The homeless fire victims

[Charlie97]

Would it be appropriate to go there Sunday morning and bring 3 people back to my home for the day?

I haven't room to put them up (or I would).

But I could offer breakfast, lunch and dinner, a decent bath/shower. A rest in a comfy home and a change of scenery?

Is this appropriate?

I could do this for a few weekends.

Ignore that poster Charlie

Lovely thought. I do wonder if there are charities that you can go and help in person - that feels a lot more satisfying that's donating a tenner.

If that's "making it about me" then so be it.

What a lovely idea OP, call one of the centres and check out with them what they think? They are best o let you know what survivors want most x

It would possibly be uncomfortable and embarrassing. They've lost everything but still have their pride. I'm speaking to how I'd feel though. I'm sure they're getting fed breakfast, lunch and dinner, and have access to a shower by now. They could probably do with a change of scene but some will have family or friends they can go to, some might have even been housed temporarily outside the borough for now. How would you access them too? Just turn up where you thinking they're sleeping on a church floor and pick a family? Nice offer and I'm sure it's meant well but I don't think it's a good idea.

Search for Red Cross London Fire Relief Fund.
As ever there will be pondlife trying to scam donations.

Even if people think OP is mistaken in their wish to help why be sharp or rude? None of us are perfect.

Where do you live op?

It is a nice thought OP but I would listen to sensible posters talking about how to help via the established channels.

No need for them to be nasty.

Oh god poor lady. I am shocked seeing it all, and the charred remains of the tower block. It could have been entirely prevented.

Kind thought, but best to go through the organised channels. The area is overwhelmed with donations - so many they can't take more unless of things they specifically request. The shelters that the residents are in are rightly inaccessible to the public, so even if you went there, you wouldn't get anywhere near the people who have lost their homes. They are in need of volunteers though. Again, don't just turn up, but check on sites like these:

www.facebook.com/groups/803832793107700/

www.facebook.com/groups/386972045032265/

grenfellsupport.wordpress.com/

Ok

To answer a few questions....

1. Why only Sunday.... because I work full-time Monday to Friday ....but have a work hard deadline so need to work part time Sunday. Why do you ask though????

1. I live in South London.

1. How could I choose....I can't hence my request is this AIBU???

1. This offer has nothing to do with poverty, but it has to do with people needing help. If your family member can afford alternative accommodation, that's great....crack on! But she might just need a break if she can't.

1. I take on board the safe guarding issue....totally reasonable. I hadn't considered that!!

I think that is a right nice thing to do they can always say know. I would really appreciate the kind offer and say yes. You are helping people to feel human.

They are definitely looking for volunteers to sort through the donations etc or to drive people around etc etc so there are a number of things you can do - the grenfell website linked above can help

Thank theant, I will look at that.

Work part time Saturday! Not Sunday!

So for where I live c. 45 mins in early or late traffic.

It's a nice thought but a lot will be highly traumatised. Are you equipped to deal with that? Just offer your services through the channels that have been set up. I think that would be more effective. Your plan just seems a bit naive and idealistic. There just seems too many practicalities to overcome. As someone said upthread, what are they going to do at yours? Play monopoly? Make small talk with a stranger? They could be feeling fragile, angry, tearful, pissed off your home is intact. Who knows! Thinking it through surely you can see all that? Maybe it something for the future when things have calmed down but even then I wouldn't have thought so.

What happens when they make no move to go at 8pm as they've fallen asleep or are shaking and crying. What are you going to say to them?

Why not just ask the volunteers in charge?

What happens when they make no move to go at 8pm as they've fallen asleep or are shaking and crying. What are you going to say to them

Fair point, but you could've been kinder in delivery?

I'm not offering in malice, but in kindness!

No.

They shouldn't be homeless.

Why are they homeless?

There will be no safeguarding or plan. Trust me on that.

OP bless you for offering what you can. I hope people keep hold of these sentiments after the cameras leave and people will really need advocates.

It's a lovely idea and your hearts in the right place, but I'd imagine there's so much chaos and confusion going on, it would be better to donate money so it can be channeled where needed. Or you could look for agencies who are asking for volunteers if you want to help.

Is it just me who is thinking there would be nothing worse for me?

Maybe I'm chronically anti social but I honestly can't think of anything to send chills down my spine more than being forced to spend a day at a strangers home making small talk!

There are charities which help people to do exactly this for lonely elderly people. I'm sure your kind gesture would be welcomed.

charlie I know you're not offering it in malice! But think it through, please. Sorry you didn't like my delivery but these are questions and situations you need to be thinking about. And if you haven't then you're being very naive.