In feeling annoyed with couples who take up large family homes but have no children

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Friend of mine and her partner have just bought a really big 5 bedroom family house. They are both mid 20s, no children but claim they intend to start a family soon.... They bought the property on this basis. ABIU in thinking this is ridiculous.There is no guarantee they will even be able to have children let alone multiple. The house is in a fantastic area, nearby to a wonderful school and I know any houses in the area are snapped up as soon as they are on the market. My friend was up against lots of families who all placed offers on the property, however my friend trumped them all with a better offer. I feel this is a total waste of a large family home and can't help but feel it's ridiculous and rather greedy and selfish!

It sounds like you're hoping your friends won't be able to have children & then you can have a secret crow about them being left with a big empty house. Have a word with yourself

Why don't you get a job that pays more and buy yourself a bigger house if you are so jealous and bitter about your friend?

You sound envious OP. She could have 2 sets of twins in the next few years, nothing wrong with planning for the future you want, even if you might not get it.

I don't know anyone who could afford to do this. What area are they in/what jobs do they do to be able to afford a 5 bed house when they're only in their 20s?

I'd love a big 5 bed house in a great area, but no amount of wishing I had one would make me able to afford it. I only have 2 kids, mind, so by your reckoning OP, I shouldn't be allowed one, anyhow.

My DP and I bought a house a year ago that has three bedrooms, only one of which we currently use. It will be two years at least until they're in use, I pay my mortgage and my bills so I don't see what that has to do with you? We wanted to get the house prepared for when we have children so we don't have to live in a building site or a tiny home when they're small, and we knew we couldn't afford to do that all at once. We're gradually fixing the things that need doing as we don't have an endless pot of money. If it's any consolation we have two dogs who like sleeping in the spare room so it sort of gets used.

I have a friend who doesn't have DC and isn't planning to. She and her DH live in a massive house, although they built it themselves and so it isn't taking a house away from anyone else.

I don't really understand your issue - why can't people have bigger houses than they "need"?

What?! You are odd.

What a delightful friend you are!

Fuck all to do with you where they live.

YABU, they're entitled to buy any house that they want, it's baffling why you've taken such an interest in this.

purits that was interesting information in your post of 13:49. Thank you!

But she is going to have a family... And even if she wasn't going to you are being completely outrageously bonkers.

I don't know anyone who could afford to do this.

People who can afford expensive houses at 20? I know a few. One of my friends (ok late 20s) just bought a (very expensive) house in the South East, keeping their existing London pad. Some people have money, good for them.

Yabvu

Bet OP won`t be back

YABU
My parents have a 4 bedrooms house and there is only 2 of them. Shock horror!!
They bought that house because they wanted a room to become an office and enough space for their children and grand children to stay over whenever they wanted.

It's their choice, their money. Why on earth should they be restricted on what they buy if they can do so?
Or are you intend to implement the bedroom tax on people in general?

Fwiw about buying things yu don't need. It could apply to a hell of a lot things. The latest iphone7 when you still have one that works, a big car whe you are only doing trips in town on your own etc etc
Starting to regulate what people can and can't buy is a very slippery slope.

You sound so jealous, and quite frankly it's none of your business.

Me and Dh had a 4 bed detached with just the two of us, because we could afford it.

Go get a better job that pays, and then maybe get a life at the same time.

We've got a big-ish house too. We bought it thinking kids would come along very soon, that hasn't been the case and it's now looking/feeling like it's either going to take a very long time to have kids or never happen at all.
Should we sell our home now since kids might never arrive? Let some lucky family with kids have it instead and move into a one bedroom flat?

There is no guarantee they will even be able to have children Wow, you sound like a lovely 'friend'.

Friend of mine and her partner have just bought a really big 5 bedroom family house

And ^THAT, dear OP, is where it STOPS being any of your business....

fruitcocktail it's not that unusual surely? We have a big house bought in our 20s (in fact I'm not 30 yet). It's probably only worth £420k as we're in Scotland (although it's a nice area) but I suppose it would be worth a lot more if we were in the south.
I know other people with 4/5 bedroom houses.
Are you from London is that why it's unusual in your circle?

OP, you're so funny (tinkly laugh).

OP, you have a four bed with no kids and that's ok?

Right then.....