www.rightmove.co.uk/ or www.airb&b.co.uk or via private add on social media

To rent people generally have to pay a months deposit in advance, some agents fees, credit checks and all bills (unless the price includes bills) even via a private landlord

£300 seems like a good price if that includes his bills

Depending on where you live, £300 will probably only pay for a room in a shared house, not for a flat

Ask him to see what £75 a week would get him out in the real world!

DS was paying £150 a month plus council tax but he's just changed jobs so I suggested an increase to £200
He said he was thinking of £250 so we compromised on £225
I provide evening meals but he does own lunches and snacks, drinks etc

300/mth for a room in your disabled mum's house where you also presumably have to care for her AND play by her rules in addition to paying bills is definitely too much. In some areas you can get a room in a shared house, inc bills, for 200-250, but the crucial thing here is his spare time will be entirely his own.

OP needs to think clearly here. If she's reliant on them for more than money (lifts, care etc) then she needs to factor that in too.

Round here it's an average of £100 a week to rent a room so £300 inc food is an absolute bargain.

My dd will be expected to pay rent if she's at home and not in full time education. We'll probably do what my DH's parents did which was to put some of that money paid to one side and then when she moves out it'll be a surprise contribution towards her costs to set up for herself in addition to her own savings.

We've bough her up to want to be self sufficient and independent. I'd be embarrassed if she wasn't.

Depends where you are as to what could be got elsewhere, rent sounds cheap.

300/mth for a room in your disabled mum's house where you also presumably have to care for her AND play by her rules in addition to paying bills is definitely too much. In some areas you can get a room in a shared house, inc bills, for 200-250, but the crucial thing here is his spare time will be entirely his own

You're assuming rather a lot and its quite offensive to assume they are her carers when she hasn't said that.

AndTakeYourHorseWithYou

There is a lot that isn't being said.

I sort of agree with groupie if he is paying a share of the rent and bills then he should be able to set his own rules and have full access, just like any other house share.

Personally I think that there is a difference between grown up children making a contribution to the household expenses and commercial rent and I don't think they should be compared.

A £100 increase on a current contribution of £200 is a big percentage increase, have you explained to your son which bills you need more help with?

@AndTakeYourHorseWithYou I was a young carer as were all of my siblings. I talk from experience. It wouldn't matter if they're officially carers or not, if she's disabled they will definitely help her more than a lodger. Need to keep this real.

e if he is paying a share of the rent and bills then he should be able to set his own rules and have full access, just like any other house share*

then in that case he would have to pay a full third of all rent, taxes, utilities, food, cleaning supplies etc, and take responsibility for one third of cleaning etc.
Which he clearly doesn't want to do. So why would that be fair?

There is a lot that isn't being said

True. But assuming a disabled person has carers when they haven't said so is quite offensive. Especially when you imply she is taking advantage of her children when clearly the opposite is the case.

You may be talking about your own experience, but you do NOT know that is the case here. So don't assume.

I'm 19 years old and pay £350 'housekeep' to my mum. Tell him if he doesn't like it, he can find somewhere else.