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Original poster

AIBU to ask your advice on wether it's worth taking my Neighbours from hell to court?

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 21/06/2017 21:04

I've had threads on here about my neighbours from hell.
We've been threatened, sworn at harassed and our visitors harassed.
We have involved the police who initially wanted to issue a harassment order against said neighbours but were overruled by their superior officer who said " it never ends well in neighbour disputes" Confused
The actual abuse has reduced significantly though we still endure low level harassment.
I'm keeping notes etc as recommended by the police.
I've pushed for mediation and have met with the mediator however neighbours are stalling and I doubt very much they will attend.
Currently the favourite form of harassment is to park their vehicles to make it quite difficult for me to park. I can get in and I can get out but I do dread weekends and I dread coming home as I'm always so anxious about what they will have done and will I be able to get in ok etc.
I have checked my deeds and they are blocking my "easement ' and it states in the deeds that no one is allowed to do anything to hinder another's ingress and egress.
Currently the neighbours are freely enjoying and utilising the easement I honour and provide them with on my land.
So- Aibu to consider starting legal proceedings or am I just feeding into their crazy?
What would you do?

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endofthelinefinally · 04/07/2017 21:19

Please tell their parents.
3 separate complaints would have to be taken seriously by the police.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 04/07/2017 21:19

If the police won't help me maybe they will.

It states that employees are expected to conduct themselves appropriately outside work and not bring the company name into disrepute.

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laureywilliams · 04/07/2017 21:20

It feels to me like the police aren't taking you seriously. Initially dropping the complaint. And now not responding quickly to this assault (on children) in the context of an ongoing campaign of harassment from your neighbours.

Personally I'd be finding out how to lodge my own complaint about the way this has been handled (or not).

Polter · 04/07/2017 21:21

I remember your last thread, can't believe it's got so much worse, it sounds hellish SadFlowers

Hope the police take action now.

DottyBlue2 · 04/07/2017 21:21

The girls parents should report it.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 04/07/2017 21:21

IM not sure how my dd would feel about her friends getting involved she's already so embarrassed - the thought of them being interviewed etc it would horrify her. She's already feeling extremely vulnerable and school was her safe place Sad

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laureywilliams · 04/07/2017 21:21

Agree with endof Flowers

ToadsforJustice · 04/07/2017 21:24

He really is a hateful character. Those poor girls Sad

lougle · 04/07/2017 21:35

I've just read this whole thread. Please report it Sad

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 04/07/2017 21:54

That's all I'm doing
Report report report

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RandomMess · 04/07/2017 22:00

Will be interesting to see how his workplace take it, don't be surprised if you've already been painted in a bad light to them though!

TheweewitchRoz · 04/07/2017 22:29

If he works for a decent organisation, then they will take your complaint seriously. Make sure you come at it from the point of view of bringing their reputation into disrepute by his aggressive & intimidating behaviour.

Good luck!

MsMims · 04/07/2017 23:20

What a pig.

I'm sorry your DD and her friends were targeted. He really will stoop to any level, won't he? Targeting young girls and you when your DH is away, what a brave man he is Hmm Hope the police buck their ideas up now.

Squashit · 05/07/2017 00:11

Firstly a cheap option would be to buy parking sensors. You can get ones with cameras too - that should take the pressure off re manoeuvring.

Secondly, when you are next away on holiday a lovely dumping of manure on your driveway right up to the boundary that will stink for yonks is overdue. Nice hot week hopefully too 😀

ginnystonic · 05/07/2017 00:38

How awful, they are vile.

Keep reporting to the police, and anyone else that will listen. Keep a diary and take photos & videos or everything you can for evidence.

Have you considered moving house?

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 05/07/2017 06:57

Yes- we will have to move house I'm afraid.. although we've not yet been here 1 yearSad

Really I'm absolutely astonished at the level of commitment they have made to the harassment of us.

The lady of the house is known locally as the "joules" women. All stripey Breton and red lipstick, the dh is tall and handsome around 45. He has a responsible job and together have 3 lovely dc. We live in a 'naice' neighbourhood.

I have absolutely no understanding of why they want to spend all their time monitoring us.

Like some of you have said what on earth have they said to each other privately that allows them to conduct themselves this way publicly

My dh thinks they were irritated by my dds party on Sunday and wanted to rain on her parade yesterday- seeing her run past their house with girlfriends all dressed up and bold was too much for him..

I would have scoffed at this explanation 3 months ago but now, I fear they really are that basic.

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eddielizzard · 05/07/2017 07:02

this is horrific. maybe his company will shame him. those poor girls. and yes, def the police. that is just awful.

VanillaSugar · 05/07/2017 07:11

I think you should move. This is going to get worse. Do you think they did the same thing towards your predecessors?

TDHManchester · 05/07/2017 07:13

Just seek out some very big fellow, bung him a few quid and let him go round posing as a relative to "ave a word". Bullies often need to be bullied back to make them back off. Forget going to court,it will be a waste of time.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 05/07/2017 07:22

My dd isn't going to school this morning, she's not well. Make of that what you will.

I'm not waiting to hear from the police, I've cancelled my appointments and I'm going to the station this morning.

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Polter · 05/07/2017 07:24

Poor dd SadFlowers

Good luck

ginnystonic · 05/07/2017 07:25

It's shocking that this has escalated to this point in under a year.

On the surface, normal decent people, but in reality they are both unhinged (you'd think one if them would reign the other in, but they seem as bad as each other, supporting the toxic behaviour!)

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 05/07/2017 07:26

I don't think they did the same vanilla... I don't think it was required..
Our past renters have all been ex pats and he's very hierarchal, i.e. He owns and is local. When we arrived it was very different, his family kind of did what they wanted. It was his family and friends at the top and everyone else underneath. I think he succeeded in bullying other residents into submisssion without much effort.
It's very telling that none of our tenants lasted more than 1 year once they bought.

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Totallyattheendofmyrope · 05/07/2017 07:28

This is my biggest problem Ginny, they don't have any family apart from the females mum, dad and sister visit and they JOIN in Shock
Apart from that in nearly 1 year they haven't had any friends or anyone visit.
So there is NO voice of reason among them.

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NaiceBiscuits · 05/07/2017 07:33

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