To be depressed at the parenting I've seen today

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On Friday at the supermarket some woman came across the car park f'ing and blinding and shouting at her husband saying "you can forget me going anywhere tomorrow" her daughter piped up "going where mummy?" "Anywhere with your fucking father" cue more swearing from him then them piling into the car and her screeching off. I felt so much for the poor girl.
Today, same supermarket, woman having a go at her toddler sat in the trolley scowling at him and then when he made a fuss her saying patronisingly "bye bye" and waving slowly side to side whilst walking backwards away from him, again I felt so much for the poor little boy.
Then walking out to the car a woman swearing into her phone with her daughter by her side saying "you can't just fucking drive off you're supposed to be picking up your fucking daughter" And more swearing and shouting.
I realise people don't lead perfect lives and I sometimes shout myself but the way in which it was done shamelessly in public in full view I felt so much for those poor children and the environment they're being brought up in. I found it so depressing.
I'm lucky I just have one child and no stress which I realise makes me less likely to act like this but still :-(

When my gorgeous daughter was about two and a half, and I had a really bad headache, but needed to get the grocery shopping done, and she was being a bit of a pain, (not screaming, or shouting, but just being awkward) - I am very ashamed, that I snarled at her, "Do you want to go and sit in the managers' office?"!! She crushed me when she looked up at me, and quietly said "yes please" I have NEVER forgotten it, and still feel absolutely rotten for it!

Unless I see someone act violently towards a child, I wouldn't be that bothered

Interesting stance. We have moved on when it comes to domestic abuse towards adults and most people (and the law) realise that non-physical abuse can be just as damaging (if not more so) as hitting/slapping etc. But when it's a child who is being verbally abused, we do nothing and wouldn't be bothered. And of course most sensible people can tell the difference between someone snapping and telling a child off for bad behaviour and someone screaming things like 'shut up you stupid fuck' or similar. If that's how you react when you lose your rag, then sorry to burst your bubble but you are not a great parent.

He was playing quite happily, and brought a toy over to show them. The man ( his father?) said in a tone of cold loathing 'Fuck off you little retard".

God, that is chilling. I have a (near-constant) insecurity about my parenting, because it didn't and doesn't come naturally to me at all. I'd never crush a little one like that, though. How bereft of plain ordinary compassion would you need to be?

Chill out!! u dont know whats going on in their lives and what stresses they r under u r being patronising even writing this , i take it u never lose tour tempet or swear or tell your child off,, do u live in balamort by any chance??

no wonder some the kids at school are using this kind of language if this is how their parents behave Shocking !!!!

Please, get a life !

when I see stuff like this I always try to remind myself that I don't know what kind of night/ day/ week these people have had and it isn't fair to judge based on one glimpse. BUT I totally understand how you feel. Especially swearing at the other parent about picking the child up - it's damaging to grow up in a volatile relationship.

Please, get a life !

She has one. It includes compassion for children with unpleasant ones. Perhaps you could do with one?

Good comeback Strange

user I'm sure your dc isn't scarred by you asking if they wanted to "go and sit in the managers office"