to not be able to get over DH'S fussy eating?

[wowl]

I'm prepared to be told I am, but I'm just at the point of being beyond frustrated and into very angry. I'm probably being ridiculous so this is a bit lighthearted but I am frustrated.

I don't remember him being this bad when we got together. I really don't. I'm an adventurous person but not even that adventurous an eater, the food I like is perfectly normal. I used to bend to what he liked and cook things he'd eat (SAHM of a toddler) but now we live with another family member who also likes what I like so the fact he won't eat it is really being rubbed in my face now.

Meals he will eat:

• beef burgers with chips (picks the salad out if at a restaurant)
• margarita pizza
• chicken nuggets or breaded chicken breast and chips
• toad in the hole
• sausages in a baguette or with mash and peas
• fish and chips
• tikka masala
• lasagna if pushed
• cheese sandwiches

...that's pretty much it. Made non-spicy fajitas tonight and he's picked over one for 45 minutes

I just feel like I'm living with 2 children instead of one, and I find it a massive turn off. It's driving me mad at the moment, so AIBU to be really annoyed by this? He says he "tries new things" but that means taking one bite and making faces. I can't take it anymore!

Oh and I have no doubt you have met all the fussy eaters, you sound like a well informed professional on the subject

And it's not all true, although quite usual. E.g. my son will not eat cooked cheese or veg, but will happily crunch on raw stuff. Also will not touch pies and many similar things. Hates chocolate milk and so on
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KERALA I'm "fussy" and I have a really healthy diet, thanks. And I'm pretty sure the not-fussy-it's-learned-behaviour lot all love a chip butty or a Corner to now and then. Food is not a moral issue!

Cornetto. Bloody autocorrect.

I don't eat ice cream BtW.

Ooh, thread moving fast. I love broccoli. And courgette. DH doesn't though, the bugger, and he'll eat almost anything.

Do agree that making faces and yuck noises etc. is not on. DP obviously doesn't do that. I wonder if this is not a fussy eating issue, but rather a petulant, unpleasant man issue.

My thoughts exactly. I've never met anyone who does this but if I did I'd think they were bloody rude and not because they don't like certain foods.

Funny how fussy people always seem to like junk food, ice cream, chips and things like that.

Yeah, hilarious...

Thing is, is I have been trying since I was old enough to cook for myself, there was a time where I wouldn't eat pizza or ice cream and 'things like that'. It's not the sort of thing that can happen over night and some people can be prone to set backs for various reasons.

This is why I don't get all the angst, being angry at the person won't suddenly make them eat everything in sight. Unless they are forcing you to eat what they're eating and nothing else, I don't understand how anyone could be as vitriolic as some of the replies on this thread appear to be over something that doesn't affect them.

I've spent my whole life feeling shame over my diet. There's no need for people to be so nasty.

Never met a fussy eater who falls on broccoli and turns nose up at ice cream.

My DS loves broccoli, eats it with every meal, hates ice cream with a passion. You may not have met him but I assure you he exists. He's not a 'fussy eater', he had severe reflux as a baby/toddler and has sensory issues around food, as I did as a child. I assume it's perfectly possible to have these issues in adulthood. Plenty people are just not that into food and eat solely because they have to, it's just not that big a deal to some of us.

Some people would likely call me fussy for being a vegan, but it is a choice. IMO, everyone (adults, especially) is free to choose what they eat, unless it's too expensive (most freezer stuff and bread, certainly isn't!) or if they are being impolite and demanding about it, e.g. expecting you to cook separate meals when they could do so themselves.

Blimey, let the poor guy eat what he likes. He's a big boy and can always cook his own meals!

I'm "fussy", probably due to ASD related sensory issues. The taste and often even smell of a lot of foods make me feel physically sick and sometimes I find it hard to even be in the same room as someone eating something different than me. Yeah it's hard on others, but probably not as hard on me, with the struggling to find healthy foods and the constant anxiety whenever I have to eat with other people. My parents tried the whole 'don't give her anything else, she'll eat it when she gets hungry' thing and guess what? I went hungry. Ended up malnourished so they gave in.

Clearly just pandering and attention seeking though.

Some people would likely call me fussy for being a vegan, but it is a choice.

We have a vegan at work and the only time it causes an issue is at the Christmas night out - hotels/restaurants are good at catering for vegtarians, but vegans is a whole different level. Most of teh veggie choices are cheese based or eggy and she can't have those either. And she doesn't like mushrooms. She will quite often have to phone ahead to organise something. She doesn't pull face or make sick noises when we're all tucking into ham sandwiches or meringues with cream in hte office though.

Yep. I don't make an issue of my veganism at all or inconvenience anyone with it, but the simple fact that I will not eat animal products has people like Gordon Ramsay swearing and ranting, like I'm the worst of the worst entitled bastards. Haha... What small minds some people have!

I have hosted hundreds of teens as paying guests over the years the only thing the fussy ones will eat is junk food. As I said my experience

I have hosted hundreds of teens as paying guests over the years the only thing the fussy ones will eat is junk food. As I said my experience

What do you suggest then? Remove all junk food and eventually us fuss pots will be cured, right?

Ah, KERALA, teens. Not adults. IME most teenagers would happily live off a diet of junk food. That's not a fussy eater thing, that's a teen thing.

It's a party, so they ask for party friendly food. Many "fussy eaters" have sensory issues or find foods too spicy due to sensitive taste, or find it hard to tolerate too many tastes mixed together as it overwhelms them. Some of those teenagers probably do like things like boiled plain broccoli, raw apple on it's own, etc. But that is not party food for them (or anyone I can think of!). They understandably want to have things like crisps and pizza instead. Also this does not make them look weird to their Mayes the same way as eating plain broccoli with cheese cubes would. Just my thoughts on it...

"Mates" that should be!

My DP is all but boring. XDH was an omnivore human dustbin and boring as hell.

Most of the teens are great eaters just a minority that aren't. The most challenging was a girl that claimed only to eat a particular type of speciality sausage only available in her home village in Sardinia.

I think non NT individuals are not "fussy eaters" as such. I would assume, for me anyway, this conversation was focused on the NT.

We also are not just talking about minor fussiness. Everyone has crap theydont like, or vegetarians, vegans or those with a religious restricted diet. We are talking about the level of fussiness of the ops husband, who unless she states otherwise is NT, and simply a fussy eater. He eats 13 things and that's it. 13!!

And I agree with Kerala, the fussy eater of the ops husbands ilk does tend to eat shite. It's not all "I'm sorry I only eat omelettes and salad" it's " show me the chicken nuggets! Nom nom"

For those individuals, yes I believe it's a learned behaviour and one as an adult you can chose to unlearn.

Are sausages compulsory for a party? Is that the only thing she eats? No crisps?No crudités? No bread? No cheese? In that case... Wow. But I expect Sardinian sausages are not her whole diet. Just the only sausage she says will eat, when asked. Happy to be corrected on this, though!

And you can tell their backgrounds

😂 Mystic fucking meg here folks!

I doubt you have any friends at all,Peanut.