So my dad is buying my brother a five bedroom house outside, AIBU to think wtf?!

[huuuulahoops]

Just that basically...

Outside is meant to be outright.

Eh?

More info needed op. Much more.

Well, that's a nice dad!

Did he buy you a house?

Lucky brother.

Is there a history of treating you and DB differently?

What are the circumstances Op?

Are your parents usually very generous? It is a massive gift!

I think he's been very generous to your brother and that there is a LOT that you have missed out in your OP.

And what are you getting? An orange in an old sock?

I'm assuming he didn't buy you a house or give you the equivalent amount of money? If so they he is VU! Must be really hurtful OP

It's just my dad, mum is NC. I've just been informed the house includes a granny (grandad) annex for my dad. Does that even change things!?

When will you get yours? Adopt a granny so you can justify needing one!!

Same position here. Dhs mother helped to buy his brother a house. His brother has lived rent and bill free for the last 8 Years so had plenty of money to save so he did save a few grand himself. But dh is apparently an embarrassment because we cant save for a deposit as we have bills and rent and dh has 3 children and one on the way with me. She seems to think money grows on trees and we have loads of spare cash to put away. Won't offer any help but the sun shines out of bil ass apprantly
Not that i would accept a penny from her anyway. I dont want to owe my life to anybody. If we are meant to own a house then we will.
But no your no bu to be pissed off

How old is DF - 95 that's ok. 65 no way!

He's 60.

No its not fair. You buy for one. You buy for the other. It'd piss me off.

Have you asked him about yours?? I would not be able to help myself I'm afraid op.

You need to discuss this with him, if only to hear his logic.

TBH I would rather pay for my own house and not be beholden to someone. At least you won't be left doing all the elder care as you can legitimately say that your brother owes your father and you don't.

Would another way to look at it be:

My dad is selling his house and buying another which he will live in with my brother. To avoid inheritance tax it will be in my brothers name. Odds are, my brother will cop for the majority of the responsibility of looking after him as he ages.

Have you talked to your dad about how you feel about it? He might have plans to sort it all out in his will?

Could backfire if he needs to pay for a care home and they decide the house is his & sell it.

Are you homeless?

I'd rather pay for my own house than have to live with a parent in annexe. Seems like a huge burden to me. (I love my parents btw, I just love them from a 40min drive away, as they do me!)

OP "Does that even change things!?"

given that you've told us almost nothing, how would we know if it changes things?