In feeling annoyed with couples who take up large family homes but have no children

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Friend of mine and her partner have just bought a really big 5 bedroom family house. They are both mid 20s, no children but claim they intend to start a family soon.... They bought the property on this basis. ABIU in thinking this is ridiculous.There is no guarantee they will even be able to have children let alone multiple. The house is in a fantastic area, nearby to a wonderful school and I know any houses in the area are snapped up as soon as they are on the market. My friend was up against lots of families who all placed offers on the property, however my friend trumped them all with a better offer. I feel this is a total waste of a large family home and can't help but feel it's ridiculous and rather greedy and selfish!

YABU. If they can afford it and want a big place then why not? They obviously have plans to use those rooms at some point.

Also - your friends have no children at the moment so that's 4 less children in the area - 4 less children going to the local schools. That gives 4 children outside the area a chance to get into those great schools. Children who's parents perhaps can't afford to buy a 5 bedroom house in that area.

If I had the money (which we don't) I would by a place that had a couple of spare rooms so I could have a room to do my art and DH could set up his multitude of music equipment in its own room. By that theory we would like 4 bedrooms even though we only have 1 child.

Is this perhaps a reverse?

You're being ridiculous, OP.

whats this gf day?

fuck off to your 4 bed house an shutup

Jealousy is such an ugly trait OP.

Well, I have always lived in family houses often on my own!!! And worked hard to get the money to buy them.

Recently left a huge 6 bed house with just 2 of us in it and moved to a smaller 6 bed house nearer to London.

We are terrible people and should be shot as we are too old to even consider having children.

They offered the most money. Welcome to capitalism 101.

This is ridiculous. If I can afford it and I want it I will buy it. Why should anyone not live where they want to because someone else might want to live there. I thought this was going to be about council houses where you'd have had more of a point but YABVVU

My friend was up against lots of families who all placed offers on the property, however my friend trumped them all with a better offer.

Excellent. Will do a tiny bit help to stop the ghettoisation of school places in the area.

OP since you have no DCs yet let me tell you something. It is a fucking nightmare moving house with a baby. It is even more of a logistical nightmare moving house with a small child. If your friend wants to begin her own family of course she's more sensible to buy the big house so they can be there long-term instead of having to uproot everyone in a few short years when they realise their smaller house isn't suited to them.

We have a big house and only 2 DC. If friends mentioned that our two spare bedrooms made us greedy, they'd not be friends. If you spend your life being jealous of others you're going to forget to enjoy yourself.

What people spend their OWN money on is up to them its got feck all to do with you.

Oh and glass houses spring to mind...

OP Did you seriously expect someone - anyone - to agree with you? Really ?

I think you win the prize for the most unpleasant post of the day (so far)

Well, if houses were free and handed out as needed I would understand your concern, it would be really unfair.

Yabvvvu, its none of your business, she gave a better offer and got it quite rightly. You sound jealous. we have a 5 bed house and two kids, I hope that when they are adults and fly the nest, we can enjoy it, and rattle about in it. If you have the money why not!

Frenemy

Ha ha OP this is a great one!

Maybe they should have to pay some kind of private bedroom tax, the selfish fucks that they are, using their own money (*and bank debt) to buy a house with more bedrooms than people. ]

Mabes you could offer to pay their stamp duty and moving costs to encourage them to buy a smaller property?

If you won the lottery and could afford a huge house and you lived on your own, would you buy a one bedroom flat?
I doubt it.
They bought it, it doesnt affect you, so keep your nose out.
Jealousy is an ugly trait, you should try and deal with yours or just keep away from them.

Oh hang on...I see you ommitted to mention you & your man both have good jobs, a 4 bed house, no kids. Are you jealously playing one upmanship to do with your friend now having a bigger home than you in a more desirable area? Or more money..or maybe a better relationship in your eyes? If she hasnt noticed yet that youre not really her friend I hope she does soon...you'll probably spontaneously combust with green slime envy soon

What about those who have their (step)children over every other weekend? If they were to ask 'AIBU to just stick my four D(S)C in the cupboard under the stairs EOW?' they would get a roasting.

Idiotic post user. I've got your number.

We bought our house with more bedrooms than we used at the time when we had no family. We eventually did, so it was wise for us to buy a bigger property than we needed at the time.

Yes, they should have got a one-bed flat or a studio instead . And then paid stamp duty, EA fees, solicitors fees etc every time they need another bedroom.

Are you sure you're friends? I'd be chuffed for any friend of mine regardless of their reproductive choices or limitations.