To buy my DS a dress?

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I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

No, I wish I was born as a boy....however to be one I'd have to change gender, I don't want to do that, it's far too much upheaval.

It's clear I was made a woman for a reason, I accept that reason & don't think about the whole gender thing !

Don't think about the whole gender thing?

This entire bloody thread is about the whole gender thing!

Dear me!

Me I mean!

I would appreciate it should people stop mentioning that now, it's something I don't discuss with family or friends as it's something I cannot change.

I find it very offensive to be told I've lost the plot because of my gender/sex

Yabu
It would be Making a statement all about you.

I dress him in daily outfits he had because I find them to make him look absolutely adorable.

Op it really does sound as though you're trying to express yourself through your child and to be honest I don't think it's incredibly healthy

OP you are a hypocrite. Do whatever you want but don't get pissy when people question it.

So your projecting your own issues into your child?

You not making any sense whatsoever is why I said you'd lost the plot, OP. Don't try to turn this into something it isn't.

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap

So if you really thought like that you'd surely put your baby in gender neutral stuff like babygros!
Putting a 10 week old boy in dresses is surely reinforcing that you DO believe in genders otherwise you'd be keeping it unisex.
Oh and where are all these boys happily wearing dresses as a normal thing, as I only ever see it in Mumsnet Land.....

I know a lady who has decided that her pre-teen child is trans. She also recently changed his name and despite the relevant professionals advising her that there is no indication that her child is trans she has insisted this is the case to his detriment. It's sad really

What do you want from us, OP?
I never dressed my ds in a dress. I hardly ever dressed my dds in dresses. Admittedly Ds wire a Christening robe (the family one) to his christening, and he gets embarrassed looking at the pictures now.
Do whatever the hell you want. I can assure you, no one else cares. Some people might raise eyebrows, but obviously that is what you want. But your "statement" will be lost on most people. Because most people really don't care how you dress your baby. Really, they dont. He might, though, when he gets older, but that won't affect anyone but you two. So go ahead. No one else is really that bothered.

I express myself through MYSELF NOT my son.

He is his own person, he makes sure I know that (yes he's only 10 weeks old) regularly.

Say what you like, I honestly don't care anymore, I used to, not anymore

My dad wore a dress until about 3 apparently. I'm told that back then (1920s) it was supposed to stop boys becoming naughty.

Then I'm off to buy all the dresses I can find!!

It's a strange one, isn't it? I'm all for abolishing gender entirely. But even I would be a little reluctant to put a boy in a dress. Bound by a convention that I disagree with. Hmmm.

But it's probably because I wouldn't want people to say anything negative about my PFB.

But if the OP wants to be a trailblazer, then all credit to her.

I just have a feeling that that is not really what the OP wants.

Are you in a same sex relationship? I'm not sure if I'm allowed to say lesbian or gay

You do seem a tad over invested in dressing him - literally dress-ing him as a daughter

I have no idea what my point is. But why make such massive thing out of it?

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Aibu?
Unanimous yabu

Wah stomp SHOUT

Lol, I always wonder why people ask if they're unreasonable when they clearly don't want to hear other opinions and just be told that of course they're right!
It's like, why post in the first place if you're so convinced you're right?
Just crack on then!

LOL

Exactly! And now I want 🧀

You say you wish you were born a boy and you seem to wish your son were born a girl. Or, you are a woman who wants to be a man to give the middle finger to "gender society crap." You want to put a dress on your baby son at ten weeks old because of said crap.

You're taking your feelings about yourself and your anger at society out on your baby son. It would be different if he were older and he wanted to without you or others influencing him. You shouldn't steer your child in either direction, let him be his own person as he grows.

I never can never fathom why anyone would put a child under 6 months in anything other than babygrows - far too much effort imo

And I never bought dull clothes for my boys there are plenty of lovely bright and interesting colours out there - my "thing" was stripes I loved brightly coloured stripy stuff.

Although to be honest, from the age of 5 my oldest only ever wore school uniform or sports kit interspersed with a bit of thunderbirds and captain Scarlett.

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You sound deranged OP.

I wouldn't put any baby in a dress, boy or girl.

You sound overly invested in gender.

Buy yourself a doll if you need some play time.

Op dress your son how you want.

I have no issue with that. However your posts do suggest something else is going on.

The victorian era has gone. Your argument about what happend years ago is irrelevant.

You do seem to be struggling with gender in general. We all do to some degree. I just think you should explore your feelings, around this issue, more. It also seems you spend alot of time thinking about how others percieve you. Life gets easier when you learn to not worry so much about that.

Personally, as the mother of a daughter and son, i wouldnt dress babies in dresses. I dressed neither of mine in them.