To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

I wouldn't have called a bundler a dress... I wouldn't have thought it would meet the 'cute' criteria in the OP.

The more I think about this I can't see why putting him in a dress infrequently is really any worse than a tigger outfit/storm trooper outfit/sailor boy outfit/other fancy dress outfit.

You have to make decisions for your babies and you hope that they'll be okay with them (or at worst just roll their eyes at you) when they're older.

Tying it in to the whole gender identity thing can get a bit dangerous really.

No

For the very last time

I am not trying to make a point, I, yes I simply want to put my DS in a dress.

The only thing that has no gender identity, is a dress.

I will put my son in one, let's leave it as it is now.

You've all told me IABU, I've told you all, il still do it.

Thanks for your input.

Now please, go find another thread to put your close minded views on!

If you want to argue, find another thread!

No, I wouldn't do it. You'll deliberately make him look like a girl. He isnt a girl and he's too young to have an opinion. There are plenty of lovely boys or neutral clothes. Plus, dresses don't look great on babies until they are at least sitting upm

Yabu

Stupid to put any young baby in a dress. Babygro or short sleeve bodysuit when it's hot. Far more comfy. If this is about your baby and not you!

Tying it in to the whole gender identity thing can get a bit dangerous really.

It used to be entirely normal.

Look at Prince Charles on a dress in his first birthday what 67 years ago.

Look at Prince William in an embroidered smock with frilly sleeves and collar 30 odd years ago.

Men wear lilac and pink shirts.

I dont get the pearl clutching for a 10 week old baby.

freenicki
The pearl clutching is because OP hasn't said "I've seen some old school smocks that are adorable. Would it be odd to dress my baby boy in them?".
She's made all this chat about gender etc and then said essentially "I think areally girly feminine dresses are adorable so should I dress my 10 week boy in it" under the guise of I'm so open minded and gender neutral look at me using my child to make a statement.

Most people in this thread have been up for challenging gender stereotypes. Most of us know it's possible to do that without actively looking to provoke a reaction by dressing a boy up in the girliest outfit you can find.

I wouldn't because I don't see the point but I don't see the problem with op doing it. I didn't really dress my dd up in "cute" outfits* and wouldn't have if she'd been a ds because it just isn't something I'm interested in doing. My dd always wore babygros because I found them easy and they seemed comfortable, but plenty of people do dress their babies up in unnecessary clothes because they like the way it looks. I've seen lots of baby boys in those little tuxedo types costumes, and girls in fancy dresses with those headband things. The baby doesn't know or care what it's wearing as long as it's comfortable (although personally I think some of those outfits do look uncomfortable and restrictive and don't like the idea of them for that reason).

It's hardly going to scar him for life. It's just putting him in an outfit that she thinks looks nice. I don't understand some of the replies on this thread.

*Apart from this one fluffy babygro that had bear ears on the hood. That was cute.

And the comments saying op is forcing him to wear a dress etc... Isn't that what every parent does when they put their baby in a dress? Or in any item of clothing in fact. Little babies don't tend to get a say on what they wear.

I will put my son in one, let's leave it as it is now.

I don't understand, if you were always going to put him in a dress 👗 why did you create a thread asking that question??

IMO I think putting a baby boy in a dress is wrong in so many ways, if you want nice boys clothing I suggest you try BonPoint DS was dressed in it until he was three.

And yet Prince Charles was put in dresses frilly and all and no one batted an eyelid. He is in a white frilly ruffly dress in the first photo I published.

I bet the Queen didnt think Im going to deliberately dress my boy in the girliest outfit I can find for official portraits and watch the reaction: it was normal!

How is it such a wild statement now? What happened?

I wouldn't but then I wouldn't put a daughter in a dress either if I had one. If you want to, crack on. He won't give a shit. If you were doing it to a 1 year old I'd say yabu. Not fair to confuse them when they are developing their identity etc. Different if they ask for it though

Poor child.

Don't think anyone gives a shit what clothes you buy your baby. Wonder why you started a thread about it thouhh

Though

OP: AIBU

Many Posters: YABU

OP: No I'm not BU! Now go away and leave me to do what I was always going to do anyway

I think you'll find a dress is one of the most 'gender identifying' items of clothing there is.

If you want to argue find another thread??? well why did you post in the first place?

What ShuttyTown said.

A dress does have a gender identity hence why they're always in the WOMENS section of the clothes shop, and why you've felt the need to start a ridiculous post about why you want to put your boy in one. If it was usual you'd just do it, dresses would be found in both men's and women's sections of clothes shops, and you'd see grown men walking around wearing dresses like women do trousers.

I just don't understand how some people's brains work.

Why the hell did you post if you didn't want to hear people's views?

For the record, YABU.

Why not? All babies used to wear dresses until relatively recently. I put my 6 week old ds in a reindeer Onesie - I'm not sure he would have been remotely bothered if it'd been a dress.

oogle Because the OP wanted confirmation of their own awesomeness and congratulating on smashing gender norms.
When they haven't got thay they've just become defensive and started replying to 'productive' posts thanking them aka thank you for agreeing with my decision because I'm clearly after validation for my decision that is all about me

If I knew of someone dressing a baby boy in girls dresses I'd think it rather odd. If your son asked for a dress as a toddler etc I'd say crack on with it but prepare him to be questioned, made fun off etc. I cannot see for the life of me what can be gained by sticking a baby boy in a dress. It'll only lead to confusion and people will start to question your mental health!