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The homeless fire victims

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Charlie97 · 16/06/2017 18:59

Would it be appropriate to go there Sunday morning and bring 3 people back to my home for the day?

I haven't room to put them up (or I would).

But I could offer breakfast, lunch and dinner, a decent bath/shower. A rest in a comfy home and a change of scenery?

Is this appropriate?

I could do this for a few weekends.

OP posts:
BubblesBuddy · 16/06/2017 19:00

No!

Original poster
Charlie97 · 16/06/2017 19:01

Why not? What have I missed?

OP posts:
kaytee87 · 16/06/2017 19:01

You'd be better donating money through the official channels or volunteering at a food bank or soup kitchen

DeadGood · 16/06/2017 19:02

What if the OP doesn't have money to donate, but has all the other facilities she mentions (space, a shower, etc)?

Original poster
Charlie97 · 16/06/2017 19:02

I have already donated money.

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kaytee87 · 16/06/2017 19:04

Op said they could offer breakfast, lunch, dinner that costs money so I was assuming op wasn't poor.

elevenclips · 16/06/2017 19:04

The govt. is paying for their temporary accomodation OP, its on one of the govt. webpages (linked on another thread)

babyturtles · 16/06/2017 19:05

they're not animals to be 'brought' anywhere.

sherazade · 16/06/2017 19:05

To be honest I personally think a friendly face and a change of scenery might be a lovely gesture

PortiaCastis · 16/06/2017 19:05

No, you are assuming people would want to go

ThanksMsMay · 16/06/2017 19:07

I don't think the op planned on cattle prodding them in to a pen babyturtles. Think she was planning on asking adults if they'd like to come to her's for dinner

QuiteLikely5 · 16/06/2017 19:07

I think it's a really lovely kind idea and don't see the harm in contacting the relevant organisation to offer your help.

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Charlie97 · 16/06/2017 19:08

Well I wouldn't be dragging them kicking and screaming.....

And "brought them" to my home is a turn of phrase....I'm very very aware they're not animals. Hence not wanting to leave them to be herded like cattle from one place to another!!

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ThanksMsMay · 16/06/2017 19:09

Op while it's a nice gesture I think they need a place to stay and a base to sort themselves out and might not be up for socialising. But asking never hurt anyone

kaytee87 · 16/06/2017 19:09

I think it's truly a lovely thought, I think these things are best done through the proper channels though.
I wouldn't go to a strangers house if they invited me round, especially if my kids were with me.
There's lots of organised things you can help with.

DeadGood · 16/06/2017 19:10

"Op said they could offer breakfast, lunch, dinner that costs money so I was assuming op wasn't poor."

Well, let's say she can offer porridge, toast and tea for breakfast. That would probably cost about £1 per person. That as a cash donation wouldn't go very far, would it? But as a gesture, prepared and offered in a home environment, it would be worth more than £1. Don't you think?

kaytee87 · 16/06/2017 19:11

As a cash donation it would go further food wise as if organised properly food can be bought in bulk.

I'm not saying it's not a nice idea, I personally just think there are better ways to help that the victims themselves would probably feel more comfortable with.

PurpleDaisies · 16/06/2017 19:11

I agree with kaytee, you've got good intentions but you're better trying to link with a charity. I wouldn't go to a random person's home.

toffeeboffin · 16/06/2017 19:12

Er, if I was one of the victims I'd bloody bite your hand off OP.

But that's just me.

notknownatthisaddress · 16/06/2017 19:12

Ummm, any reason why you can only have people on Sunday(s)?

You heart is (probably) in the right place but having them around for Sunday lunch isn't going to help anyone much.

LoudestRoar · 16/06/2017 19:13

People will be processing this in different ways. Of course you'll have some people who don't want to leave, but equally others who will feel a change of scenery could be the best thing for them. I would however suggest your offer by official channels and coordinate it that way. I think it's a lovely idea

x2boys · 16/06/2017 19:16

lots of local people were offering similar on the news, people may or may not want to take you up on your offer OP but you can ask?

TheAntiBoop · 16/06/2017 19:16

How far are you? I would think it might be better to offer the same to local people who may be homeless or lonely (I believe there are charities that can put you in touch with isolated elderly people)

It's a lovely idea but I should imagine at this time people want to be near their friends and family. However, there is a website that has been set up where you can email them with things yu can offer so always worth asking

Aeroflotgirl · 16/06/2017 19:17

What a lovely thought op, however I would donate money, or your time in one of the rescue centers.

Iflyaway · 16/06/2017 19:17

Would it be appropriate to go there Sunday morning and bring 3 people back to my home for the day?I haven't room to put them up (or I would).

You are not only contradicting yourself but making it all about you, not them.

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