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Neighbours have 'made' a driveway which MY parking space blocks

407 replies

SomewhatNewToThis · 30/06/2017 22:52

Trying to keep it short. I live down a very weird road- very few houses have driveways. Some of us have allocated bays in the street. Other people- generally the owners of newer houses- must park in a car park about a minutes walk away created especially for our road. It's literally at the end.

Neighbours have a weird upside down U shaped house, facing the road. They have decided to put a very ugly, gravel driveway on the reminder of their front garden.

However, MY allocated council parking space that belongs to my house is where the exit to their 'driveway' is. Their DD just passed her driving test- hence driveway- and I've had to move my car from my space SIX times since Tuesday.

Neighbours have now sent letter asking me to park elsewhere so their DD can use 'driveway.'

AIBU to have posted a polite letter back basically saying no and that I will not be moving car multiple times a day in future? Hmm

Car park for our houses requires a permit. As I have the allocated space, I cannot apply for a permit as I already have a space. Neighbours have one space in car park provided for those without allocated spaces, however can apply for space for their DD as car park has spare permits available. I can't park anywhere else as you can only park in allocated bays.

AIBU to think my allocated space is mine, it's not my fault it's in front of their house and that I shall not be moving my car from now on?

Diagram provided. Grin

Neighbours have 'made' a driveway which MY parking space blocks
OP posts:
Advicewouldbelovelyta · 04/07/2017 16:33

You can't really base anything on how polite a letter is. The whole point in them writting it down is to be used later on as evidence of how reasonably and nice they believe they're being

TestTubeTeen · 04/07/2017 18:23

"I think we have a misunderstanding. My understanding is that ...(insert RandomMess' text). Of course I will always be happy to move as an occasional one-off should you need access for maintenance or building works etc, but do not think it reasonable that I be expected to move my car on a regular basis for access to a non-authorised (by council approved dropped kerb) drive.

If you believe you have the right to access you property through my parking space I will look forward to hearing from your solicitor.

Yours.....

StealthNinjaMum · 04/07/2017 19:00

Omg! I can't believe I didn't spot this parking thread before. Am off to put the kettle on so I can sit and enjoy all 16 pages of it.

Good diagram op!

olaflikeswarmhugs · 04/07/2017 19:02

Did the op come back with an outcome of the meeting for coffee? Can't find an update ?

BewareOfDragons · 04/07/2017 19:06

I hope OP isn't outside waiting to move her car for the neighbour's princess...

Anniegetyourgun · 04/07/2017 19:31

She didn't meet them. Probably wise.

Housemum · 04/07/2017 20:12

I'm so disappointed that things are reasonably sensible with parking round here (not blatantly place-marking at all). Except for one neighbour who gets hissy when one person has lots of people round parking on the road perhaps because she can't drive her huge car and thinks she owns the road

OhBigHairyBollocks · 04/07/2017 20:49

following!

Rainbunny · 04/07/2017 21:05

Just putting my two cents in to say that while I appreciate Lentil's approach I don't advocate it. If you try to talk about it in a friendly manner it sends the message that this is a subject up for debate and that there is room for some give and take - mainly for you to make concessions for the sake of being "neighbourly", instead of a firm "no go" situation. Remember, however nice your neighbours may be they are attempting to achieve an outcome that isn't possible without the erosion of your property or parking rights.

I would simply send a short direct note laying out the fact that you are the freeholder and have this parking for your exclusive use and that you will not move you car in future and you do not give permission to the neighbour's to use your parking space for ingress/egress. It doesn't have to be rude or aggressive, just simple factual and polite and then I'd be very polite to them in person.

TrishanFlips · 04/07/2017 23:09

Thinking about it a bit more, don't pussyfoot around, tell them you are not happy about their daughter parking there as it affects your rights. It would be very hard for you to refuse to move your car when the daughter wants access but you don't want to be put in the position of in any way supporting an illegal structure. I think you should report to the council if she continues to park there.

SoupDragon · 05/07/2017 07:01

I think Lentils approach is perfect at this stage. It is competely factual and to the point whilst keeping a friendly tone. Short direct notes usually come across as arsey.

TDHManchester · 05/07/2017 07:17

I wouldnt just write to the person, i would just tell the fucker face to face then report it to the council

Fletchasaurus · 05/07/2017 07:57

I think you need to tell the council, I don't advocate neighbour disputes but this is not going to end well as they seem to genuinely think their dd has a right to park there!

TDHManchester · 05/07/2017 18:59

OP go on google streetmaps and get a snap of how the area /drive was before this lout took over.

Jaxhog · 06/07/2017 12:35

Interacting with them OP, is just causing you stress. Keep parking your car in your parking space and smile pleasantly if you see them. That's it.
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Ignore notes and smile back. Only do anything else if they prevent you parking in your space. If they ask you move your car, just smile and say no.

Avacadoinjury · 06/07/2017 12:54

Parking!

cabbage67 · 06/07/2017 15:01

I'm feeling angry on your behalf Angry

scootinFun · 06/07/2017 17:56

Is the daughter back yet OP?

cheesycheesywotsits · 07/07/2017 12:24

Shamelessly place marking Grin

kimothyroll · 07/07/2017 20:17

Any update???

ChevalierTialys · 09/07/2017 13:03

Cant wait to see what happens once their DD is back and they try to claim her right to park on the garden 😂

Secretsweets · 09/07/2017 20:29

What's the latest OP ? Is the daughter back ? Did you speak to them ?

Deidre21 · 09/07/2017 21:33

Advicewouldbelovelyta is right

Scarftown · 12/07/2017 23:12

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Catlady45 · 24/07/2017 11:42

any update on the parking space op?

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