is anyone ever fat and happy?

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I should say straight off that I'm fat and unhappy.
Ive never been happy with my weight and wondered is anyone ever?

also anyone have any tips send them my way

Just for balance, I'm medium Of course I'm unhappy with my body, it's what society has taught me to be.

On the other end of the scale my bmi is 20 and I'm not happy with my body (live a very happy life though). I think if you're unhappy with your body it doesn't matter what size you are, you sort of have to make peace with yourself I think.

I'm fat and happy. I have lovely family, good friends and fab self esteem.

If you're happy with yourself and confident about yourself then size is irrelevant. You can be thin and unhappy.

Have always noticed that when I'm happier with my body I'm happier though. BUT I also eat a lot when I'm depressed so who knows🤷‍♂️

My weight doesn't cause me to be happy or unhappy. I am fat at the moment. It doesn't bother me and I like my body but I know I need to lose some weight for health reasons so I am doing that at the moment. But I don't expect it to make me more happy.

Im happy.
I'm fat.
The two things are not connected.

No I was fat and miserable (and ashamed of myself). It has taken me a long time to slowly lose weight but feel loads better at 2.7 stones lighter.

I've been fat and unhappy. Now I'm less fat and unhappy. I hate my life. It's not all about weight.

After being a normal weight up to the age of 25, I steadily began to gain weight. After 30 odd years of trying to shift it, I remain a size 22 and about 6 stone overweight. I would say my self esteem definitely suffered although I was always surprisingly fit and strong. It's eventually caught up with me now though. I struggle to be as active as I'd like as my knees are painful all the time. Unless I shift the weight I'm looking at significant mobility problems. I'm not even sure if I've left it too late and the damage is irreversible. A knee replacement sorted out the arthritis in one knee but the other knee is horrendously painful with no sign of arthritis, just the tendons struggling to do their job. Hopefully a combination of weight loss and exercises to stretch and strengthen the ligaments and tendons will do the job. I'm upset with myself at letting it get to this but am trying to stay positive.

Of course many fat people are happy, but none are healthy (even though they think they are). Carrying that weight is dangerous to health.

www.theguardian.com/society/2017/may/17/obesity-health-no-such-thing-as-fat-but-fit-major-study

www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jun/12/being-overweight-not-just-obese-kills-millions-a-year-say-experts

Size doesn't always equate to happiness imo! I am slim and not entirely happy! It's about being comfortable with who you are and your life in general!

Yep ,fat and happy .I rarely think about my weight. I do know health wise that I should loose some weight I just can't get that worked up about it.

My husband struggles with his weight. He's not fat but he gets chubby really easily. He is happy but the weight issues annoys him.

I could definitely tone up a bit but I have never had an issue with my weight. I notice a massive difference in how we eat. If there is food out, he'll pick at it - a nut here, a biscuit there but it all adds up. I don't really do that.

He eats really quickly and doesn't realise he already felt full 5 minutes ago. I eat mega slowly and always have done.

He was brought up to clear his plate and has no idea about portion control. If we get a takeaway, I eat maybe half, then put it in the fridge. He'll eat all of his and then be after mine too.

Also, I can't drive so I have no choice but to walk. He will always take the car instead. I noticed I put on a kilo really quickly when he started driving me everywhere.

We are really working together on this eg not having snacks in the house, eating slowly together, not letting him finish off my plate as well as his, and walking as much as possible. He still eats everything he likes, just less, and he has lost about 5kg I think.

As I said, he's happy and everything, just would prefer to not have some chubby bits!

I know people who are fat and happy.

I'm not fat but also not happy. So there's that.

I have been underweight, healthy weight, and obese.

I can tell you that being slimmer does not automatically make you happier at all.

Just don't go thinking "if I'm this size, I'll be happy" because you just won't be. Eat well, do physical activity that you love, try new things and get help for destructive eating habits and you'll feel happier, REGARDLESS of size.

But i am obese and very very happy.

Why?
Yes i am insecure about how i look, no i dont like the way my belly is,

But I gained all that weight from life saving medication and my illness, but now?

I'm happier than I've ever been. Because i realise that I'm much healthier now, I have a job now, I am not stuck in the house now, I have freedom, AND I got a second chance at life.

I would be upset if someone judged me as "fat/lazy/disgusting" for that, so why would I hate myself for it??

Just don't go thinking "if I'm this size, I'll be happy" because you just won't be. Eat well, do physical activity that you love, try new things and get help for destructive eating habits and you'll feel happier, REGARDLESS of size.

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I should have said I think it's my weight that adds to my depression and self-loathe.
I have become unwell and been on steroids for years but I've also become lazy and then eat and feel disgusted with myself :/

17 and a half stone happy here.

Just to add, I was thinking only this morning how much I like my body. All of it. And how sad it must be to hate your body, whatever size it is.

Your body is amazing! Yes, yours! Think of all the things it does every day. Think of all the senses it has and how much pleasure they bring. Think how resilient it is against the world. Don't hate it!

I couldn't personally be happy if I was 'fat' but that's because I've suffered from anorexia in the past. My brain tells me that being fat would be a personal failure and of course, it's not.

Weight shouldn't = self worth, though I'm a hypocrite for saying that obviously!

When I was at my slimmest I was the most unhappy I have ever been. I was contented when larger..... but not happy about my weight! I think there is a lot more to happiness than your size.

I could write a book on this.

I've been normal weight, under weight, overweight, obese, normal weight, obese again, under weight and now normal weight (slim) and have maintained for the past 5 years.

I'm happy now that I'm normal weight, because it has given me the confidence to do things that I didn't do when I was obese, plus I wear nicer clothes and am happier about my appearance.
When I was obese I wore black leggings and loose long tops. I withdrew from friends and social situations. I always felt guilty whenever I over ate, which was every day. I couldn't exercise because I wasn't fit enough.

I wish it didn't matter so much, but it does. I feel so shallow admitting all that.

I think you can be a bit chunky and happy but once you're in obesity territory I don't believe anyone can be happy. Who could be genuinely happy if they can't pop to an average high street shop and pick up a dress quickly or can't fit comfortably into aircraft seats, ride rollercoaster with their kids? Etc. The list is endless. You cut out so many experiences when you're very fat and growing up as a child of a mother who was very overweight was miserable too.

I'm thin and not amazingly happy at the moment. I'd be more miserable if i was fat though.

(I have been several stone heavier than I am now and it is nicer being able to wear any clothes you like).

One of the problems of being significantly overweight is that it brings with it an inevitable element of physical discomfort - chafing flesh, sore feet, feeling too hot in summer, chair arms cutting into you, etc - and this can be misery making in itself.