To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

Nothing more adorable or gender neutral than a young baby in a white onesie 😍

Ill bite... OP, what do you want from posting on here in the way that you are? What do you expect to happen?

It feels like you are scratching an itch, and are wanting, for whatever reason, people to disagree with you. You seem to be enjoying when people say buzz words or opinions that you are waiting for. Your responses plough ahead even when you don't get these replies, and it feels rather confusing, such as you for some reason adding in another questions over what colour equipment you are using, and then keep on posting about it as if posters have bitten that one...

Sorry pressed post by accident...

It's all a bit confusing and exhausting. I hope you get something positive from this thread, whatever you wanted and why ever you're shaping it this way. I think it's sad though, if what you wanted was to affirm in your head that people are oh so ignorant about gender and deserve tying up in knots, as I cannot see the healthiness in doing this.

But it's your Sunday morning and I guess you can construct this interaction in whatever way you want, and for whatever reasons.

DS's other parent, you mean his father

Wouldn't have a clue.....

No I am not in a same sex relationship anymore.

If you are desperate to put him in a dress as a baby, go for it. Just remember that they are impractical (rises up at the back and a real pain when putting in a car seat or pram).

I would suggest that you stop doing it when he is trying to learn to crawl though as it will hinder him.

After that I'd only put him in a dress if he asks for it as forcing him to can lead to bullying and possible psychological problems.

I put my ds1 in a dress. He was almost one and it was his big sisters christening dress. He was only in it for like 20 minutes mind. I also have a lovely picture of him when he was 2 in his sisters flamenco dancers dress which he had insisted on wearing. He is 8 now, declared pink as his favourite colour but loves Pokémon/PlayStation and football. Just a normal boy so it hasn't done him any harm. And I doubt the pink leapfrog picnic basket I've recently bought ds3 won't do him any harm either.
If you are worried OP, why not try and get your ds a little kilt instead of a dress to start with?

OP, if I saw you and your totally pink-dressed baby in the street and said, "Aww she's beautiful...what's her name?"

And you said, "Actually, He's called Richard" I'd definitely think there was something wrong with you.

This reminds me of the time I had dd in a pink buggy, with a pink coat, pink trousers and pink shoes and I was asked "what's his name?"

If you're gonna go to see a psychiatrist you might wanna see a surgeon too about the gigantic fucking chip on your shoulder.

IMO you are being unreasonable, this is clearly you forcing your opinions on to your child. Why does your child NEED to wear a dress? Why can't you just out him in bloody babygrows? Literally what does it achieve other than "look at me I don't force gender stereotypes onto my child". Well done for being so "progressive" but it could wait until your child is old enough to ask for a dress, if he wants one great, if not then oh no you'll have to dress him in the dreaded conventional "boy" clothes and miss out on being deliberately controversial.

Even when he's old enough i doubt he'd ever ask to be put in a dress. I've got grandsons, i'd be seriously worried if they suddenly wanted to wear dresses. Their mates would rip them to shreds. I might be old fashioned but dresses are for girls, end of.

DS's other parent, you mean his father

You're very snipey op. You can't blame people for not wanting assume when you mentioned a same sex relationship.

You said partner not ex partner, so I think quite a few posters including myself assumed you were in a same sex relationship and had the child together.

*DS's other parent, you mean his father

Wouldn't have a clue*

So not discussed it with him then?

Do you have an actual dress in mind that you've seen and think it would look nice on him? Or just a dress in general?

No,I wouldn't

Oh the irony of saying "I don't want to make my child a gender stereotype so I'm putting them in a dress"

No!

your forcing your baby into genderised clothes wether it be boy stuff or girls stuff put the child in a babygrow, new borns dont need bloody clothes

We dressed our son and daughter very similarly when they were tiny, in a range of babygrows and other unstructured soft easy clothes. ds wore some flowery things and dd wore some more typical buys stuff, but mostly they wore stripes, spots, plain colours etc. Things that looked nice on them really. Neither wore dresses (or proper trouser type clothes) until they were toddling. I really dislike adult type styles on babies.

I would assume a baby in a dress had a parent who thought it incredibly important to signal to the world that they had a girl. If they actually had a boy I wouldn't think that they were a gender busting hero. I'd think that they were odd, possibly really wanted a girl or were jumping on the identification bandwagon.

it was once normal. Now we have ridiculous notions of what babies should wear the moment theyre born.

Look at Prince Charles!

Just do it OP. Its summer, they are cool, who will care.

How about this:

www.mothercare.com/newborn-girls-newborn-18-months/zebra-romper-dress/LLD722.html?cgid=clothing_newborn_girls#prefn1=clothingStyle&prefv1=Dresses+%26+skirts&start=9

Or

www.mothercare.com/newborn-girls-newborn-18-months/romper-dress/LLD710.html?cgid=clothing_newborn_girls#prefn1=clothingStyle&prefv1=Dresses+%26+skirts&start=12

Neither are feminine and are basically a body suit with a bit of fabric attached that will cover the legs.

Ooh are this one.

These are supposed to be for either sex.

www.mothercare.com/newborn-essentials/little-lamb-bundler/853828.html?cgid=collection-newborn-essentials#sz=12&start=28

These 'dresses' even come in blue for a boy or pink for a girl

www.mothercare.com/newborn-essentials/my-first-little-mouse-bundler/853827.html?cgid=collection-newborn-essentials#sz=12&start=40

www.mothercare.com/newborn-essentials/my-first-little-lion-bundler/853826.html?cgid=collection-newborn-essentials#sz=12&start=36

I had 2 DDs, but didn't put them in dresses until they were toddling because they weren't practical.

However, if you want to make a point then go right ahead, but don't be too disappointed when you realise that other people really couldn't care less how you clothe your DC...

This thread is so weird

Oh dear, I am just reading Pick me up the Magazine, and low and behold on page 34/35 there is a story about boys wearing dresses...

FreeNiki, thank you, thank you for the productive reply. I hugely appreciate it.