To let this irritate me hugely??

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Hi!!i have a dp of just over a year (not dc's dad) who does something that is beginning to REALLY wind me up. Whenever I do something I do something he disapproves of eg eating too much, having a chocolate when friends offer one, watching a program he dislikes etc he will say sharply "ah-ah"
Like the sort of sound you make to a young toddler who's about to eat a coin or touch the fire. I find it ridiculously irritating and have explained many times that I feel like he's treating me like a small child when he does it. He does shrugs and says I'm being silly. Last night he did it because I was pulling a tag off a new item of clothing and I lost the plot and shouted "fuck off with the ah-ah's!!!" (Yes not my finest hour I admit!!) now he's sulking and demanding I apologise for my uncalled for outburst. So AIBU to get so wound up by this? Would you?

LTB!-LTB!-LTB!

YANBU

Every time he says "ah ah" reply with "ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww! Get out"

I wouldn't waste any more time on this patronising arse. Can you really see yourself putting up with it for years? I couldn't.

YANBU.

And what just said

Get rid because he won't stop. If he disapproves of such things as you eating too much or having a piece of chocolate, believe me even if he stopped the ah-has, he would still be disapproving of you doing these things.

Wag your finger at him and say tsk tsk when he annoys you. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

Go with Jenger's suggestion!

I read the post go my husband and he laughed, but he's started doing It now.

Next time he tries to walk in your house say 'ah-ah' and slam the door on the fucker.

^^ This!!

YANBU, he sounds like a twat. If he doesn't stop I;d star doing it too, all the fucking time. However, if you both end up doing it I think it will be the end of you both together. Is it possible he doesn't know he is doing it?

start not star!

Next time he tries to walk in your house say 'ah-ah' and slam the door
Yes! do this.

Don't apologise, I would have said a lot worse a lot sooner.

It's most definitely not a Welsh thing.

Not a Welsh thing, it's a condescending twat thing.

No way in hell would I apologize. I can just hear it in my head and its driving me mad

Any man who feels the need to audibly pass judgement on my eating, drinking, trashy telly watching habits etc would be out the door pretty sharpish.

Even if he stops aubidly expressing his disapproval, why would you want to be with someone who thinks he has a right to an opinion on your eating habits? You do realise it's a form of control?

I can't believe how many threads I've read lately about men who are complete knobs, this one included.

Jengr has the right idea.

If the genders in this thread were reversed everyone would be focusing on the fact that you lost your temper and swore at your partner.
I get that it's annoying, but there are more mature ways to handle it. Shouting and swearing is never acceptable and I despair of MN that no one else has even mentioned it.

When I first got together with my DP he had a tendency to treat me like one of his teenage daughters. I don't recall him ever making stupid noises like this but he could definitely be patronising. I told him how fucking irritating I found it and he stopped. Not overnight, because it was an unconscious habit, but he did modify his behaviour and no longer does it.

So it's not the 'ah ahh!' I would be worried about (although it sounds arse-clenchingly annoying) but his shrugging it off and saying you're being silly. If he doesn't listen and change it, that's the problem.

Gads, that would drive me insane! No you are not BU.

Redsky I didn't mention the shouting thing as the OP had already admitted to it 'not being her finest hour' and I think we can all react in ways we shouldn't some times.
I do however think that her partner behaving the way he is is the worst part about this story. I've known women treat their other halves that way and it makes me uneasy just as much as this story does.

My dh does this and I want to kill him when he does it. He reckons he isn't doing anything at all and it is my imagination, it isn't and he cops it big time. We are Welsh too so it may be a Welsh man thing or just a coincidence. YANBU op!

JENGNR, has got it in one !

RedSky

I think a few people have mentioned it? I think I did in fact.

And if the roles were reversed I'd say exactly the same; patronising behaviour is unacceptable in an adult relationship. Swearing and shouting, as an ongoing problem, isn't acceptable either, but who hasn't had one of those 'last straw' moments where they've ended up snapping and saying something unpleasant? I'm not going to hang, draw and quarter the op for it. I think her partner is the bigger problem; I'd say the same if he was female fwiw.

God I would find this absolutely intolerable - and he has the audacity to demand an apology? Twat.