Rent

[Sewell61]

Ms has a full time well paid job, Is 300.00 month to much rent? He's threatened to move out. He currently pays 200. But it's not enough to cover everything. I'm disabled & unable to work.
My daughter pays hers no problem. I feel terrible even asking for rent.

£300, to cover rent, all utilities and food?

If all thats included hes getting a bargain, as he will realise very soon!

Are you still able to afford your home without him though? I can understand him wanting to spread his wings if hes earning.

YANBU to ask him for rent if he's working full time and living with you.

Similarly, he's NBU if he chooses to rent elsewhere.

You want £300 p/m off each of your two children? What would you do if they moved out??

He's saying 300 is to much & he can find somewhere cheaper?? ?
He's saving to go travelling

shit get a lodger who would pay more?
RTFT ffs the OP is disabled and cannot work!

sewell he can get somewhere cheaper? Really? I'm presuming he's looking at room only. Does he not know that bills and good cost money?

I paid £100 a month to my mum. My mortgage is

If they move out i'd get help.

I think Shitstorm asked a fairly relevant question. Whether the OP can work or not relying so heavily on her children's contributions is going to clearly be a big problem when they move out

Not enough info OP. Are you living somewhere you really can't afford? What are your monthly outgoings? I can't believe you are relying on £600 income per month from your children.

but right now they ARE living with the OP - sure she could move but they would then HAVE to rent elsewhere

the future isn't relevant

YANBU OP

£300 seems extortionate. Your rent would be the same with or with out them and I very much doubt he eats that cost in food or used much extra electricity.

If he can find cheaper then off he pops, I doubt he'd find anywhere for £300 for rent and bills

Presumably when OPs children move out she'll be able to move somewhere smaller and more affordable

They are both grown up d has left b4 but it was to expensive and came back.

Does that include food?

Seems a lot to me.

Includes everything

£300 is a fair amount.
If both OP's children are adults then she is getting less help (if any at all) in form of housing benefit and council tax, should they move out then she can claim all or most of the rent and council tax to be paid.

This £300 also includes all bills and food so tbf the son is living a life of Riley paying out just £300 a month and then the rest of his wages are completely his each month.

If parents can afford to keep their children into adulthood then that's great, but in reality most people cannot afford to do this, so when the child reaches adult age and gets a job then they must contribute fairly or go off and do it alone.

If you add up all your costs and split I bet his share is more than £300

I get no help because they live here.
This has made me very upset, if I could let them live he for nothing I would. Some of us are dealt very bad cards, you have to do what you can to get by...

£300 is very fair. Let him move out, he'll soon get a dose of reality.

sit down and go back through your bank statements and credit card bills and work out exactly how much you have spent on rent, gas, electricity, water, sewerage, food, house insurance, mortgage the lot. It takes a bit of time but its really worth doing.

then divide that by 3. 3 adults living in the house each pays a third. that is the only fair way.

Its not the fair way if one of the adukts can't work, but is not entitled to any benefits help because of the income of the other adults!!!

I guess a fairer way would be to work out what you would get if they weren't there, and add that (divided by two) to one third of the outgoings.

What sort of help would you get if they moved out?

Obviously with 2 working adults living in the house OP cannot claim any housing benefits, if they move out she could.

If that's what you need then that's what you need. Depending on where you live £300 is cheap. Not everyone can afford to let their children live with them rent free.