to get slightly annoyed on MN at times by the general "perfectness" that is being displayed

[emkana]

Reading through threads I get a bit fed up sometimes because it seems that everybody on MN seems to have the oh so perfect life - a rich and varied social life, a fantastic relationship with dh/dp with meaningful conversations over a bottle of wine several nights a week, plenty of stimulating activities with the children, fresh, organic, healthy food of course, reading high-quality books...

and so on and so on...

am I just in a bad mood today?

defo not rich, dp not around much to share meaningful conversations most nights, ds is addicted to cbeebies and food is whatever we can be bothered to rustle up. But apart from that yes, I'm oh so so so perfect.

I've thought of something else spidermama

There always seem to be soooooooooo many posters whose children knew the alphabet at 18 months/read Lord of the Rings at 4 years of age

where are the people whose year 2 child is still struggling on the bottom levels of ORT?

(Of course I do know that plenty of MNers have a hell of a lot to deal with, and they all have my sympathy.)

they're there, emkana, but you don't notice and people don't mention it as much. lots of kids are (gasp) average too.

But I know what you mean. it sometimes seems that all the 4 yr old mumsnetter daughters can read where dd can't.

I'm having a bad few weeks atm, let alone days, Emkana and know how you feel!

I think Fio's post says it all really

people want to brag about there perfect lives coz it would make really boring reading to go on about the normal crap that we all put up with. the only reason i have several glasses a wine in the evening is usually because i need it after a day in my far from perfect house!

i never professed to be perfect - my house might look like something anthea t would be proud of but im obsessive about it on the other hand i feed dd sausage rolls fruit shoots let her have the odd mcd's sometimes i cant be arsed to cook so we have microwave meals all of which are shoot me now crimes in many mnetters eyes!!

its easy to write what you wish things were like here, rather than the boring reality

Just wanted to add there is far too much analysis of childrens behaviour/development/parenting blah blah imo. Parents can get too bogged down in theories and psuedo-psychology.

(obv. this doessn;t necessarily apply to children with SN)

I don't think there's much perfection displayed: I think there are lots and lots of threads about tosser husbands, depression, awful births, being fat, not sleeping blah blah.

Some people are happy, sure, but that's ok.
So maybe it is your mood!

'has this thing kicked off yet?'

OMG i don't think so, usually i come on here to moan about my crap life, and there's generally a lot of empathy and shared experiences on MN. Personally i am sooo far from having a perfect life, but MN makes it bearable somehow!

Emkana, remember the only people who brag either about themselves or their are the ones who feel desperately insecure about themselves and their acheivements.
Remember that

Look on the relationships board for a bit of balance! [grin[

Really kitty?

Bit of a generalisation there!!

So if someone comes on here to say their child has done really well in their ALevels or ballet exam or piano grade then its just because they are insecure?

What a load of bolleaux

Oh, I disagree.

I think MN is where you can talk about stuff that isn't right or is bothering you much more easily than IRL.

The place to meet people with perfect lives is toddler group.

I posted on the current FAB thread but I had to think long and hard to think of anything nice to say about myself, but I felt I should

Know where you are coming from - we have a fairly nice laugh I can work part time, dh is ok although can have his moments, dd's are lovely and gorgeous but dd1 is also a horrible tantrumming 2 yr old who drives me up the wall, got a nice home but big mtg and although we are not hugely in debt we dont have fantastic exotic holidays etc etc

Think majorty of people are the same but if you are in a foul mood or a particular thing happening to you at a certain time then there always seems to be a thread that irritates you because its what you want to happen etc

www and other, yes you are absolutely right of course, but there is another small but vocal contingent which seem hellbent on, well, bragging is the only word I can think of and it's often confined to very small but significant areas of discussion.

I am perfect, I live a perfect life in a perfect house which I keep perfectly for my perfect husband and my perfect child. We are very disdainful of other people because of their imperfections but I think (and remember, I AM perfect) that I am perfectly justified in doing this because how could anyone else ever live up to my perfect standards.

I am off to have a perfect G&T to end my perfect day.

You mean FOOD Mercy

just say it you chicken

Well said WB!

NO WB, I stand by what I said.
I find it really odd that people come and go on about their children's acheivments to relative strangers. To family yes and then possibly friends in real life. On the web ? No.
Tbh I find people who brag in an unsolicitated way a real turn off. Be pleased, sure but don't go round telling the world and his wife

No, not just food.

And I don't think Kitty meant bragging in terms of piano grades or whatever either (sorry Kitty I'm making assumptions here)

opps x posts

To a lot of people, MN is their friends are family

They have been on here a long time, or they are on here a lot. So it is only natural to tell others who are generally interested in their children how they are doing.

I shout from the rooftops about my DD and will continue to do so, in RL or on here.

And I can guarantee I have self esteem issues

well, I've posted about my kid's sucesses. I've posted about their problems. What does that make me? Sometimes insecure and sometimes secure?

I've posted about how happy dh and I are together, I've posted about how shit life is atm.

Don't most people do the same thing?