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Neighbours have 'made' a driveway which MY parking space blocks

407 replies

SomewhatNewToThis · 30/06/2017 22:52

Trying to keep it short. I live down a very weird road- very few houses have driveways. Some of us have allocated bays in the street. Other people- generally the owners of newer houses- must park in a car park about a minutes walk away created especially for our road. It's literally at the end.

Neighbours have a weird upside down U shaped house, facing the road. They have decided to put a very ugly, gravel driveway on the reminder of their front garden.

However, MY allocated council parking space that belongs to my house is where the exit to their 'driveway' is. Their DD just passed her driving test- hence driveway- and I've had to move my car from my space SIX times since Tuesday.

Neighbours have now sent letter asking me to park elsewhere so their DD can use 'driveway.'

AIBU to have posted a polite letter back basically saying no and that I will not be moving car multiple times a day in future? Hmm

Car park for our houses requires a permit. As I have the allocated space, I cannot apply for a permit as I already have a space. Neighbours have one space in car park provided for those without allocated spaces, however can apply for space for their DD as car park has spare permits available. I can't park anywhere else as you can only park in allocated bays.

AIBU to think my allocated space is mine, it's not my fault it's in front of their house and that I shall not be moving my car from now on?

Diagram provided. Grin

Neighbours have 'made' a driveway which MY parking space blocks
OP posts:
Notmyrealname85 · 03/07/2017 15:30

+1 for Lentil

smeerf · 03/07/2017 15:38

I'd go with lentil. Also made me smile because we're calling my bump lentil until we know the sex Grin

Theonethingididntwant · 03/07/2017 15:38

As they have been pleasant so far I'd try and be pleasant too. Sometimes factual and to the point comes across as a bit harsh in my eyes.
Keep if factual but maybe just say, sorry the space isn't just me parking close to my house it's actually owned by me and as I own the space I'm not entitled to a parking permit to park elsewhere. It's also difficult for my disabled mother to get to my house when I do park further away so I'd like to keep the space where it is.
Hopefully that will be the end of it. They sound like they know it's yours and don't want an argument but to butter you up a bit. It's just unfortunate that there isn't really another resolution to get everyone what they want/need.

Redsippycup · 03/07/2017 16:01

MoreThanJustANumber because OP doesn't seem to own it from what she said.

From the OP: However, MY allocated council parking space that belongs to my house is where the exit to their 'driveway' is

From the update: I have right of parking

HappyFlappy · 03/07/2017 16:19

we're calling my bump lentil until we know the sex Grin

So presumably that will not be for the next 20 years smeerf, because obviously you wouldn't dream of "assigning a gender at birth* *

* Thank you - I do know that sex and gender are different things - this is a sideways swipe at a "celebrity"comment which instigated another thread. As you were Grin

HappyFlappy · 03/07/2017 16:20

Cocked up (as per!)

Thread is re: assigning a SEX at birth

Mea culpa

LuxuryDrinks · 03/07/2017 16:30

Shock HappyFlappy. This thread's not about that sort of parking, I'll have you know!

chocolateworshipper · 03/07/2017 17:13

Oh are we just putting random comments on threads now?

Excellent.

What if the hokey cokey really IS what it's all about?

FlyingElbows · 03/07/2017 17:21

Then we're all in trouble, chocolateworshipper.

Carolinesbeanies · 03/07/2017 17:29

Interacting with them OP, is just causing you stress. Keep parking your car in your parking space and smile pleasantly if you see them. Thats it. Theres absolutely no need for any other interaction, letters or anything as they havent stopped you from parking in your space. Indeed, if they keep pursuing you for a friendly 'chat', simply ask them 'if theyre intending to block you from parking in your allocated spot as thats the only reason you can see why they want to discuss anything?'

If they do, by parking one of their cars there for example, then thats the time for a strongly worded letter and a report to the council about the illegal 'driveway' and their vandalism of council owned pavements by persistantly driving their cars over the pavement.

PS Placemarking but felt cheap if I didnt offer a view 😀

watchingitallagain · 03/07/2017 18:36

Why don't you just go and knock on the door and say something like...

Hi. Thanks for your note. I wanted to get things clarified with the council about my parking space and your garden. Here's a copy of an email I've had from the council confirming my ownership of the space. Toodaloo!

You could also print something off about dropped kerbs and the illegal driving over pavements then they can fester over it all in the privacy of their own home and not have a leg to stand on.

Hmmalittlefishy · 03/07/2017 18:42

It sounds like they want to keep on good terms and as much as mumsnet likes a fight this is your life and you have to live with the neighbours.
Maybe pop round and say you're sorry you couldn't meet earlier but you wanted to explain that the space has been allocated to you and you therefore aren't entitled to one in the car park so unfortunately can't keep moving your car

RandomMess · 03/07/2017 19:00

Perhaps just write back.

"There is nothing to discuss, as part of the freehold for my property I own my parking space and you do not have permission to pass over it to park on your garden. It is not a driveway as you have no dropped curb and you cannot obtain permission to install one as it my parking space. You will need to purchase a parking permit to park elsewhere."

Bunnyfuller · 03/07/2017 20:04

If you do agree to go for coffee, go armed with documentation about your spot and legislation on drives and dropped kerbs or it'll just end up as bad feeling. You can verbally add in about the value etc but anything concrete, take the proof and smile sweetly.

Then bring a bunch of cats to their litter box gravelled garden.

CoolJazz · 03/07/2017 20:27

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Gemini69 · 03/07/2017 23:53

they're overly pleasant because you have something they WANT x

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/07/2017 00:39

Tell them your price is £50,000.

HappyFlappy · 04/07/2017 08:09

Elbows

Grin
FluffyWhiteTowels · 04/07/2017 08:22

Just parking sorry

rightwhine · 04/07/2017 09:28

Lentils 22nded

MrsHandles · 04/07/2017 12:34

Parking up in the hope for an OP return soon.

Palpatine · 04/07/2017 13:43

"Our daughter is currently away for a few days, so we won't need to bother you about the moving the car."

And this is why they are so nice and pleasant because they're hoping that upon their dear daughter's return they can start bothering you again into moving your car.

I would really just stick to the basic facts with them. It's your spot and you're rightfully using it, you won't be moving your car every time their princess feels like going for a drive, they can apply for a permit for the car park or go through the official process of converting their gravel garden into a drive.

YouMakeMeFeelLikeDancing · 04/07/2017 13:48

numsnet insulting! Grin

Littledrummergirl · 04/07/2017 14:00

Hearts, you beat me to it but I was going to suggest a bit more than that!

Would £250k be too much?
definitely not placemarking at all.

MintyChops · 04/07/2017 14:28

Cheeky gits! Let us know what happens when/if they ask you to move your car again. That is the time to produce your email from the council and until then I wouldn't bother discussing with them....