is anyone ever fat and happy?

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I should say straight off that I'm fat and unhappy.
Ive never been happy with my weight and wondered is anyone ever?

also anyone have any tips send them my way

Santa Claus is fat and happy

I think I was happy being fat. I've lost 5 stone since October, still another stone to go. I feel healthier and I feel fitter and I like how I look in clothes now but I don't feel any different inside. I feel the same so I guess I was as happy then as I am now. If that makes sense

Ocelot I have a wardrobe full of lovely size 8 and 10 clothes that are far too small for me at the moment - it's really depressing. I am low-carbing at the moment though (on the Bootcamp thread) and seeing results, so feeling optimistic - if I can stay on track I might start getting back into them by September - too late for my holiday, though.

I'm in lots of Body Positive groups on Facebook, and there are 'overweight' people who post on those groups who seem to be really happy as they are.

Overweight doesn't need to mean unhealthy and unhappy, and skinny doesn't always mean healthy or happy. Healthy bodies come in all shape and sizes.

The whole diet culture sets people up to fail, a huge majority gain more weight than they lost. Diets make people fat. The binge-purge cycle is so strong, it's really hard to get out of.

And of course, the media and social media play a huge role in setting unrealistic standards and making people feel worse.

I stopped dieting years ago, have very little guilt or shame around what I eat (but do eat reasonably healthily) and maintain a healthy weight. I choose not to read women's magazines, or go on Instagram etc, and I don't have any friends or family who would care if I gained weight. I know its probably not that easy for everyone, but it seems to work for me (and I still maintain that dieting makes people fat, and miserable.)

I'm fat and happy. I've accepted who I am.

My weight does not define me

I'm also funny, kind, laidback, independent, strong and a lot more

I'm a size 20 and unhappy. Having a nightmare finding outfits for a wedding look like a bag of poo in everything I try on.

I look back on pictures of when I was smaller and I still don't think I was ever happy with my size then.

I think it is a confidence issue and how you dress.

Some larger ladies look great.

Fat and happy here. At a size 22/24 I can lift heavier weights & my VO2 max has improved significantly over when I was a size 8/10, because I work out a LOT more. My cholesterol is also lower -- what's out of joint is my thyroid but the medications made me feel rubbish, so I stopped taking them.

I could be slimmer if I ate next to nothing and didn't ever look at a carbohydrate again, but I don't want to live like that -- it's miserable.

I'm a bit overweight and much happier than when I was slim. In order to stay slim I had to exercise obsessively, eat next to nothing, smoke etc. I did this for years and it was mentally destructive.

My lifestyle is much healthier now. I'm happier and I have better relationships. I sometimes wish I was a stone or two slimmer but I'm not prepared to torture myself to get there. I don't worry what I look like, I think I look good enough.

I agree green . I've been on many diets, lost lots of weight then went back to eating and drinking as before and the weight has piled back on plus some. I've maintained my weight as it is for years now.

I think Twiggy (or some other model) famously said "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels".. Tosh... I love my food!

I'm glad there's some that are. :)

Is there any diet that I can do that includes: rice, pasta, meat & potatoe?
I'm really picky with what Eat, only like plain food with no smells or textures. I've had cbt for it but nope still the same.
I lose motivation so easily :(

Do you think 5ft6 and about 11 and a half stone (edging towards 12) is fat? I am a size 12 pushing 14.

Could you just eat normal size 3 meals a day and make sure 50% of what you eat is fruit or veg. No snacking. I think is quite a sensible way to eat.

I am fat and any unhappiness I experience is totally unrelated to my weight. If I ever get to the point of worrying about my weight I'll be happy (if you see what I mean).

I'm the same size as you Indecisivepoppy, although I do have a belly. I don't think it's fat, it's below average.

Depends what you mean.
If you mean are you happy with your body/how you look, then I'd say no, I'm fat and unhappy about it. I don't look good any more.

If you mean happy generally, then yes: I'm fat and fairly happy. Lots of good things in my life, and I've been fortunate in so many ways.

I am really unsure as to what "Fat" is. I have colleagues who must be about eight stone. Thank makes me feel fat. I have never been less than about ten and a half stone in adulthood but my eight stone colleagues and I seem to eat similar amounts!

Tbh, the impression I get is that a lot of posters on this site seem to be hugely hung up on their weight, despite being slim, and it seems to be making them miserable. So judging from on here slim does not automatically mean happy.

With portion control and a decent amount of regular activity there really isn't a reason any food should be avoided as such.

The diet industry has a lot to answer for. It really does.

I'm 5.4 and near 18 stone so enormous. There's fat I think and a bit overweight - I'm not sure how anyone of my size could feel happy.

I'm massive, I get some nasty comments every so often (all from men), clothes don't fit, even my feet have put on weight. I'm out of breath going up stairs or for a short walk. I sweat like a pig even under my hair. I wake up in the night feeling like I'm choking because my boobs are literally pushing under my chin. I've started to get neck rolls round the back of my head.

It's weird, I've never been this big before and I've become sort of hyper aware of the changes in my body - I'm almost fascinated by it. I don't go out as I look dreadful. I go to work and that's it.

My issue is I have no motivation at all, even though I'm basically killing myself.

I've never been able to be fat and happy. At
My highest weight my BMI was 36.8

It is now 28. Still overweight but much better.

I'm not sure if it's actually the increased confidence as my weight lessens that actually results in the increased happiness.

I was 3st 8.5lbs heavier this time last year. Had an awful hospital appointment where I felt fat shamed. I was told with a BMI of 44, They wouldn't treat me. I now have a BMI of 33 and I plan to go lower. I feel so much more confident and my health issues are easing. I'm even exercising.

This time last year I thought I was happy, but I wasn't really 😢

Thing is I read about women like Tess Halliday who insist they are happy, but I don't get it - at her size, she must feel out of breath, maybe have heart burn a lot, sweat and generally feel uncomfortable and so on, not to mention the internal health risks and damage the amount of fat people of my size are drowning their organs in, sewing the seeds for gout, heart attacks, diabetes later in life.

I don't understand people who are obese saying they are happy, it has such an effect on so many aspects of your life - will i fit in the chair, I must not take the first cake at a meeting as everyone will look at the fatty, will I fit through the turnstyle at the station, I can't catch the kids when they run off...

I just can't get with the idea of people selling the fat is happy thing.

God I sound like an awful person. I can be quite charming sometimes honestly

Ive a bmi of 31 and easyJet seats are tight on me

I'm definitely much happier when I'm thinner. I'm just getting over a gastro bug and am enjoying the (short lived) thin feeling. I'm pretty happy when fat but it's much better bring thin.