Hey ladies, looking for some impartial views. Currently sitting here feeling very upset. DH has had a few drinks today. We got into a row on the way home because I refastened DD's car seat before we set off, I didn't think he had done it properly and this pissed him off. He said "he couldn't stand anymore of me being like this anymore" he was miserable with me etc etc and was basically being pretty shitty to me. So this naturally got my back up and I was not in the mood. Later he propersitions me and I say no, less than an hour ago he's telling me how miserable I make him, I was in a rush to drop my knickers. Besides if I'm honest I prefer us both to be sober or both to be drunk when we have sex, perhaps that terrible of me I don't know? Anyway he's since said to me "I don't know why I'm married to you sometimes I really don't", "fuck of you fucking idiot", "we have he worst sex life of anyone I know", "you'll do anything you can to put it off" basically an angry tirade. I went upstairs because I didn't want to listen to him and he followed me up there and started talking about divorce next. He's drunk but he's coherent enough to know what he's saying. He has got such a bee in his bonnet about sex, we've got a four-yea-old and a two and a half year-old and as they are only 21 months apart it really took it out of me physically, my hair was coming out practically in handfuls last year. I'm only really in the last six months starting to feel anywhere near my normal self, I've had thyroid problems, severe vitamin deficiencies, anemia, my hormones are all over the show and I have periods that last 12 days, sex has not been top of my list. Last time he had one of these rants we had a frank conversation about sex and he didn't feel he was getting enough, I acknowledged that and he acknowledged I hadn't been feeling myself etc and we agreed to make more effort and we have been. We haven't had sex for a little about two weeks at the moment because I had one of my mega long periods, dd had chicken pox and I was zonked and now ds has chicken pox and we've had sleepless nights. If ive been too tired or on a period I've offered other stuff. I'd say on average we have sex at least once a week now and often twice. Is once a week so terrible when you have two small kids? Sometimes I am so tired I can barely function. Sorry for the long message but I'm just wondering if I really deserve what has been levelled at me tonight?