to be annoyed that my mum doesn't want to be called Gran, Granny, Grandma, Nan.....

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..... or anything else vaguely grannyish sounding? My dad is happy with grandad. Just can't help feeling that it's a bit selfish of her. After all she IS a grandparent, no getting away from that! Ok she's young in comparison to many of my friends mothers but all the same....Should I insist? Or seek a suitable alternative?
And anyway, what alternatives are there to the obvious? What do your dc's call their grandparents?

My parents are Grammy and Grandpa, in laws are Granny and Poppas

Can't understand why you would't want to be known as agrandparent but each to their own I suppose

Sar...the first time you LO utters the word Grandma, or whatever he decides to call her, her heart will melt and she'll be lost forever....After six grandchildren, my mum was adamant that she must be Gran and Gran alone and hated the thought of Nana....till my nine month old DS pointed at her bus pass photo and said 'Nana'... she's been Nana to him ever since and he's the only one allowed to call her that. your DS will find his own word for her and believe me she'll love it. Good Luck with her...and if she doesn't chill, you could always refer to her as dragon (out of her hearing of course) and wait those precious months till your LO utters it to her ....that's a bit wicked of me, sorry!!!

I asked my MIL what she wanted to be called ie gran granny and she said 'Pam'? so Pam it is!

Of course it may be DD..I assume you haven't had the baby yet?

But is her name Pam?

Yes Although the other day she got called nan pam and I think she secretly liked it.

my MIL hated the grandma word. and insisted on being called nanna, which pissed me off compltely abd unreasonably i admit. i always thought that the fathers mother is grandma and the mothers mother nanna. and i have special conotations to the word nanna that she couldnt live up to.

any way! this meant we had 4 yes 4 nannas so we had a nanna surname, a nanna maz ( short or marion but the kids call her maz) a nanna 'c' ( again kids shortened it) and a nanna violent ( a misinterpretation of one of the kids of violet when they were younger - so funny it stuck)

Tge children will call her whatever they damn well please and by whatever name you use for her. So unless she wants to look like a miserable old cow constantly correcting them, granny, ganny, gan-gan, grandma or another variation on the theme it will almost certainly be

at miserable old cow expression

I became a grandparent at 35, does that make me a miserable old cow because I chose a name that wasn't traditional?

I called my Grandmothers "Granny X" and "Granny Y" inserting their surnames. Father's father was Grandpa and mother's father was Granddad.

MIL insists on being Nanny, which I rather dislike because it makes me think of a) the dog from Peter Pan and b) Nanny Ogg from Terry Pratchett.

My mother is Granny.

My step-mother is known by her name, and my father is Grandpa.

My mum made up silly name for herself that sounded more like mama than nana.
When we were children she used to ask us to call her by her first name.
My dh and I referred to her as 'that lady' for a couple of years until my little niece was born and she became Grandma.

my mum is nanny p, dad is grandad, fil is grandpops and mil is.....wanted to be ebuela (sp) the spanish for grandmother, and has now settled on momai (sp) the indian word for grandmother.

fil is indian but mil is english, so there is some kind of connection but i too can't understand why she has such a hatred for nana, grandma, granny etc etc!

My mum was funny about being granny before dd was born - we told her we'd teach dd to call her mad nana betty if she didn't want to be granny. But then, within about 3 days of dd being born she was telling anyone who'd listen that she was granny.

Thanks for your thoughts on the point I raised. I am keen to avoid this lo having feelings of being different to any half-brothers or half-sisters that may come along.

Interestingly, my nieces and nephews generally address me by my christian name without prefixing it with Aunty. I don't have a problem with that but wouldn't like my children to address me by it. Dd has recently started to call me Mother sometimes (in a fun mock-mickey taking way, not posh - we are certainly not Posh!!)

My DCs call all theirs Granny & Grandpa and Nana & Grandad. However, my own grandmother refused to be called any of that and asked us to call her by her own name. As that was Natalija we couldn't quite manage it but my brother came up with NatNat which stuck and we both loved. Your DCs might actually enjoy calling her something different like that.

I don't get this too young to be a grandparent busy. If you have children then when they are 16 and above then you are naturally old enough to be a grandparent!

Now heres one I have 3 sc who are 20,19 & 17. My children are soon to be 4, 2 & 6 mths. My sc have said that when they have children I'll be nanny as I've been in their lives for over 8 years and too their children I'll always be with grandad so I'll be a grandparent. 20 ss is getting married and his gf wants a baby now. Told her she has her whole life to live yet but these no changing there minds so I face becoming a nanny at the age of 29!!!!!!

Yes I'm a young nanny when it happens and the babies aunts will only be 5, 3 and Uncle 1 but I'm a nanny never the less so will be happy to be called nanny - but not grandma don't think that name will suit be at 29

cam - you couldn't have been old of course! . What I said was that she was going to look like a miserable old cow if she constantly corrected them 'don't call me granny'. I thought that grannydom was an unarguable fact, didn't realise it was an option.

My DD's are only 3 and 6m, can't wait for the day I become a Granny! Although I have told them both that they're not to engage in 'any of that stuff' until they're 30, so I suppose I will look old enough by then!

All my (4) grandmothers were called Nana, 3 of my grandads were called Grandad and my great grandad was Pops, they just had their surname after.

However I'm glad my parents chose different names for themselves, my father could never match up to his father so calling him the same name would just be wrong, so he is Grandad Richard opposed to my step dad (who is more of a father than my real one ever was) is Grandpa

My mother asked if she could just be called by her first name. I think it's fine and sounds really nice - it's up to her really, she doesn't feel any less a grandmother I don't think.
My mil asked to be called Nanna which is what she likes - I think it's up to the grandparent. We do live in an ageist society - I don't blame anyone who doesn't want to be called 'granny'.

Goodasgold pmsl at "that lady"! I think that's what we'll use for now!!!!

havent read it all, but..my Mum became Nanna to my Neice 12 years ago, she would have been 48

so 53 is certainly not young to become a Grandparent

got called Nanna straight away

To lots of children Their Nans and Grandads are some one special. I wouldn't want mine to call their Nanna and Grandad anything else!!

My mother asked to be called by her name; fine with us

Don’t be ridiculous ! Lots of couples are “ Grandad and Jean” because Jean is a step grandparent. Even if they have been married for 20 years.

I didn’t think anyone under 80 used the word “ floosie “ .

I think if my son has any children I will adopt this!