In feeling annoyed with couples who take up large family homes but have no children

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Friend of mine and her partner have just bought a really big 5 bedroom family house. They are both mid 20s, no children but claim they intend to start a family soon.... They bought the property on this basis. ABIU in thinking this is ridiculous.There is no guarantee they will even be able to have children let alone multiple. The house is in a fantastic area, nearby to a wonderful school and I know any houses in the area are snapped up as soon as they are on the market. My friend was up against lots of families who all placed offers on the property, however my friend trumped them all with a better offer. I feel this is a total waste of a large family home and can't help but feel it's ridiculous and rather greedy and selfish!

YABVU and totally ridiculous .

Oh and we rent privately and have a 4 bed house with a conservatory we hardly use. And only two DCS. What an absolute bloody scumbag I am. Spending my own money that I work for on something for myself. I expect the death threats will be arriving soon.

I think you are taking it out on completely the wrong people. I agree insomuch that houses are not distributed in a way that suits the population as a whole but that is not the fault of the individuals. Perhaps you could turn your angst towards the lack of decent houses being built or towards the stamp duty system/ attitude that your home is an investment where it costs so much to move that people are forced to buy as big as they can early and then later rattle around in the empty nests instead of downsizing.

To think it is selfish of your friends is ludicrous, you need to go and buy them a lovely housewarming present and keep this nonsense to yourself.

We bought a 3 bed house before we had kids and tried to pay off as much as we could on two full time wages knowing that our income would be less at least for a while when/if we had kids.

I haven't read all the posts so apologies if someone has already pointed this out but

On another thread, the OP claims to have just bought a 4 bedroom house and she has no children

Not that I expect her to come back to this thread, if most of her others are anything to go by.

Oh I see someone has

Seriously?

Why shouldn't they be able to buy the house they want?
To let rooms, to have family around, to sleep in different rooms every day of the week, whatever they want.

If they like it and in a nice area, it means they won't have to move. Perfect.

Yes they sound hideous.
Who works hard for what they want and in turn give themselves nicer things in life?
They shouldn't be planning for their future when they could be thinking about you and your nose being put out

5 bedroom house for 2 people....I hope they haven't got a car with more then 2 seats taking up more room on the road than they need too
Time to grow up OP. Their money their choice what they spend it on!

Well aren't you bitter and jealous. You're certainly no friend to them.

They can buy whatever they like and you would too if you could. That's the real issue. You can't have what you want and you begrudge those who can.

We're trying to downsize.

Our large house suited us when all 3 children were at home. Now too big for the pair of us.

They've all flown the nest.

House up for sale. Not even 1 viewer.

I think the market's dead. Brexit, future worries, over saturation of new similarly priced houses etc aren't helping our downsize.

So if anyone wants a 5 bedroom house, conservatory, study, games room, 4KW of solar panels, double garage etc .......... In NW.

I doubt either thread is real.

I actually find your attitude very odd, and it smacks of envy and bitterness as others have said.

I had my DD and lived in a one bedroom flat, then moved to a 2 bed flat and now have a 4 bed house. If I'd been sensible like your friend, I would have bought a bigger property to suit my future needs but I couldn't afford anything big enough until the last few years. Imagine - quelle horreur! - if I had bought a 4 bed house years ago and managed to save on moving costs, fees etc but still been single/'just' living with my DH....! The shame! Would you have begrudged the fact I did something like your friend too?

Maybe you should try to appreciate your circumstances a bit more and not be so envious. Yes, it is good to aspire to other better things, but not in such a bitter way towards others. One of my good friends has just bought a 5 bed house and has with no children but do I sit there feeling annoyed with him? His circumstances meant he inherited money to do so, and investing in property - the most you can afford - is always a great idea. So leave your poor friend alone and let her enjoy her new home. I'm sure if she knew how you felt about her, she wouldn't be in a hurry to invite you over any time soon...

Makes perfect sense to me. It's better to buy as big as you can afford when both working fulltime rather than waiting until you have kids when you have reduced borrowing power due to maternity leave, going part time and childcare costs.

Journo post surely?

I'd be feeling happy for them rather than moaning about them, because friends are usually supposed to be pleased for each other, aren't they? Why shouldn't they have a lovely house if that's what they want?

How dare they buy a big house? With their money. Whilst having no children?

Yabu jelly much?

Reverse or some bizarre self flagellation.

I live in a 4 bed house and have no intentions of ever having children.

I must really piss you off eh?

I currently have no bedroom- I gave it up because my DCs need the space more than me and it's not viable for me to move right now... And still YABU. Maybe they will still be in the same house in 60 years and it will be the centre of a large loving family- or maybe they will not have children but really love their home regardless.

What???

I could understand if it was social housing but people can buy what they like with their own money.

You're nuts. You win no prizes for reproducing.

I think it's a bit of a made up thread but got people thinking anyway.
North Korea and plenty of socialist places have allocated homes according to need and prohibited ownership of private property including housing. Cuba only recently allowed private ownership of homes.

However most people in the UK support our system of private property and capitalism rather than socialism.
Some people like a big house - there are huge ones which don't cost that much by the way in places like Halifax, bits of Scotland and others like a small cosy place. Where I live large houses are popular as a lot of our Indian neighbours often live with the grandparents and sometimes the cousin/brothers too - two sons with the parents and the families in the same house; you need quite a bit of space for that.

Also at the price level of my house there is absolutely no shortage of homes to sell, in fact neighbours cannot sell them (as they are asking too high a price). It is just that people can afford more like £100k to £200k which easily houses you in a lot of the country but not near me.

kaytee87

Yes I'm from London, I don't know anyone under 30 who actually owns a house, to be honest.

Are you serious!? They have the money, they can buy what they want!