To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

Just read your post as x-posted. You're not coming across very well. Give up the caps lock and the swearing, and buy a dress if you must. I'm sure he'll love the baby photos

Haven't read the whole thread because I can't be arsed, but it's your baby and if you like the clothes, put them on him. People's reactions are actually insane - it's a piece of material. I bet a lot of the people here have had sons in christening gowns but that will be different, I'm sure. Just do it OP. If people actually care that much about what piece of material you drape your baby in, they're the ones with issues.

I don't think dressing boys in dresses is wrong in itself. But using your baby to make a point about gender in society is wrong.

And fwiw I didn't say no when my DS wanted his nails painted at the school fair or dresses up as Elsa.

Have you got a photo of them?

I was given babygros, trousers and tops, mostly in various colours. Out of necessity yes, because my priority was clothing my baby. Winter baby, not proving a point to society like OP

Get off the Internet and put him in a dress then.

No one gives a fuck 😂

Even your son!

The OP isn't proving a point to anyone. She just knows gender is a social construct and wants to raise her son as free from the limits gender places on children as she can.

This

"I bet a lot of the people here have had sons in christening gowns but that will be different, I'm sure"

I bet a lot of people on here didn't have their child christened

My DS is regularly dressed in PRACTICAL clothing.

99% of the time he is dressed in all in one outfits solely because it is very warm & it ensures he doesn't overheat. On a coldish day he did wear a pair of chinos/t-shirt & cardigan (because he looked cute & it kept him warm).

For the first 6 weeks of his life he was dressed in baby grows.

I totally forgot that ALL parents go shopping to buy their children clothes & ask for the ugliest things they have!

Dressing a baby in practical, comfortable clothing is by no means dressing them in "the ugliest things"

I've never understood why anyone would dress there baby impracticalally just because they look good or cute.
So gender isn't important at 10 weeks but looking good/cute/stylish is?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with anything you're doing OP. You seem kind and sensible and I have no doubt will raise a lovely son.

I'm not planning on parading him around to argue the toss about gender neutral kids

Yet I'm still being accused of "making a point"? 🙄

This thread gets more and more hysterical as time goes on.

Amen

Then why ask OP? You seem pretty keen on making a point in this thread.

Erm OK... Because my point about christening gowns was relevant to the post. So what if others haven't had their sons christened? That's not relevant at all.

Because your replies are ignorant & based on what??

What kind of dress are we talking about?
meringue? Gown? Dungeree? Shirt?

The OP isn't proving a point to anyone. She just knows gender is a social construct and wants to raise her son as free from the limits gender places on children as she can.

But she's not brave enough to do it for herself,or to keep doing it once he's older,so she's using a baby..because she can.

Go for it if you want to - looking at these replies I will now judge you if you don't (and just think how it will wind up the nay sayers - you could post a pic and everything )

Based on the impression you're giving.

But for what other reason do you want to put him in a dress?

If it's because "It's cute" then fine. Buy the dress. Let him look cute in it. Then realise how impractical they are for such a small baby take it off and wonder why you bothered.

Babies are cute. They might look cuter in some stuff than others but personally I don't see the point in buying cute but impractical stuff because it will get worn once and then thrown back in the wardrobe never to surface again because it's such a pain in the arse. Someone bought me a pair of skinny jeans for my newborn which i wrestled on once and thought fuck this never again and went back to baby grows.

It's completely true in regards to christening gowns.

It's okay on one day to put a boy in a dress to have his head soaked in "holy water" yet I want to put my DS in a dress & unless I dunk his head in "holy water", I'm crazy??!

"Heads off to buy a dress, holy water & a bible"!

InTheBenefitTrap

You seem to be assuming that

a) people on here have had their child christened
b) the ones who have, are the ones who are arguing against the OP

So that was my point. Your assumption that people are being hypocritical, or inconsistent. When you have no basis for saying that