Wibu about DD's skirt?

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DD is 4 and in a small private nursery. Today at drop off, she was showing her key worker her new cotton dress. The key worker said "DD, the first thing we are going to do is put some shorts on you, you like to roll around don't you, and you don't want the boys seeing your knickers!".

I said, "I'm sorry, but I feel that she doesn't need shorts. She's 4, and wearing knickers, so her bits are covered as far as I'm concerned".

Key worker just said "oh, right".

WIBU? I'm annoyed that the worker has been doing this. I don't want my 4 year old DD thinking that she has to "cover up" so that the boys don't see her knickers.

Where they do wear the lycra skirts it's often out of outdated tradition rather than practicality. You will notice that when the players are training they are usually in shorts.
I'm not going to argue the toss but I've taught early years and I've seen the difficulties girls have playing in dresses and skirts. And how much better they move around in their pe kits. If you disagree - that's your prerogative.

My comment about gymnastics was relating to the pp who.said that gymnasts wear skirts. I've never seen it at clubs or competitions.

YANBU, I would not have been happy with that crazy comment.

You might want to read my first post on this thread then Francis where I said I thought both dresses and jeans are impractical!

For nursery clothes that are inexpensive and comfortable were my only criteria. Leggings, stretchy shorts with t-shirts etc. Never found any difficulty finding stuff tbh. I don't have anything against dresses and jeans in themselves. I wear them. But not to play sport in, or to go for a jog or to the gym.

Gosh OP, your child's key worker would be horrified if she was looking after my 4yo. DD is very proud of getting herself dressed in the mornings but it does lead to incidents like me discovering at bath time on Tuesday that she hadn't been wearing knickers all day 'because you said it was going to be a hot day mummy'. She's 4. No one coming into contact with her at nursery should care about an accidental flash of underwear, even if it is a bit skewif.

Tennis players and gymnastics don't wear skirts they wear skorts. What athlete is going to wear a skirt to compete in.

If its not shorts then its going to be a skort.

Serena Williams wears a skort I have watched her enough times to know that.

Skirt and shorts similar to a skort and what is your point she is dressed appropriately for the occasion. There is nothing wrong with wearing shorts under a dress or skirt when playing around.

As someone else has said, at my kids schools boys and girls get changed for PE together in their classroom up to year 4 (age8) and are (rightly in my opinion) unbothered by seeing each other's pants. So how can seeing pants under a skirt be problematic. I have infant girls in my classes, they all sit on the floor crosslegged, knickers on display, who cares? Not them, not me..

Imho any preschool child that has issues about people seeing them naked or in underwear has had some very bad messages taught by their parents. Kids are innocent and have no embarrassment about their body until adults push their sensibilities onto them.

Some skorts are like that its either shorts or knickers underneath all in one. My first skort at school was knicker not the shorts attached.

Therefore conclusive proof that one of the top female athletes of all time wears a skirt to compete in.

With shorts or running knickers so no one knows what she is wearing underneath it could be a thong for all we know.

My views on the shorts under skirt thing has changed recently. DD is in Y2 and, since reception, some of her friends have want shorts under this skirts. As I recall spending a lot of time upside down with my knickers on display in the 80s, I have said no. BUT a few things changed my mind. When I mentioned the above memory to a school friend, she pointed out that I was one of the few who did that as several of our friends refused to do handstands in case the boys saw their pants. Then I also noticed that DD, who likes to sit cross legged, often seemed to have her vulva showing as her pants were skewed somehow. I almost found myself telling her to sit in a more ladylike position and then decided it would be better to just buy her some short type pants. The DC always have to wear pant at home (this stems from when they were first potty trained & not able to wipe their bottoms that well and me finding some streaks in places I would rather not have found them!) - when DS goes through a phase of getting his penis out, he is reminded not to do it so I don't feel bad telling DD not to show her vulva. I didn't make a guys, just introduced some of those M&S pants into the system. This will mean that next time DD climbs a tree or something and decides her skirt is annoying her, she will have something a bit more substantial to tuck her dress into.