to not be able to get over DH'S fussy eating?

[wowl]

I'm prepared to be told I am, but I'm just at the point of being beyond frustrated and into very angry. I'm probably being ridiculous so this is a bit lighthearted but I am frustrated.

I don't remember him being this bad when we got together. I really don't. I'm an adventurous person but not even that adventurous an eater, the food I like is perfectly normal. I used to bend to what he liked and cook things he'd eat (SAHM of a toddler) but now we live with another family member who also likes what I like so the fact he won't eat it is really being rubbed in my face now.

Meals he will eat:

• beef burgers with chips (picks the salad out if at a restaurant)
• margarita pizza
• chicken nuggets or breaded chicken breast and chips
• toad in the hole
• sausages in a baguette or with mash and peas
• fish and chips
• tikka masala
• lasagna if pushed
• cheese sandwiches

...that's pretty much it. Made non-spicy fajitas tonight and he's picked over one for 45 minutes

I just feel like I'm living with 2 children instead of one, and I find it a massive turn off. It's driving me mad at the moment, so AIBU to be really annoyed by this? He says he "tries new things" but that means taking one bite and making faces. I can't take it anymore!

My sister ate only rice and peas until she was 7, she is 40 now eats anything and didn't die.
I'm sure its a phase

I am talking about adults here, of course. With small children, you need to buy the food and cook for them, as well as try and make sure they get the nutrition they need, without making any psychological/physical food issues worse by excessive pushing or coercion. So, it's more complicated.

He sounds exactly like a guy we once knew. He lived with his gran who only served chicken nuggets or fish fingers type food.
A lot of the time they were together they were saving for the wedding and a deposit on a house.

It started on their honeymoon
They went to a very exotic destination. She was expecting romantic meals of freshly caught fish with the sound of the waves of the pacific lapping in the back ground

He thought evening meals meant going to the local MacDonald's. On the one occasion he under sufference had a meal on the beach he complained all the way through.

They landed back in Britain and he returned to live with his gran.

It started on their honeymoon

What started on their honeymoon?

The wife suddenly realising that the meals he was eating at his grans were all he ate

So she married someone she had never had a meal out with?

Oh can we keep this goady fucker?

We have to, or how else will I find out my background?

We have to, or how else will I find out my background?

I wonder what Mystic Meg thinks about mine.

I wonder why my siblings are not fussy eaters. Did they have a different background to me?

More likely, the lack of constant pressure and criticism made it possible her make her own choices in her own time and pace how to proceed to expand her palate in away that was comfortable and acceptable to her.

Actually maria it doesn't prove that. It could be (as it was in my childhood) that every meal time was a cause of massive stress and she went into it knowing it would be all eyes on her to see how much she ate, what she ate, whether she tried the new thing on the ate and then arguments when she didn't. The pressure to eat infront of a hostile audience (and yes it is hostile when these people are furious at you for not eating what they decide you should) can cause massive anxiety that makes you feel physically sick in your stomach, in some instance you actually vomit.

Take the audience away, take the expectation away, the pressure, the fear of being shouted at or sulked with, the sound of mum banging her hands on the table before slamming your plate into the sink and screeching at you to go to bed. Take all that away and the anxiety goes away, and gradually it seems a bit more possible to try something new knowing nothing bad will happen if you don't like it. I used to sneak into the kitchen to try different fruit when no-one was there because it was a whole fucking circus every time I put something to my lips. Then my mum caught me trying an orange once and made this whole song and dance. That was the end of me trying new foods. She knew what I was doing and it was now a daily interrogation of "what did you try today? WELL? Was it nice? No? Oh fgs!" And adding all these things to my lunch box because if I was trying them At home then of course I could try them at school infront of everyone who already knew I was a weirdo.

Take all that away and the anxiety goes away, and gradually it seems a bit more possible to try something new knowing nothing bad will happen if you don't like it

So then you agree when people become adults the fussiness recedes because they are in control of their environment and all that goes away and as such no need to have a list of only eight children's meals you will eat as per the ops husband?

No

you serve a perfectly normal meal, say a meat pie

Not once have I ever been served a 'meat pie' at a dinner party!

I'm with Bandeau.

I actually eat everything. But I think I have sufficient imagination to conceive of the idea that, just because I personally don't suffer from the affliction, the affliction is not necessarily 'made up'.

Like anything, "fussy eating" is on a scale, and there are differing reasons for it and different circumstances perpetuating it. Some "fussiest" will have the will/bravery and ability to expand. Others will not. Can't generalise on that, but constant pressure and criticism is not the way forward for anyone.

No

Then why write it?

Someone I know could never bring themselves to eat meat - right from childhood. No moral objections, more like a phobia.
They had hypnotherapy and now happily eats meat.

Why write my personal experience? Because a less informed poster asserted something as fact that wasn't necessarily so. I countered with my own personal experience to show an alternative explanation for the behaviour. Hth

I know someone who hasn't eaten meat since childhood because she can't cope with the texture, no moral objections at all.

I have also had two sessions of hypnotherapy but sadly they were unsuccessful.

I guess they saw it as a problem, but eating meat is in no way necessary these days when veggie food is abundant and very easy to find.

Oh, sorry misread that. Thought the person had had succesfull hypnotherapy. Apologies. It is difficult.

You don't have to eat meat though. Not eating meat doesn't make you a fussy eater.

I see some posts have been deleted. Not the one telling me to piss off or the one calling me an 'old bird' though

yesyes that person's hypnotherapy was successful, I confused things by saying mine wasn't. Sorry!