To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

So in the time I've been asleep the OP has now brought in homophobia as well, suggested ladybirds a feminine and others hace made reference to 'boy/girl' traits like holding in emotions. They are not the same thing.

Most people on this thread aren't in favour of promoting stereotypical views of gender. They just don't see that a parent dressing a biologically male child in a stereotypically feminine dress does anything to challenge it (other than for the parent to come granulated themselves on being open minded).
Bringing up children playing with a range of toys and to have a range of traits, including boys being able to talk about feelings, does more to challenge gender stereotypes than putting a boy in a dress with the claim of 'I don't think he should be bound by gender'. If anything, this thread is being driven by the OP's gender stereotypes and in places just reinforces them.

That's weird and crazy

Please don't!

I never can never fathom why anyone would put a child under 6 months in anything other than babygrows - far too much effort imo
Never got MN obsession with baby grows. Complicated to do up all the poppers and dont look attractive. Had loads of nice out fits that were comfortable for babies including dresses for dd. You wonder how parents managed before the invention of babygrows

Well I see your point of view - we only wear what fashion/society dictates. Historically boys wore smocks until they were 'breeched' www.vam.ac.uk/moc/collections/boys-dress/ What about a romper? More practical than a dress still cute?

Poor OP has worn himself out and is probably having a lovely nap, snuggled up with HIS fantasy.

A little story - I had 2 girls followed by 3 boys, so there were always girls' toys around. My husband bought my eldest son an action man when he was about 3 - I was horrified at the thought of glorifying war/killing, so I removed all the knives/guns. When my son received the action man 'doll', he kissed it, said 'oh my baby' and then pulled up his t-shirt and proceeded to pretend to breastfeed it! lol Much to my husband's horror! He is now a very loving daddy to his little girl who loves football.
Another one of my sons loved to wear my high heeled shoes, tried on my bra, let his sister put makeup on him and put bobbles in his hair, asked for tea parties with all the 'special' china, just like his sisters. Now 19 is gorgeous with curly, blonde long hair, a goatee and a girlfriend!

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I'm pretty sure babies are meant to be in is baby grow type affairs!! Not dresses or trousers and tops.

If you want to be gender neutral put him in white babygros...why a dress? Sick of this gender crap he is a boy when he gets older and can make up his own mind let him....he may well identify as female who knows the choice should be his not yours.

Op why even ask if you're being unreasonable when you're so sure you're not?

You clearly have issues and you're projecting them onto your son. Frankly it's bonkers to put a 10 week old boy in a dress. You either wish you'd had a girl or you're trying to make a point.

Whose best interests do you have in mind here?

Society's?

Your son's?

Or your own?

I have every sympathy with your gender issues but you are projecting them onto your male baby whilst trying to pass them off as how challenging social norms you are. It also sounds as though you are disappointed your baby is male.

Actually I think little babies look stupid in dresses. They don't look cute. They look ludicrous and it looks as though the parent is desperate to show everyone they have had a girl. They look cute and squishy and gorgeous in baby gros.

Are your friends concerned about your behaviour?

YABU

DS wore princesses dresses when he was three because he loved them and asked to wear them.

A newborn has made no such request. You are doing this for you not your child. If he wants one later get him one.

For now, if you don't subscribe to gender stereo typing dress him in neutral clothing - which is pretty much most things bar a dress.

Personally I'm very blue for a boy and pink for a girl I like to make their genders known but that's ME that's what I like to do!

Ironically when I had my DS there were such lovely girl clothes around but never once did it cross my mind to dress him in any, my DP wouldn't have approved anyway.

Makes me wonder what does your OH think of this?

I fail to understand why you're actually posting on this thread op because instead of taking on board what other posters are saying you seem to be adamant that you want to put your DS in a dress anyway. But you've sparked up quite a debate here too.

I'd say no to the dress, but each to their own and you're probably going to put him in one anyway.

Also if you do put him in a dress please don't take a picture. The embarrassment he'll feel looking back at a picture when he's older...🙈

Can I ask, what does your sons father think of this?

If you're trying to avoid raising your child as gender confirming, which I think is very admirable, then why put him in "gendered" clothes at all? I had a friend like this and she didn't buy blue or pink, she got neutral eveyrthing. I respected her a lot for this. She didn't have a song and a dance about her son wearing a dress. That's why I think you're making a point, rather than genuinely wanting to challenge the gendered status quote.

FFS

Exactly truecolours

If someone wants to challenge gender stereotypes then gender neutral and unisex clothing is the way to go, not stick them in the girliest dress they can find. That's why I think things like this are more about parents trying to make a statement about how enlightened they are.

There's more going on for you op. Also suffered a horribly traumatic birth experience. Speak to a gp.

No sounds like your doing it for yourself rather than your child.

What does DS's other parent think?

I'm amazed at how many people think babies should only be in babygrows!!

Honestly, get him a dress, I see plenty of little lads wearing one for their Christening etc. No big deal really?

This entire thread is utterly bizarre.

From what I can gather, OP may be in a same sex relationship (made reference to people thinking partner was a man). Wishes she were born male for reasons unknown. Wants to put male child in a dress for, well tbh, reasons I haven't yet fathomed. Asks if they're being unreasonable yet refuses to accept they might be.

Thoroughly confused as to the point of the post.

OP, if you want to put a 10 week old boy in a dress, ask if YBU then claim not to care, just put him in a fucking dress and have done with it instead of bleating about being gender stereotypes and whining on MN.

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This thread is making my head hurt...

op I'm pretty sure gay men don't walk around in womans clothing, as you stated in a previous comment...