To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

OP started the thread by saying 'everyone' thinks it's wrong to put a baby boy in a dress. She's obviously disappointed that most of us couldn't give a shit, and that many of us wouldn't put a baby girl in a dress either because they tend to be uncomfortable and impractical.

Think that sums it up

BusterGonad So, so much wrong with your posts...

people care how parents dress their children because children deserve to be brought up correctly - Your view of "correctly" you mean. What gives you the right to decide what is correct?

If I turnt around a showed my son photos of him as a baby dressed as a girl he'd be very upset, why would you want that for your child? - Of course I wouldn't, but then I would hope to raise a child with the emotional maturity to understand that wearing a dress at 10 weeks old is not upsetting.

The reason I give damn about how people dress their children is because if everyone turnt the other cheek then children would go through hell due to the fact everyone had blinkers on - Umm, no. If everyone turned the other cheek then there would be no one to give the children hell and we would be living in a much more accepting and tolerant society. Feeling the need to be interfere and judge actually perpetuates the bullies, don't kid yourself that you are doing it for anyone's good.

how people treat their children is everyone's business - No. It is absolutely NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what I dress my child in, in the same way it is none of your business if I choose to breast or bottle feed, or sleep train or co-sleep. You don't get to tell me how to parent.

before you jump on your high horse - Too late, already on it.

dressing a baby boy in a dress isn't child abuse - It isn't.

If the OP carries on the charade of dressing him as a girl for years then yes that is imo. - Is that your professional opinion? Either way, that is not what is being debated here.

I don't think exposing your children to unnecessary bullying and teasing is really good parenting. - The baby is 10 weeks old. Did you miss that bit? What child is going to bully a 10 week old baby? If this is the type of behaviour you expect of your children, I think you need to look closer to home to find the bad parenting. In fact, it is probably parents like you that the bullies learn the behaviour from.

notomatoes please read my posts correctly before you rant! You obviously haven't!

Oh, I'm sorry! Did you not say those things in bold? Not ranting by the way, reasoned debate. Which you don't seem to want to respond to...

notomatoes you are taking everything literally and out of context, you're like a cheap tabloid paper.

Haha, I'm cheap. Lovely.

How exactly have I taken any of that out of context? If you care to respond to the actual points I have raised rather than resorting to insults maybe I could understand.

Havnt read the whole thread but if you get a newborn dressed at all out of a babygro that's good going.

No one cares what babies wear

Actually, scratch that. I have just realised I don't care. Dress your son in what you want and pat yourself on the back for being liberal enough to allow him a pink toy bunny. And in turn I will dress my son how I choose and ignore comments from judgemental pricks people who decide I am weird or odd if I don't conform to their ideals of my children being "brought up correctly".

The most important thing
Is the clothes are comfortable and practical for the baby - not what you think looks better. My DD is always in soft leggings. She can crawl and play without a dress bunching up around her.

My son can wear what the fuck he wants when he chooses his own clothes, but I will enforce my choices on him as a baby because I want to be a super pc liberal parent. You dress your boys as girls and fulfill your liberal dreams.

I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.


However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!
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Is it??



-Hundreds of replies later-



go find another thread to put your close minded views on!

Can't help but laugh. This is AIBU. If people don't agree with the question you posed yourself, then grow some balls and either take those views that you INVITED people to share or just don't post here in the future.

I've only got boys and much as I wanted to dress a girl in pretty dresses that didn't happen for me. But now I look at girls clothes and I think they're horrible. Really gendered ott and not as cute as boys clothes at all. Same with toys. I go into the barbie aisle in smyths and it's so odd!!

Yabu. Just find boys clothes you like and get over it.

I mean I will NOT enforce my choices on him!

Why would you do this? I kept both of my new born DDs mostly in sleep suits or vests until they were at least 4 months old. What is the obsession with a dress for any newborn?

Buster erm it sounds very much like your choices - your choices to go with the majority/stereotyped/what society says is right - are EXACTLY what you are enforcing on your child!

heate They are hard to find, but there are lovely dresses out there. I try to find things that reflect my DD's identity and interests as she has expressed them so far. Her first word apart from "mummy" and "daddy" was vroom. She's a girl. So dresses with cars on say "I'm a girl and I like cars". And dresses with dogs on that she also likes. Both quite hard to find (because girls aren't supposed to like cars and dogs). Same with books - books about girls that like diggers are few and far between but I try to find them because that's what she likes.

Drspouse if dressing my baby boy in clothes that don't include frilly pink dresses and hair bands then yes I am enforcing my choices on him. Who knew after all these years of seeing baby boys in boy clothes or gender neutral clothes how wrong I was!

how wrong I was!

It is like banging your head against a brick wall...

You are not wrong to make your own decisions on how to parent your child, including how to dress them (which, by the way, includes forcing your choices onto your baby unless you don't feed/dress/parent them in any way until they are able to express an opinion).

You are wrong to expect every other parent to make exactly the same decisions as you and to cry child abuse when they don't conform.

And I dress my babies as babies by the way...

Babies do not care what they wear but to dress a boy in a dress when they are of a age to realize it isn't the social norm and they have not asked to wear the dress I think is harmful. The answer to the Op question is I think she is being unreasonable, most of the other points I have made are in regards to dressing older boys in dresses. If you've not realized that in my posts then you are not very bright notomatoes. Now we are all untitled to our opinion aren't we. You dress your kids as you see fit, I personally think someone who goes all out to dress their baby son as a girl, I'm talking pink frilly dresses, pink booties etc has some kind of issues. I am no expert obviously hence why I said I personally think. Also I completely stand by the comment that parents of children OLDER than babies who force their boys to wear dresses are abusing their children. I'm pretty sure if a primary school aged boy who was wearing a dress told his teacher it wasn't through choice I think that teacher would have to report it. I'm once again no expert but at the very least they'd have to talk to the parents. Once again I'm not 100% sure but I think it would be a safe guarding issue.

If you don't come across clearly then that's because you have issues forming a cohesive argument, not because I am "not very bright

Also, you may wish to look up "turnt" in the dictionary before you insult people's intelligence.

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Someone's nit picking....how low can you go notomatoes. I couldn't give less of a shite about your views on my grammar or spelling, I hope you feel better for pointing out my errors. Does it make you feel good?

When someone resorts to personal insults and questions my intelligence as you have it makes me feel very good

Sadly though, I can't keep going much longer. My train gets in soon and I have dresses to buy.

I had to question it as you just didn't get it. Good luck with the dresses, lets hope you don't scar your son for life! I don't give a shit if you do though as luckily I don't know who the fuck you are!