To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

Brave

not everyone disagreeing has attacked the op but some people have....

So basically you think we should all dress boys in dresses (before they can express that they want to do that) and it will solve everything?

That's just silly. Dressing a 10 week old baby in a dress is not going to magically stop gender stereotyping being an issue.

People should wear what they want I agree regardless of what it is or who it's "meant" for. But dressing a boy in a dress just to make a point that you can is just well, pointless!

OP, if I saw you and your totally pink-dressed baby in the street and said, "Aww she's beautiful...what's her name?"

And you said, "Actually, He's called Richard" I'd definitely think there was something wrong with you.

YES I definitely said we should dress boys in dresses all the time! I mean in its in clear black and whi....wait - I didn't say that did I!

Oh you so nearly got me pheonix! Nice debating skills

Nobody is personally attacking YOU, OP.

Quite a few have, actually.

I think he'd look lovely in a dress, as do most babies....
He's a baby not an accessory. Dress him to keep him warm and comfortable.
Babies look lovely in anything

Ah, but Logical, op would have chosen a gender neutral name, I'm guessing .

But a dress is not gender neutral.

at the grammatical rebellion. OP you are SUCH a rebel!

What is sad is the push to force everyone to conform to this world view. He is OP's child, if that's how she wants to dress him that's up to her, but don't expect everyone to agree with or be swept along with your personal values and world view. I personally don't think that all gender roles are negative. I think there are clear differences in being male and female and these are positives. Our brains are just wired differently. Dont ask for an opinion then get upset when you receive a wide range of views, sons that don't agree with your own

Sounds like you wanted a daughter and got a son to me !!

Boys who are called Courtney

Should we be flaming the mothers for clearly wanting a girl??

My DS is currently wrapped in what appears to be an extremely girlie swaddle....I fear I may have to burn it incase it affects him mentally!

I am currently feeding him from a pink bottle (awaiting arrival from not only SS but the police to arrest me for this heinous act! 😲)

Also, we are inevitably ALL making choices for our babies because they are simply not old enough to share their opinions or make their own decisions. That is our job as parents. It is highly unlikely that any of them are so traumatised by our bad fashion sense that it scars them for life.

Totally agree. You should have seen the horrendous jumpers I had to wear as a toddler. I bear my parents no ill will.

I'd be concerned he grows up think No you wanted a girl.

Because dresses are impractical and intended to make penetrating a vagina easier

So, women were basically forced to wear dresses to make them more rapeable?

Hm, there's something to that. High heels also make raping the woman wearing them easier, and they're very encouraged, if not outright required in some places.

Why on earth is it more damaging to put a girl in a dress than it is a boy?

The statement I quoted above may be an explanation.

Another one would be:

Forcing femininity on girls is very damaging. A boy will not have forced femininity on him by society at large. Even if his mother forced him on it all the time. (In the latter case, he might grow up to be a misogynist; I have met one man who thought feminism was to blame for his batshit mother. But he will escape from all the forced femininity when he turns 16. A girl will never be able to leave.)

by the way it's arethereanyusernamesleft
What's the point really?

OP I feel like you're just ignoring people's points now. From both sides. As I and other PP have said, dresses are extremely unpractical when they're this young. Just stick with rompers, and whatever else floats your boat obviously not the dresses.

Maybe aretheyanyusernamesleft was taken

So many issues being conflated here:

1. Putting a 10 week old baby boy in a dress IS a parent tuning gender into a statement. There are lots of gender neutral and unisex outfits out there. The only reason you'd decide to go far across the other side of the gender spectrum is either to project issues or to prove a point of how amazing and open minded you are.
2. Using pink vs blue baby equipment doesn't make a difference because it's just equipment.
3. It's not about keeping a baby boy like a.tough boy, nor is it 'ban him from playing with dolls incase..."

The OP is clearly under the impression that anything other than a chorus of "you're amazing" is some sign of repressive control.
Personally, taking very stereotypically female clothing and putting it on a boy to prove a point only reinforces gender stereotypes. I'd just dress the child in practical unisex clothing and he happy with it.

I want to hear more about your traumatic birth.

More the after effects as opposed to the entire birth itself.

Agree with dressing like a baby not an accessory and not for attention seeking

Don't be the cause of your son growing up confused with a few issues Op. Indulge your fetish for dresses on a doll perhaps?

Exaggerating for Dramatic Effect

It's almost like you write for a tabloid newspaper

Apologies!

I totally forgot that ALL parents go shopping to buy their children clothes & ask for the ugliest things they have!

No, how many people post online about how "cute" their child is in their new outfit.quite a lot actually