to put a note on communal door regarding my baby!

[Yolannnda]

I would really love a consensus of whether I am reasonable or being a bit precious

I live in a block of 6 flats, with a communal front door, it is a very big heavy door and we are the flat groundfloor, right next to it. My bedroom (where the babies cot is currently) is the room closest to the door.

Everyone who opens the door (the tenants/owners, postman, visitors etc. let the door slam after them which results in a very loud bang, if it is the postman then this is two loud bangs a few minutes apart. With the window open in this heat we also have to listen to visitors shout into the intercom.

I accept there are times shutting the door softly isnt easy, postman/large deliveries but this is every person so atleast every half an hour and it is driving me mad. Today I have tried to put the baby down to sleep 4 times and everytime she is asleep for a few minutes then bang the door and shes crying. I have a DS who has spent no time with me today as I have spent most of it comforting/settling the baby and Im at my wits end!!

WIBU to put a note on the door asking visitors to close it softly??

The baby can only sleep in that room until we can move as DS's room is too small for the cot.

Yabu and precious, sorry.

Your baby will learn to sleep through the noise.

Is there any chance you could get soft close mechanism fitted?

Who is responsible for the communal area? Try to get a door closer on it, can't be that expensive.

Can't see the harm. It's not like you're chasing people to shout at them about it.

I can understand your frustration and annoyance.

Could you relay your concerns to the management company and ask if they would consider installing a "soft" closing mechanism to the door?

Change the damper/ closer hinge. You can adjust it so the slam is slower. This is what I did in the same situation.

YANBU or precious!

I'd hate that and it would drive me crazy too!

A soft close mechanism might work?

Cheers to all the soft closing mechanism supporters!

YABU. It's part of living in the flat you picked. Can you contact your landlord/ building maintenance and offer to pay for a soft close door?

I feel like you must live in the same flat I did when I had a baby! It was soooo noisy the whole flat shook. I did write a note and nice people remembered but some people didn't give a shit. I don't think it's precious to ask your neighbours for some consideration!

You are not being unreasonable, just keep it tactful. Something on the lines of "Please help. Please close the door as quietly as possibly so that my baby can sleep.Thank you.

I'd hate that and be looking to move.

I presume the council must own the communal area? 3 are council flats, one owned and two rented.

I dont think she will learn to sleep through it, its a sudden very loud bang it wakes me too if someone goes out at night (rarely). The door is literally the other side of the bedroom wall.

We have the exact problem- same number of flats and we are ground floor too. Our issue is with the main door being slammed late at night- 10pm onwards, even though it is easy to just close the door quietly. Maybe speak to the property management company?

YANBU....but I think you might get a bit of eye-rolling.

Unfortunately noise comes with communal living (I am in ground floor flat and have the garages directly underneath us)

I have lived in a flat where there was such a note on the communal door (not even any babies in any flat). I was perfectly happy for this to be put with and cannot believe people think it's unreasonable. But symptomatic of the "me,me,me" culture that so many posters here promote.

How would I go about finding out the owner of the building? And is a soft close something that I could remove if/when we move? I dont know if I would need permission to install something permenantly?

I'd put a note up, but you don't need to mention the baby. Just ask that people close it carefully as when it bangs its really loud in your flat.

Oh and I appreciate that we did choose this flat, but we had to move at quick notice in my pregnancy and we have never lived in a flat before so I actually didnt even think about this problem .

I just thought ground floor was ideal with a pram etc. the communal living and people moving around shutting their front doors etc. I can live with as obviously there is going to be noise but the front door is really grating on me!

I know what this is like - the BANG is really loud! The door should have a closer at the top. It might also have a metal plate at the bottom on the hinge side? These can be adjusted so the door closes slower without the bang. It can be a fine balance between that and the door not closing properly though.

Also, I don't think YABU to put a note up. If there are only six flats some people may take notice and be nice! Worth a try!

I can see why you're annoyed but the door needs adjusting and then you won't have to deal with people forgetting.

I totally don't think that's unreasonable. It's the same in our block. You can hear the door slam 4 floors up. If I was by the front door it would drive me potty.

Sympathies, I lived in a flat with a baby that woke at the sound of a creaking floorboard, the door slamming made me murderous in my heavily sleep deprived state. I would fit a soft close, they're not very expensive and yes they can be removed. Failing that you can get soft velcro type strips that you stick around the doorframe which might help somewhat, we just put some on a door at work that was slamming and annoying everyone.