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Original poster

To let this irritate me hugely??

119 replies

lovehoney69 · 30/06/2017 20:31

Hi!!i have a dp of just over a year (not dc's dad) who does something that is beginning to REALLY wind me up. Whenever I do something I do something he disapproves of eg eating too much, having a chocolate when friends offer one, watching a program he dislikes etc he will say sharply "ah-ah"
Like the sort of sound you make to a young toddler who's about to eat a coin or touch the fire. I find it ridiculously irritating and have explained many times that I feel like he's treating me like a small child when he does it. He does shrugs and says I'm being silly. Last night he did it because I was pulling a tag off a new item of clothing and I lost the plot and shouted "fuck off with the ah-ah's!!!" (Yes not my finest hour I admit!!) now he's sulking and demanding I apologise for my uncalled for outburst. So AIBU to get so wound up by this? Would you?

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Rinkydinkypink · 30/06/2017 22:37

Ltb

littlebird7 · 30/06/2017 22:39

How can you cope? It would be ah - ah you are dumped, enjoy the rest of your life.

Honestly you can not put up with this crap. Get rid if you can, if not tell him one more ah-ah and he sleeps at this mothers for a week. Follow up with two, three until he gets the message. So arrogant. Feel so pissed off for you

littlebird7 · 30/06/2017 22:41

Totally passive aggressive signals but undermining you nonetheless. Everyone here is on to him. Next he will be taking away the chocolate raising his eyebrows but not saying a word.... Creepy and controlling. Get out now.

DirtyChaiLatte · 30/06/2017 22:44

I'm more concerned he is ' policing' what you do than the silly noise ,though

Totally agree with this. No one should be allowed to control what you eat.

DirtyChaiLatte · 30/06/2017 22:44

I'm more concerned he is ' policing' what you do than the silly noise ,though

Totally agree with this. No one should be allowed to control what you eat.

Itsjustaphase2016 · 30/06/2017 22:47

I had a dp who did this!! About similar things too - eating too much, buying sweets for my commute, watching hokyoaks, skipping teeth cleaning after a night out(!)....I got so sick of the patronising idiot that I shagged someone else then dumped him.

Madbum · 30/06/2017 22:50

You have the patience of a fucking saint, he'd have been folded up in my wheelie bin on day one if it was me.

LionsOnTour · 30/06/2017 22:58

YANBU. It would irritate me a lot. if he isn't listening when you talk to him then how about sending him an email. You can make it slightly jokey if you feel the need but he really needs to understand what a twat he is being.

Dibbles1967 · 30/06/2017 22:59

Patronising judgemental git!!!!!

Does he say that to your DC also?

Get shot. Can you imagine living with that until the end of your days?

redshoeblueshoe · 30/06/2017 23:02

Don't let him irritate you, just LTB

Itsjustaphase Grin

Shoxfordian · 30/06/2017 23:29

Ltb sweetie l t the b

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 01/07/2017 00:22

No YANBU. I would have dispatched him by now. Get shot.

Who does he think he is? Tell him you wanted a boyfriend not a anal little milk monitor. What a colossal irritant and total turn off he sounds.

Let him find someone else to ah-ah over. Then you can do what the fuck you want whenever you want without him there getting on your tits and ruining the atmos.

StarHeartDiamond · 01/07/2017 00:29

That's majorly patronising and I'm afraid he wouldn't have got past the first ah-ah with me! That would give me the absolute rage.

Stand your ground and tell him he owes you a massive apology for his condescending nonsense.

PerspicaciaTick · 01/07/2017 00:56

On the positive side - if he didn't make the twat noise, you wouldn't know that he was mentally policing your every move. Now you know, you can get rid of him.

ChocolateFrogs · 01/07/2017 03:12

Oh god OP that would drive me mental Shock

ChocolateFrogs · 01/07/2017 03:13

Ginliness 😂

Tell him you wanted a boyfriend not a anal little milk monitor.

Original poster
lovehoney69 · 01/07/2017 08:07

This thread is really making me laugh!! I am definitely going to try some of the recommendations.
Folding him up in the wheelie bin Grin

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Pickerel · 01/07/2017 08:28

I wouldn't LTB but I would have a serious chat about how annoying and patronising this is.

MrsBobDylan · 01/07/2017 08:32

Yabu to have wasted a whole year of your life with this toss pot.

NellieFiveBellies · 01/07/2017 08:35

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WhooooAmI24601 · 01/07/2017 08:36

Anyone attempting to control another person has no hope of holding a successful relationship down. All jokes and swears aside, please make sure he knows just how revolting this type of behaviour is and that you won't stand for it a minute longer. If he brushes it off, you'll know that he doesn't give a shit for your feelings and will have to respond accordingly.

Fishface77 · 01/07/2017 08:41

Do it back to him in bed.
Let him get his jiggy on then say "ah-ah" waggle your finger and go to sleep.

hettie · 01/07/2017 09:08

What a controlling cockwomble.....

flumpybear · 01/07/2017 11:16

Controlling - he needs a good slap!

LionsOnTour · 01/07/2017 21:15

Controlling - he needs a good slap!
ShockHmm

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