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to get slightly annoyed on MN at times by the general "perfectness" that is being displayed

153 replies

emkana · 20/03/2007 19:39

Reading through threads I get a bit fed up sometimes because it seems that everybody on MN seems to have the oh so perfect life - a rich and varied social life, a fantastic relationship with dh/dp with meaningful conversations over a bottle of wine several nights a week, plenty of stimulating activities with the children, fresh, organic, healthy food of course, reading high-quality books...

and so on and so on...

am I just in a bad mood today?

OP posts:
bossykate · 20/03/2007 20:36

"a bottle of wine several nights a week..."

the rest of your post said nothing to me about my life...

MamaG · 20/03/2007 20:36

You obviously haven't read all my posts emkana!

Like others I post good bits and bad - when DH was working and out a lot on an evening, MN was a lifeline - couldn't see RL mates so came on here. You'd tell your RL mates good and bad right? SAme on here

Rhubarb · 20/03/2007 20:36

I don't like braggers at all.

But there is a difference between bragging all the time and sharing something that you are really pleased about.

If my kid does something badly then I might tell for advice, support, reassurance etc. So why, if they do something well, can I not share that? We all need cheering up every now and then and if Mumsnet were just full of sad tales then it would be a bloody crap place to be!

Mercy · 20/03/2007 20:37

Posting about achievements is not the same as bragging imo

wotzsaname · 20/03/2007 20:37

glass half full, not half empty. I come to have a laugh, if you knew half the stuff (which I sure some tell and some don't) you'd be bored to tears mostly.

3andnomore · 20/03/2007 20:38

kitty, I am not sure if you have ever met a online friend n real life...but I know, that since I have actually met a fair few online people in real life it has sort of more sunk in that there are real people at the other end, so, personally I don't have a problem with getting involved into their lifes and cheer or cry or be angry with them for them....even if I don't necessarily know them in real life!
Not sure if that makes sense!
So it's only natural really that people share the good, teh bad and the ugly...some people may just need to vent or rant, or if they are happy/proud of someone, like their Kids, they also just wnat to share, nothing to do wiht bragging most of the time, just with being pleased for an achievement!
Some people find it easier to make friends online then in real life.
To the OP...I am sure those threads so exist, lol...but I think all in all there is a good variety of people posting from all sorts of backgrounds, so, it is sort of a mood thing how we take a message!
Probably also depends which boards we read, etc...

Pinkchampagne · 20/03/2007 20:38

Well I can confirm that I am the opposite of all the things you're describing there, emkana!!
Had very dodgy relationship with my now ex husband, drink the wine to myself!, I terrible mother, who has fed her children pizza for tea & is having a ready made meal myself tonight!

Does that make you feel a bit better??

Blandmum · 20/03/2007 20:38

and to be honest some of ds's sucesses have been things like eating pizza for the firt time! That was an epoch making day, I can tell you!

IntergalacticWalrus · 20/03/2007 20:39

I'm the opposite to waht you descibe too.

I ming and I smell of poo and I'm unemployed/unemployable

Rhubarb · 20/03/2007 20:39

I think we need to define bragging and sharing good news.

They are very different.

TeeCee · 20/03/2007 20:40

I have a rich and varied social life, a pretty damn good relationship, we have a laugh and when i'm not pregnant enjoy botles of wine together, have a laugh with our kids, they eat fresh food, I don't ever give them sweets and they only drink water or milk .... and so on.

However, I also have lots of bickery arguments with DP, he can drive me mad sometimes. My kids sometimes moan loads and drive me mad. My eldest has Down's syndrome and sometimes that's really hard, she can also be very difficult and has recently started shouting and is very stubborn and strong willed and just generally hard work and I feel drianed by it all sometimes. My sister has such bad OCD it breaks my heart and I worry about the strain it has on my mum. We have to move to make room for the new baby due in Sept and I worry that we can't really afford it. My ex best friend turned out to be a bitch from hell and took a large part of my social life away with her when she turned on me and it really pisses me off still. My company is going through a rough time. My step sister has been sectioned and no-one really knows her anymore.

I just don't dwell on the shit in my life and don't feel the need to drag it all up and moan about it on mumsnet every day. It's easier to chat about the good stuff, of which there's plenty.

Blandmum · 20/03/2007 20:40

Comes of being a walrus, darling. you can't wipe your arse properly with flippers.

WideWebWitch · 20/03/2007 20:40

Mind you, maybe I'm not really qualified to comment since I'm not here during the day and so I miss a lot. Have a missed a particular smugfest then?

Btw, in relation to your OP:

a rich and varied social life, NOPE
a fantastic relationship with dh/dp with meaningful conversations over a bottle of wine several nights a week YES
plenty of stimulating activities with the children NO THEY ARE LOOKED AFTER BY OTHER PEOPLE MOST OF THE WEEK
fresh, organic, healthy food of course, YES
reading high-quality books... YES
my kids are spectacularly thick though if it makes you feel any better

IntergalacticWalrus · 20/03/2007 20:41

And you wouldn't belive the amount of shite that gets caught between rolls of blubber.

3andnomore · 20/03/2007 20:41

lol @ mb's comment there...

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 20/03/2007 20:42

I think there is a huge difference between wanting to share things that you are pleased about and bragging in a way that makes Emkana feel bad. Bragging in order to convince yourself you're ok.

IntergalacticWalrus · 20/03/2007 20:43

believe

I felt the need to highlight my stupidity.

WelshBoris · 20/03/2007 20:44

Show me the bragging go on pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

So we can all snigger and laugh at someone elses insecurities

Blandmum · 20/03/2007 20:46

IGW

you might like to try this new perfume, your sort of thing I think!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/03/2007 20:46

I am having an unbelievably fantastic time at the moment. After a long period that was smattered here and there with shite.

I thoroughly object to people pissing on my parade when I am on a high, because their life, at this precise point in time, is shite or "less than perfect".

I've never felt the urge to piss on someones parade however low I have felt. In fact, I find it inspirational, usually.

Yes, you are being unreasonable.

littlelapin · 20/03/2007 20:47

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welliemum · 20/03/2007 20:47

I'm laughing at this thread because I think MN has recently had a rash of posts where people are almost boasting about how much junk food their children eat, in thier haste not to be accused of being smug and perfect.

I said I thought that was silly and got attacked from all points of the food spectrum, so that was me told then.

Sooooo..... Mumsnet. Perfect or anti-perfect?

(Before I lynched again I'm being tongue in cheek here - I know there's a big middle ground).

WelshBoris · 20/03/2007 20:47

I'd go bonkers if anyone pissed on your parade at the moment QV.

In a very cliquey manner

VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/03/2007 20:48

LOL wellie!

IntergalacticWalrus · 20/03/2007 20:48

ooh, MB, I need some