AIBU to believe my employee?

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An employee of mine asked for a day off as one of her husband's relatives relatives has passed and they wanted to attend the funeral. She had already used all of her annual leave but I said she could take it off and just make the hours up there and then so she would still be paid. She told me the date of the funeral approx 10d in advance.
Now DH is saying funerals are planned quicker than this so maybe she lied about why she wanted the time off.
So, AIBU to trust her and believe there can be 10 days between a death and the funeral?

There was 14 days between my grandads death and funeral. I always thought 2 weeks was standard

My grandmother died on 10th October and her funeral was on the 22nd October because my mother was on holiday.

There certainly can be 10 days notice for them.

My friends mil died recently & they had to wait almost 4 weeks for the funeral, in fact I don't think I have ever been to a funeral that was as quick as 10 days after the person died

As far as I know it depends on the circumstances of the death and availability at the location of the funeral. If you have no reason to doubt her, then I'd be inclined to believe her

Honestly, if she makes the time up, I wouldn't care what she's taking the day off for.

When my DGM passed away it was over 3 weeks until the funeral was held. Mixture of relatives on holiday and lots of bookings at the chosen crematorium

It's a 7 day wait here, on the east coast of Scotland so I imagine in busier cities it's much longer.

In some areas of the country funerals can take 3 weeks to organise. Give her the benefit of the doubt this time, but monitor the number of dead relatives.

Several weeks is standard in England. They do it in days in Ireland.

Yes there could well be 10 days inbetween depends on how they died (sudden unexpected death). There was nearly 3 weeks between my dad's death and funeral he died unexpectedly at work meaninf a full investigation and then there was a couple of bank holidays (died just before Easter) so the process was drawn out.

DH's great aunt's funeral was less than two weeks after she died.

My Dad's funeral was 7 days after he died but tbh we were lucky to get it that soon - it would not have been unusual or unreasonable for it to be 10 days or even longer.

Quite often a two week lapse between death and funeral, unless they have particular religious beliefs that demand quicker burial. If the relative was young or youngish, they may have had to conduct a post mortem, which further delays funeral arrangements.

I think it's pretty standard these days for a 2 week wait. A friend of mine lost his mother recently from terminal cancer, and even though no PM was conducted, it still took 3 weeks from death to service, and that's without hold ups etc, as she knew she was dying for a while and had most arrangements planned in advance.

Maybe her DH is from elsewhere. In Ireland funerals are 2 or 3 days after they pass away. The 10-14 days here confuses me.

My dad's funeral was 2 weeks after he died. The crematorium was fully booked until then.

It will very much depend on the number of deaths in the area at the time. A friend lost a grandparents recently and it seemed like ages before the funeral - a good few weeks - and it was just down to general busy-ness at the time.

Of course there can be 10 days.
You should believe her.

Sorry I meant the OP's DH.

So, so tired...

Good enough for me. I fully trust her otherwise, but as I am from another country I had no idea how it worked here. Glad I can put my mind at ease, thank you.

Lots of factors can mean it takes 2, 3 even 4 weeks - family availability (lots of people might be on holiday this time of year), post-mortems (even if elderly these are quite common), availability of church/ crematorium etc.

Not sure why you're discussing private HR related stuff with your husband.

Jewish and Muslim funerals are arranged very much more quickly by specialist funeral directors, but if you have no religious requirements it's normal to wait a couple of weeks.

We had to wait 4 weeks to bury my Gran as it was " a popular time to die" according to the funeral director. Tell your DH not to be so cynical!

When dh's step dad died there were 6 weeks between his death and the funeral. There were unusual circumstances involved in that one, due to him dying abroad so needing to be brought back, and the death certificate not being detailed enough so he needed a post mortem here as well as there.

I think my grandma's funeral took about 10 days out so to organise, purely because there happened to be a lot of people who died around the same time and the crematorium was fully booked.

Particularly for crematorium funerals, there can be a 2 week or more wait as they just won't have a 'slot' to do it sooner. I would certainly see 10 days as being within normal limits.