To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

Vicky Pollard!!!

Thank you to all who are posting valid arguments based on open minds!

Everyone who says it's wrong don't have their eyes open, aren't posting valid reasons.

Being gay used to be illegal & is still illegal in parts of the world, some gay men wear women's clothes.

Some who are against homosexuality would say that men and women were created to be with each other, however, most will argue that it's as normal as a man and a woman.

However, we were created to reproduce but we still accept it.

I see some gorgeous dresses and think it's a shame that I'll never have a daughter to wear them. Then I think of how bankrupt I'd be if I was buying gorgeous dresses for my children instead of boring boys shorts and jeans and realise that there is a silver lining after all!

OP, please can you be truthful and tell me why you posted. It's coming across that you are not interested in what people think and thatbyou just want a bunfight for the sake of it.

It's a bit pointless. Dress your kid how you want. Make sure you take lots of photos to show him when he is older

Why bother asking if you ABU, if you've already decided you're not ?

Humans were hardwired to respond to the hormones and chromosomes in their body. Testosterone can cause typically "male" behaviors, such as aggression and competitiveness, and higher sex drive. An area of the hypothalamus at the base of the brain is much larger in male than females. It's called the sexually dimorphic nucleus.

An experiment on rats in the 1960s showed that when they manipulated the hormone levels, the males acted like female, and vice versa. In the 1970s, scientists found that female monkeys deliberately exposed to more testosterone in the womb engaged in more rough play.

A 1982 study showed that little girls born to mothers who were injected with male hormones to prevent miscarriage were more aggressive than other little girls.

I could go on, but you wouldn't listen, would you, OP?

Goady as fuck.

I don't for one second believe any sane parent would actually do this.

Goady....yes
Mentally ill.....yes
Journalist.....yes
Daily mail tomorrow....yes

What's goady is questioning someone's mental health based on 1 thread!

This is just getting batshit now.

Surely if you think clothes should be neutral and not gendered so as not to teach your child whether they're a boy or a girl and let them decide themselves you would not choose anything stereotypically "girly" or "boyish" you would chose simple clothes of block colour (any colour) and you wouldn't make a fucking big deal about it being a dress.

If you want gendered clothes to be a thing of the past then why the fuck do you want to buy a "cute" dress.

If you want to be gender neutral and let your child choose their own gender then fine. I don't see how putting him in a dress for "7 hours" will do that.

People talking about what they dress their daughters in are missing the point that it's culturally OK to dress girls in anything, whereas there is this massive taboo against dressing boys in "girls" clothes. It matters because it generalises to behaviour. Girls behaving like boys is ok or admirable, boys behaving like girls is weird unnecessary and indicative of future MH problems (to take a few themes from this thread). If it's not ok to put a baby in a dress is it ok to expect a little boy to learn emotional intelligence, compassion and self control?

YABU

You're an idiot

Just wondering OP, if you can't cope with strangers disagreeing with you on the internet. How will you cope if someone says something to you about DS's attire in RL 😐. Also wondering if you have done this with your other children and if not, why this one?

Poor grammar ...yes

Just remembered, I recently bought a 'girls' tshirt for DS as it has brightly coloured butterflies on, and I'm getting pretty sick of diggers and dinosaurs.
All babies and toddlers are 'dress up dolls' to some extent because their parents dress them! That's not a bad thing, and personal taste of course varies from person to person.

P.s. I'm actually quite jealous that an outfit would last 7 hours.

whatwouldgenghisdo I dressed my DD in clothes that were given to me and looked neutral out if necessarily, not on a whim

Ffs!!

I will raise my DS as a boy. I just don't see why I can't put him in a fucking dress!

I'm not planning on parading him around to argue the toss about gender neutral kids....he will be a boy, he IS a boy.

I JUST WANT TO PUT HIM IN A FUCKING DRESS WITHOUT BEINH ACCUSED OF BEING MENTALLY ILL!!

That isn't to say that I believe in gender conforming. I don't. Do whatever the hell you want, be whatever the hell you want. But to say that none of it is biological is slightly unfounded.

I just put mine in baby-grows until they crawled. Why put a baby in a dress? Keep them comfy. Why worry about what they wear? Maybe I'm weird but I didn't really care about what they wore, they puked on everything anyway. I now have a dress girl and a girl who loves jeans and hoodies. Surely at that age comfort comes first?

If it's not ok to put a baby in a dress is it ok to expect a little boy to learn emotional intelligence, compassion and self control

But having emotional intelligence compassion and self control isn't just for women is it? It's for any decent human being.

Just because I don't want to put my son in a dress (before he is old enough to want that) does not mean I do not want him to have emotional intelligence, compassion or self control. I want him to have all of those things. I even want him to be self sufficient and not rely on anyone else. I want him to be independent, to be able to look after himself. I want him to be confident, kind loving and fair. I would want all of that for a daughter if I had one too.

Boomcack if you'd had a little boy and been given lots of frilly dresses would you have dressed him in those out of necessity so cheerfully?

Absolutely nothing wrong with it unless there would also be something wrong with putting a girl of the same age in a dress.

Pink flowery babygro - fine.
Dress - not really suitable for a little baby, regardless of sex.

Dresses are ludicrous for babies, whatever their sex. I didn't put DD in dresses until she could walk! All you do is spend your time hoiking down the dress every time you pick them up. They don't look cute, they just look daft.

Oh purlease, so anyone who doesn't agree with you is not open minded and your insinuation of homophobia is pathetic. Dress your child how you please but AIBU is for when you want a genuine and varied opinion on your post, not a backslapping, self congratulating, affirmation exercise

Okay guys, so say a friend buys my DS a dress & gives it to me...does that mean I can put him in it because I didn't specifically go out & buy it myself??

My DM gave me a bag full of clothes my DB wore 25 years ago, it's very very girlie for a little boy, yet no one even looked oddly at us when we went out.